Take for Granted? 13 Signs You’re Being Taken for Granted

Keeping a relationship healthy? Everyone knows that’s a complicated task. It is not a stable path to happiness. It is a road with interruptions, obstacles, highs and lows, but also with ups and downs . It never follows a straight path, and more often than not, there are tricky turns to take.

One of the ways to go off track in a relationship is to take each other for granted after a while. You take each other for granted. That’s the moment when you expect things from each other instead of appreciating it. Epicureans say it all the time: “…enjoy the little things in life.” But what if you enjoy the things your partner does for you, but show no gratitude for them? Then you take each other for granted.

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What is taking for granted?

When you say someone takes you for granted, you are complaining that they are taking advantage of your help, efforts or presence without showing gratitude. You are never thought of because it is thought that you will always be available or will remain exactly the same. You are taken for granted.

What do you want?

” Everyone talks about themselves, but what do YOU ​​want? Ask yourself these 999 questions: look ahead, express wishes, ask for feedback, give yourself grades. “

Loving gestures and sweet things you do for your partner turn into expectations and demands. Your partner has let go of insecurity through all your love; you are a keeper. And when your partner starts to believe that you will never leave him or her, the romance takes a turn for the worse and they feel that there is no need to put in any effort anymore. And that is the moment when you are taken for granted.

Being taken for granted is an unpleasant but natural form of compliment . You are so reliable and loyal to your partner that he assumes you will always be there. Ironically, the more trustworthy you are, the more likely you are to be taken for granted.

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13 Signs You’re Being Taken for Granted

Do you feel like your partner doesn’t appreciate everything you do for them? Are you being ignored, while your partner reacts indifferently to your emotions? Or does the love really feel, but all the little things you do every day go unnoticed? It could mean that your partner is taking you for granted. Here are 13 signs that you are being taken for granted.

1. No time is made available for you

You look forward to your day off, because you are going to do something fun with your partner. But for some reason, plans like this always fail. It’s as if they care about it, as if they don’t want it and would rather do something else.

2. Your partner forgets you

Your birthday, wedding anniversary and other non-annual special days; it just doesn’t seem to bother your partner, because it is always forgotten. It happens so often, that you have to remind him or her remarkably often. Because otherwise it will be forgotten again.

3. Your partner is not interested in your life

Day after day you come home from work and there is no one to discuss your struggles in the workplace with. Your partner is there, but he is too busy with his own things. Your partner doesn’t even take the time to ask how your day was. If it’s about everyday things, it’s about what your partner has been through, not you.

4. You make all the plans

Are you the only one making plans? Whether it’s what to eat, date nights , vacations, and travel, your partner doesn’t show any initiative? Even if your partner isn’t the type to figure things out or plan, this is a sign that you’re being taken for granted.

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5. Your partner doesn’t listen to you

Your partner constantly forgets what you say. Putting the garbage out? Call childcare for a new appointment? Or make a choice from the wall colors you sent by email? Even if you remind your partner several times, it won’t stick. This kind of behavior shows how low you are on the priority list.

6. Mistakes are not admitted

Over the years, it seems like your partner’s ego has grown bigger and bigger. Where you used to get an apology with a gift, you now get the back turned. Your partner no longer admits to mistakes made , even if he or she was wrong. And that is often because your partner is used to getting what he or she wants.

7. You don’t have the highest priority

For many people it is self-evident to spend more time with their partner than with their friends. However, if your partner spends more time with friends than with you – even though you could be having a great time – it could be a sign that you are not being appreciated as you should be.

8. Your partner is not afraid of losing you

Meeting a colleague of the opposite sex? No problem. Going out with friends while tipsy? No one complains. If you are taken for granted, your partner will assume that you will always be there for him or her. Even when you are faced with temptations.

9. Nothing is special anymore

The sweetest gestures are received as if it were “normal”. Not extreme joy, but no joy at all. Your gifts may even be rejected because they are not the right color. Even when you do something special , it is not seen as special. Your partner sees it more as your responsibility to do that.

10. Your sacrifices are trivialized

Moved to another city for your sweetheart? Have you quit your favorite sport to spend more time with your partner? It would be a nightmare for your partner. These sacrifices are downplayed, minimized and waved away by your partner as something that is ‘part of it’. And if you bring it up, it means nothing that you did.

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11. Your messages are not being answered

You text, text and call, but no response. While you know that they are not at work or busy with something. They are busy with something else – no matter how unimportant – and that is why they do not give you a response. Or when you ask a question, you get no answer. It seems like your partner has become indifferent.

12. You think your partner doesn’t care about you anymore

What happens when you take someone for granted is that you stop making an effort to show that you appreciate them. When you are taken for granted, you notice. The lack of appreciation makes it seem like your partner does n’t care about you . It’s that gut feeling, your instinct.

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13. You want to be treated better

You not only want to be treated better, you believe you deserve it. Just like above, it’s a feeling you get when you’re taken for granted. You get the feeling that you deserve better. And let’s be honest, your gut feeling is rarely wrong.

Does your partner love you or are they taking you for granted? These signs tell you that your partner is taking you for granted. And if they are, no one can change that but you. Because if they don’t appreciate your presence, maybe they care about your absence.

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