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Although we often know better, we are all looking for that prince on a white horse who is as charming as he is loving, and as courteous as he is sensible. We are looking for a man who can love us, and who puts us first. If possible, there is no hint of evil in him and he meets all the characteristics of the: good guy , that of the ideal partner, buddy, father, and son-in-law all in one.
However, there are fewer and fewer men who meet that ideal image and there are a number of reasons for this that are not solely due to men. In this article, we will discuss 8 reasons with you, but of course we fervently hope that you can prove the opposite and still find the good guy. Read on quickly and find out why the good guy is so hard to find.
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8 Reasons Why the Good Guy Doesn’t Seem to Exist
Let’s get straight to the point: it’s hard to find a man who meets the ideal image of women anyway, so it’s also important to be realistic at all times in your search for a new partner. Also, times are very different today, and men are different than they used to be .
About 50 years ago you married your childhood sweetheart, but today we prefer to experiment before we tie the knot with someone. This brings us to one of the first and most important reasons:
1. Increasingly preferring dating over relationships
Because actually, dating has replaced the urge for relationships. Nowadays, you can jump into bed with someone without it being a taboo. Add to that all the dating apps and you understand why we are becoming more and more superficial when we meet new people. Men, not even the good guys , prefer to get to know several women first, before they stick with one. At least for now. And ‘now’ is of course never convenient.
2. People have too many options
It ties in a bit with the point we made above. While it can be very nice to have the necessary options in life, it can be bad (read: too much temptation) if there are too many options. At any given moment, a man can meet people these days via the abundance of dating apps and even for making sexual appointments there are specific apps available. Now try to tame that man after a few wild dates. It’s going to be difficult, we can already predict.
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3. Many ‘good guys’ are waiting for something better
It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can actually get a little fascinated by the idea that there might be something better around the corner . Even the good guys are weighing their options first and are therefore a little more hesitant to fully commit to a particular woman. Now, we’re not saying that there is a “better option” than a great woman like you, but still, men are evaluation types too.
4. Marriage is becoming obsolete
There was a time when people couldn’t wait to get married. While back then it was probably also due to the fact that couples could finally have sex, the reality is that people are in no hurry to get married these days. In fact, for many people marriage is outdated and being together is already enough responsibility. No good guy who gets down on his knees to propose to you. At least, not yet. And that makes him a bit lazier.
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5. Some men feel intimidated by powerful women
Compared to the beginning of the last century, women are more independent than ever and that is all to be applauded. However, this development can be somewhat intimidating for some men for some reason. They want to be in control, because a good guy does not necessarily mean that we are talking about a wimp or a wimp. In the end, good guys also just want to feel masculine and that sometimes means that they are not interested in a woman with too strong an opinion.
6. Technology has created distance
How can anyone ever find a good guy when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our smartphones? For women to find a good guy, they need to pay attention to him. Are you with someone you consider to be the ideal man? Then pay attention to him and put your phone down . Women tend to be more likely to pick up their phones than men, so take a look at yourself too — if that’s what you’re into.
7. Good guys aren’t direct enough
Good guys are tender, cheerful, sweet, pure, innocent, but sometimes a little bit… well, hesitant. In some cases they are even a bit boring and that has to do with the fact that they don’t dare to take risks. In some cases you could even link that to the fact that they may have a little less self-confidence than the average man. The hesitant nature of good guys is of course not beneficial in finding a permanent relationship.
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8. Sometimes we just want a bad boy
Maybe you’ve had both: a sweet good guy and a tough bad boy . Maybe you started out with the bad boy, only to find out it wasn’t really your thing, only to end up with the complete opposite: the good guy.
Does this sound familiar? Then it could be that you sometimes have the tendency towards a bad boy. In fact, you would prefer a combination of sometimes a good guy, and sometimes a bad boy. Or is that just asking a bit too much?
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