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“Valentine’s Day? I don’t do that.” “Day of love? You mean turnover day, invented by multinationals to squeeze even more money out of consumers?” “I tell her every day how much I love her.”
Could one of these statements be one of yours? For many men, Valentine’s Day is nothing more or less than commercial BS . To them, Valentine’s Day is a day for fools, designed by companies that want you to buy their stuff. And the worst part is: women play along.
“If he empties the dishwasher every now and then, I’m happy.” “He thinks it’s nonsense, and I like him the way he is.” “That slimy stuff isn’t for us.”
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No gift?
Both men and women have gotten the idea that Valentine’s Day is all about money. They think that showing affection doesn’t have to be limited to one day a year. Plus, you shouldn’t have to spend a ton of money to express your love . And so the women say, “I don’t want a gift for Valentine’s Day.” But does that really mean that they don’t want anything at all?
It is one of the burning questions that men have when Valentine’s Day is around the corner. Do I buy a gift or do I really not have to buy anything?
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What experience teaches
Don’t give her anything when she says she doesn’t want a gift for Valentine’s Day. What could go wrong? A lot. If you ask most men, they’ll tell you it’s a trap. A woman says she doesn’t want a gift, but she means something else. Because if you don’t give her a gift, you’ll get the silent treatment. “What’s wrong?” “Nothing!” Or if you’re lucky, you’ll get a short period of passive aggressive behavior.
Is it a smart idea to buy that bottle of Opium Black? No, because although she really likes that scent, she has clearly said that she does not want a gift . It is sometimes not easy being a man. What does she want?
She wants something
When a woman says she doesn’t want a gift for Valentine’s Day, that’s exactly what the man hears: “I don’t want a gift.” But men and women think differently. So there’s a difference in interpretation in this simple sentence. She might not want a gift, but she does want something else.
She doesn’t want an 18 carat ring with a brilliant cut 0.25 crt diamond. She also doesn’t want a 14 carat white gold ring without an Instagram-worthy gemstone. In fact, she doesn’t want a ring or anything that costs a lot of money. So you don’t have to hide anything of value under her pillow so that she wakes up with her Valentine’s Day gift in her hands.
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But what then?
She doesn’t want a gift, but she does want you to show her that you appreciate her. That she is special to you and that you are willing to go the extra mile to make her feel that way. And that doesn’t have to cost hundreds of euros and you don’t have to buy a gift.
Minimal gestures of love and subtle expressions of affection that tell her you care about her : that’s what the woman wants on Valentine’s Day. Even if she doesn’t want a gift; she does want you to show that she matters. And that’s not that difficult at all:
- A handwritten love letter .
- A card with a personal text .
- Taking time off work early to cook an elaborate meal.
- Hire a babysitter and surprise her with a fun evening for the two of you.
These are all simple examples that show that you love her and are thinking about her. Because even if she doesn’t want anything, something is always better than nothing.
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