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One of your friends or family members has a burnout. Difficult, because you have no idea what they are going through, so how can you help them? Maybe you don’t understand it at all, you even find it a bit of an affectation. Everything is possible, but watch your words! Because there are things you really shouldn’t say to someone with a burnout.
1. “I know what you are going through right now”
Unless you have had a burnout or depression yourself, you probably have no idea what someone is going through. When you make this statement you indirectly cut off entrances to a conversation. Because the person with a burnout will think to themselves: “Man, you have no idea”. If you try to empathize, that’s actually a very good thing! But be careful with statements like “I know what you are going through right now”.
2. “ Don’t you just have to persevere, just put your shoulders to the wheel or get over it”
Someone with a burnout has probably picked themselves up 100 times, put their shoulders to the wheel and kept going. But they’ve done that a little too often, so it doesn’t work anymore. It is important that someone listens to his or her body and is kind to themselves for once. He’s already kicked himself enough in the ass, that’s often a reason why he’s in this situation now and completely burned out.
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3. “Maybe you should try to learn from your mistakes and do things differently in the future.”
Well, that is indeed a good idea. But someone with a burnout is probably already very hard on himself and has replayed the mistakes he has made many times in his head. Even so often that it is no longer healthy. So even if you want to help by saying this, it’s better not to express it this way. Because, and even if you don’t mean it that way, in this way you confirm that he or she has done it all wrong in the past and has therefore failed.
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4 .“Sorry to interrupt you, but..”
Don’t listen because you are looking for an opening in the conversation to give your opinion. Listen. Listen to everything someone wants to tell you. That person probably already feels embarrassed because he or she thinks you think it’s a strange story. So by just listening without judging you can help someone so much.
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