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Christmas is a time of festive cheer, good food and cosiness. But not for everyone. For some people, such as singles, Christmas is not the most enjoyable time of the year. With the increased feeling of loneliness and the awkward ‘Do you have someone yet?’ questions from family, the holidays bring up all sorts of emotions. That’s why it can be quite difficult to survive Christmas when you’re single.
Despite the fact that the holidays are painted as a magical time to spend with loved ones, it can be a miserable time for singles. Especially when they are alone. Having no plans while others are making it all fun can be a real torture.
10 Ways to ‘Survive’ Christmas
Various studies show that a large proportion of singles are reluctant to look forward to Christmas. Some studies even show that half of them are not looking forward to it at all. If you consider yourself to be part of this group, we have a few tips for you.
1. Don’t believe the story
As soon as the holidays come around, the romantic Christmas movies come out again. The scripts of the movies are slightly different each time, but the story is the same: being alone at Christmas is sad. We see awkward conversations with family members about being single and difficult questions about life choices. Some movies take it a step further and ask people to act as partners – just to fool families.
The question is, are you really unhappy if you’re single during the holidays? Since when did others decide that you should be unhappy during Christmas? Although you may feel lonelier than usual during this time, don’t expect it to be an unbearable experience. It rarely is.
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2. Don’t get stuck in self-pity
For some, being single during the holidays can feel more like a fight for survival than a joyous holiday. However, that’s no reason to get stuck in an unhappy emotional state. You may be single again this holiday season, but that doesn’t mean you have to torture yourself with a constant stream of negative thoughts. Because if you get stuck in a state of self-pity, you’re bound to spiral downward.
Try to distract yourself from the feeling. Bring yourself to other thoughts. As soon as you notice that your thoughts are wandering, focus on something else. Watch a movie or series, call someone or go do some sports: do something that can occupy your thoughts.
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3. Set boundaries
Every year you’re faced with that one annoying question: “Why are you still single?” And every year you want to throw the fondue dish across the room because it has to be over with these confrontational questions. When family members start making comments about your relationship status , make it clear once and for all that such statements will no longer be tolerated. Set a boundary: “From now on, my relationship status will never be a topic of conversation again.”
4. Stay with the people you love
Being single has the advantage that you don’t have to split Christmas in two. No obligatory day with your in-laws and only spending time with the ones you love. So see Christmas as an opportunity to be in the company of the ones you love. When you realize the advantages of being single , it’s no longer a question of survival – it’s more a question of enjoying it to the fullest.
5. Go on a date
Just because you’re single when the holidays start doesn’t mean you have to end the holidays single. A lot can happen in a week. In fact, Christmas is traditionally the best time to date on a dating app . If you find yourself unintentionally single during the holidays, it’s good to know that many others don’t want to be single either.
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6. Look at the bright side
It’s easy to think about a lonely Christmas . But that’s completely ignoring the fact that being single has some unique advantages. You don’t have to worry about what gift your partner will give you. You can talk to whoever you want without being distracted by the attention your partner demands. And most importantly, you can go wherever and whenever you want.
7. Get out
For some people, Christmas is not the problem, but the days around it. Being home alone is what they hate. If you really can’t handle surviving Christmas at home, take the opportunity to spend the ‘lonely period’ with other singles. Go for a 5-day winter sports holiday for singles or celebrate Christmas in a villa with a fun group of like-minded singles.
8. Gather your single friends
You’re not the only person you know who is single, are you? Christmas is the perfect time to seek each other out and go out together. If you think that others might not be open to that, the reactions will surprise you. Because there is a big chance that they – just like you – would rather do something fun than hang out on the couch alone.
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9. Don’t be the only single at the party
If you think that being the only single person at the party will bother you, bring a friend who is also single. It is the best way to avoid a lonely moment, for example when all the other couples are looking for each other for a photo.
10. Realize that Christmas will be over soon
As difficult as some times can be, they are temporary. After the rain comes the sun. There is life after Christmas. After all, it is only two days you have to survive, it is not a prison sentence for years.
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