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No date is the same. Sometimes it is a lively and interesting conversation, other times it is a disappointing experience. One time you laugh incessantly at the other’s jokes, while the next time you would rather cry. It is difficult to predict how a date will go .
What you can predict is that every date has a beginning and an end. At some point, the check will be on the table and then you will walk to the exit. If you are not interested in a sequel, you instinctively know that you should leave. But if you are interested in a sequel, what are your options? We will tell you about what to do after the first date.
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9 Ideas for Things to Do After the First Date
Since ‘after the first date’ is defined quite broadly, we have divided this explanation. In one part we will tell you what you can do immediately after the date, for example if the first date cannot last long enough. In the second part we will explain what you can do when you have parted ways and are back home.
Directly on the date
Sometimes a date goes so well that you want to keep it going all day and night. This is the case, for example, when the wine is flowing and the conversation is interesting. While you are occupying the last table in the restaurant, you are thinking about what to do next. After all, there is no dating rule that says it has to stop there. The question is: what to do after the date?
Will you have a few more drinks in the restaurant, with the staff looking on as they close the night away? Or will you do something else? If you’re struggling to think of anything, we’ve got some ideas to keep the date going.
1. Go for a walk
Getting some fresh air and taking a walk together: this is the most popular choice for singles who don’t want their date to end. Take a walk through the streets or the nearest park and move the conversation outdoors. This is also a great way to find a more intimate place, to talk and… more.
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2. Visit the pub
A natural follow-up to dinner is the pub. You’ve both had a few drinks on your date, so it wouldn’t hurt to have a few more. Find a pub near where you’re at and keep the date going. Maybe there’s a live band playing somewhere so you can show off your dancing skills.
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3. Playing pool
Another activity is playing pool. Some bars have a pool table, but there are also pool halls in almost every city. It doesn’t matter if you are good at it, the important thing is to have fun. Playing pool is a quiet activity with plenty of opportunities to have a conversation while playing.
4. Watch the sunset
If the date took place in the early evening, you can watch the sunset together later in the summer evening. Choose a quiet spot, such as a park, to watch the sunset. If you live near the beach, this is even better. Take a walk on the beach beforehand and sit in the dunes as the sun slowly sets.
5. Go for coffee
Treat your date to a sobering coffee before you decide to go your separate ways for the night. Or if you’re feeling a bit braver, ask them to come back to your place for a cup of coffee. You never know, the night could go on much longer than originally planned.
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Later na de date
The first date is behind you and you feel pretty excited about how it went. The conversation and especially your conversation partner gave you a positive feeling. Only you are not entirely sure if it is mutual. If you want to know what you can do then, we have these ideas for you.
1. Don’t wait
According to movies and TV shows, we should wait at least a few days before contacting someone after a date. Trust us, don’t. It’s better not to wait at all if you want to see the other person again. In fact, research shows that if you like someone, you should message them… and do it quickly.
The study, which included 390 participants and took place in 2016, showed that women appreciate it when men reach out immediately after the first date. For men, the speed at which women respond to this message is a gauge of how interested they are. So if you’re interested in getting to know someone better , get to work on it right away.
2. Send a casual text
A quick “Thank you!” text never hurts after a date. It’s an easy way to start the conversation when you’re not sure where you stand, hoping the other person will give you a little more information. Let your date know that you had a great night and that it worked out for you. Here are some examples of how to resume the conversation via text:
- “I had a great time! Did you get home safely?”
- “Thank you for tonight!”
- “Hey, it was nice finally meeting you!”
3. Don’t pay attention to ‘rules’
There are no rules about who texts who first. If you’re a woman who believes that the man should text first on a date, keep in mind that the man doesn’t have to share that belief. Outdated dating norms may have dictated that the man should always make the first move, but that’s no longer the case. If you like someone, don’t waste your time checking your notifications – reach out if you’d like to see them again.
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4. Ask for the second date
The person who initiated the first date will usually also initiate the second date. But that is not a hard and fast rule. If you are not afraid of rejection, then you can make the proposal in the first message you send. For example, like this:
- “Tonight was so much fun. Should we schedule a second date?”
- “Hey, you were talking about that new Sushi restaurant. Want to try it out together on Saturday?”
- “Home already? You said you’re not good at cooking, do you want to try my delicious Indonesian chicken soup tomorrow?”
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