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Self-love is often not that beautiful or easy at all. Self-love means that you make an Excel overview of your debts, it means that you have a morning routine in the morning, that you cook healthy meals for yourself and that you no longer run away from your problems.
Often it is not the things you most enjoy doing, such as going to the gym in the evening when you are actually just sitting on the couch, ending that one friendship because it is not good for you or accepting that extra job to grow your savings account. It’s figuring out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything to everyone. It’s taking time for yourself to take a warm bath or read a book with a big piece of chocolate.
It is actually very bad that we live in a time when so much is expected of us that we have to consciously pay attention to self-love or self-care . Self-love is the last thing you should skip, even if you are exhausted from everything and too tired to think about it.
True self-love does not mean taking a hot bath every now and then and allowing yourself a chocolate bar, self-love is choosing to create a life that you do not have to regularly recover from or flee from.
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To create this life you have to do things you don’t really want to do. Often it means that you have to face your mistakes and disappointments and come up with a different strategy. It means that you don’t always get what you want right away. It is letting go, it is choosing new unknown things. But it also means that you sometimes disappoint people or that you make sacrifices for others.
Self-love means being who you are. That your ultimate goal in life is not to have abs or to be around superficial people.
Self-love has sometimes almost become a buzzword that you are expected to be good at. Because did you prepare a beautiful acai bowl or a green smoothie this morning? And are the candles you just lit completely organic or are they that mass-produced junk? These are the things I struggle with when I order a pizza in my sweatpants again, under the guise of self-love…
Amil Niazi.
Buying things for yourself and making yourself happy in the short term has more to do with treating yourself and giving in to commercial temptations than it has to do with self-love. Because self-love means that you are in control of yourself and that you make choices that are good for you in the long term.
It also means that you no longer use your busy and chaotic life as an argument for not taking good care of yourself. It means learning to try to take care of yourself. It means you become the hero of your life, instead of the victim. Choosing a life that feels good instead of choosing a life that looks beautiful from the outside. Being honest with yourself and others, which means not everyone will like you and finding out that this is not so bad after all.
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It means that you become the person that you have been deep inside for a long time. Someone who knows that a hot bath and a piece of chocolate are ways to enjoy life, not escape from life.
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