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Nowadays there are many different terms to name the different relationship statuses. Maybe it is also something from the past, that wanting to give a term to such a status still happens now. But nowadays everything is much freer and many more and other terms than courtship and relationship have been added. The situations may be the same, but only now have they given a specific name to it.
There are so many terms that people can’t see the wood for the trees. Because what do you call a relationship that is not a fling and what is a fling ? Terms like kwarrel, barrel, prela and rela are used and that can be quite confusing if you don’t know what it means. All very complicated. Need an explanation of what exactly is what?
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Fear of naming it
The reason there are so many terms is mainly because there is a fear of naming it. Maybe you are not exclusive with someone and are just having a good time, or maybe it is more serious but you haven’t told your parents yet – so it’s not “official” yet.
There are also many situations to think of and it is sometimes difficult to give it the right name. If it is called a relationship, certain responsibilities come into play. Also, calling it a relationship means that you can lose your freedom. Furthermore, there is also the fear that the other person will hurt you and that is why you are more careful with these kinds of terms.
For many couples, naming the relationship is quite a step. It is a threshold that has to be crossed, but it still takes a while before this finally happens. Nowadays you see couples in love walking around, they see each other several times a week, but they really don’t have a relationship. What do you call this and why is it not a relationship?
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New names, familiar situations
Quite a few new terms or names have been added that describe familiar situations. Kwarrel, barrel, prela, rela. These are situations that have existed for quite some time, but have been given new names. It may be very confusing when you first encounter this terminology, although it does not have to be that confusing at all.
If you have found someone, it will all be self-explanatory, and you won’t even need the terms for it. It’s more the way the people around you call your relationship. You probably won’t worry about it as much as they do. You’ll be mostly with your head in the clouds, trying to figure out if you’ve really found your dream man or dream woman.
What is a quail?
One of the relatively newer terms that has surfaced in relation to relationships, or the lack thereof, is kwarrel. A kwarrel is a combination of the words ‘quality’ and ‘scharrel’. So it is exactly that: a quality fling that shows potential for the real thing. Someone you can see yourself having a relationship with in the future.
It is someone you regularly share a bed with and are together with several times a week. It is also someone you can already have good conversations with and who you have gotten to know a bit better. That is also the reason why you can estimate that it is potential relationship material.
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The barrel…
There are two more words that are distortions of scharrel , or at least derived from it. The ‘barrel’ is also someone you see regularly, but with whom you are really only after one thing: the physical part. This is not someone you will eventually enter into a relationship with, but for the time being it is a good candidate to entertain yourself with. With a barrel there is no hope that the person will become relationship material.
Another type of fling is a ‘twarrel’: a doubt fling. This is someone you are not exclusive with, who you meet sometimes, who you have no feelings for and who you are not sure is or will become relationship material.
What is a prela?
Once you have found a quail, and this has been going on for a while, it is time for the ‘prela’: the pre-relationship phase. At least if you believe that your quail is actually someone you can have a relationship with. The ‘prela’ comes after the quail and before the relationship. If you are both convinced that you are suitable for a relationship, it is time for the prela phase. This is a kind of practice for the real thing.
It’s just like a regular relationship, except that you don’t call it a relationship and don’t tell your parents and family yet. That way it stays a bit under the radar, it’s not really official yet, although your friends probably already know. By seeing each other more often in the prela phase, you can find out if you are indeed relationship material – and then cut the knot. Of course, that’s something you do together.
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To rela…
Then comes the final decision. At this point in the relationship, you know each other well enough to know exactly what you have in common. You now know whether it is true that you are both suitable for a relationship. The term ‘rela’ is in fact another word for relationship. Not as exciting as you might have thought? If you have made it through all these phases, up to ‘rela’, you have already come a long way.
So it’s not all that confusing as it might seem. You go from kwarrel, to prela to rela. It just depends on how far you get and what your relationship can withstand. Sometimes you find out that it’s not what you’re looking for, in other cases you’re surprised.
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