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Men and women are different from each other. Not just the area between the legs, but especially between the ears. As a result, men and women have different ways of expressing themselves and what they feel, which is understandably foreign to the opposite sex. Why do women never go to the toilet alone and what do men like so much about football? Men have a lot of questions about women and vice versa.
It is why the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” has been a bestseller for more than 25 years. Even if you don’t know the book, chances are you are familiar with the title of the book. The premise of the book is that women and men come from different planets and that communication problems cannot be prevented. One of the classic situations that shows the difference between men and women goes as follows.
It is Friday. After a long working week, you are ready for the weekend. Once you get home, sit down for dinner so you can quickly move on to the poker night with your friends. Your girlfriend seems a bit distant and quiet; you ask if there is something wrong. “No, there is nothing.” You insist again that she can tell you everything, but again you are told that there is nothing.
“Is she feeling a bit sick or has she had a tiring day?”
After dinner you leave to play broke with your friends, but somehow you know this isn’t over yet. While playing cards you think about the saying ‘play cards openly’ and wonder why your girlfriend doesn’t just do that.
Once you get home, the high word comes out; “We were supposed to spend more time together and now you’re playing cards with your friends!”
Why do women say nothing is wrong when clearly something is?
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1. She hasn’t decided yet
There is a reason for saying that nothing is wrong when it clearly is. The first reason is that she may not have figured it out completely yet. She may be feeling something that is not clear to her yet, or not clear enough to tell you.
Is it her fault or is it a valid reason to get angry? Or maybe she knows exactly what’s going on but doesn’t know how to deliver the news yet.
2. She doesn’t want to come across as a nag
Women whine; most men seem to agree that this is an unavoidable characteristic of the female personality. Because men stereotype women in this way, women have become more careful not to get this nasty label. She doesn’t tell you directly what’s wrong, but lets you know indirectly by playing the there-is-nothing card.
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3. She has to process it first
Maybe you said something wrong and you didn’t even realize it. You have emphasized her curves when you should know that she is already so dissatisfied with them. To prevent you from being attacked with a knife and fork at the dinner table, she makes the wise choice to first count to ten and calm down. She says there’s nothing so she can address you later in a mature manner.
4. She hopes it will resolve itself
In every relationship there are differences of opinion. The difference is that the people in all these relationships deal with it in different ways. You can say what is wrong and create a difference of opinion, but experience shows that you can also just say nothing.
Some problems disappear on their own. If a woman says that there really is nothing wrong, then it is possible that she hopes that the problem will solve itself.
5. She doesn’t want to say it (yet)
The problem with the question “what’s wrong?” is that for many people, not just women, it’s a reason to block. The caring question is a reason for them to build a wall, resulting in the typical “nothing” answer.
By asking this question, it is assumed that there is something wrong with the feelings she has. The same thing happens when you meet someone on the street and ask “how are you”. Even if someone has a splitting headache, in almost all cases you will hear that “things are fine”.
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6. She doesn’t want to repeat herself
Maybe she’s told you to put the toilet seat down 20 times and it just doesn’t seem to sink in. The problem is familiar; the toilet seat issue isn’t going to be the cause of another fight. She’s already talked to you about the problem and she doesn’t expect the 21st time to make sense.
At some point, not being listened to can be extremely frustrating and a total waste of your time. She gives up and reluctantly accepts it.
7. She never learned to express herself
In some families, expressing yourself in a certain way is not acceptable. Perhaps your girlfriend grew up in a family where you were expected to keep your feelings to yourself. If you notice that your girlfriend often avoids disagreements by saying “nothing” or ignoring you , this could be a reason. She may never have learned how to express herself in a healthy way in a relationship.
8. She wants your attention
Pretending that there is something but saying that there is nothing may be part of a game she is playing. It’s a way to manipulate you and gain power in a fairly simple way.
If she keeps you guessing what the problem is, you’re spending all your energy on her when there might be nothing wrong at all. She gets your full attention because she knows you keep thinking about what is going on with her.
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9. She doesn’t want to argue
If you have every reason to believe that you will end up in a heated and possibly even violent argument if you express your opinion, would you tell the truth or say that nothing is wrong?
Although she may not be able to completely hide her worries or anger, it is her choice not to tell, to avoid a difficult situation. A milder form of this reason is that she does not want to get advice from you again.
10. There’s really nothing wrong
Sometimes it seems like she ’s not interested in you anymore but in reality, nothing is wrong. Maybe she really had a hard day at work or she’s a little sick but nothing significant. It’s good that you ask how she’s doing but sometimes, nothing is wrong.
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