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Despite all the good and bad times, you love your partner and if it is up to you, it will stay that way for a while. Indeed, it’s a bit of a heavy start to this blog post, but that’s the topic.
We have entered a somewhat lesser phase when it comes to relationships. In fact, today we are going to talk about saving your relationship. Because despite all the fairy tales, love can sometimes be damn difficult.
It can also happen that things seem hopeless for a long time and that you even have to fight to prevent the relationship from ending. As compassionate as we are here at GratisDatingTips, we would like to encourage you. How? By giving you, among other things, 7 tips to prevent an early end.
Why save your relationship?
Simply because saving your relationship has a direct impact on the rest of your life. Maybe you want children together or maybe you already have kids. By fighting for your relationship, you are making a life-changing decision. This will mainly affect the further course of your life and that of your partner, but also everything that is connected to your relationship.
Think about financial matters, perhaps you have a joint bank account, or even better: you may even own a house or business together. Those alone are reasons to fight for your relationship, and we haven’t even talked about the most important thing of all: love itself. Because if the love is still there, then saving your relationship is most likely worth it.
When it’s better to say goodbye
Love is not always easy, as we all know. Think of it as a kind of flower. If you don’t take care of it, it will stop blooming on its own. What does that mean? That you must give the flower enough water. However, there are also situations where this no longer makes sense.
Sometimes it is just over and over and even a little water will no longer ensure that love blossoms. Although relationships can sometimes fizzle out, for example if you two have grown apart , things change when there is abuse in the relationship.
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Emotional abuse
When we think of abuse, we quickly think of the physical part, but let’s not forget the emotional or psychological abuse . In that case, you are humiliated on an emotional level and verbal and mental torment play a major role.
In relational terms, we are talking about a continuous pattern in which one of the partners is verbally kicked out. This can manifest itself in verbal violence, threats, continuous criticism, manipulation and even intimidation. Do you recognize this? Then it is really better to break off the relationship.
Physical abuse
Emotional abuse can in the most extreme cases also be accompanied by physical abuse. In that case, one of the partners has loose hands and has serious difficulty controlling himself. Does that lead to physical violence? Then it is best to take steps at the first instance.
Do you feel intimidated and are you afraid of possible consequences of a relationship ending ? Then seek help from friends, family and the police as much as possible.
Cheating on me
Although we cannot delve into everyone’s relationship, it seems clear to us that cheating is also a reason to end a relationship . Cheating is not allowed: at least not in most relationships. We would like to emphasize once again that it is of course easier to judge from a distance, so you probably know which decision to make.
Are you cheating yourself? Then that could also be a reason to end a relationship with your current partner. You may think that cheating is good for your relationship , but in practice there are still some disadvantages.
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7 tips to prevent an end
Let’s start with the fact that we are optimistic and therefore have good hope that you can still save the relationship. Do you share that thought? In any case, we have seven tips for you that can help you avoid an end:
1. Back to basic
Sometimes you need to go back to basics and that can also be useful in the relationship. What do you think about going back to the time when everything was rosy? Then we should especially think of the first phase when you got to know each other, or the time when there was still infatuation instead of love.
The two of you, dig into your memories and go back to the moments when you met. Where was that? And why did your partner make your heart beat so fast? Point out each other’s positive points and don’t hesitate to write them down.
Have you already made a nice list? Then go back to the place where it all started. And do the same things as on that first date . Do we see a smile yet?
2. Keep communication personal
Often things go wrong in communication and in far from all cases it is not meant that way. If you are already in a less good phase then it can be that the smallest misunderstandings can lead to the biggest arguments. For that reason it is important to communicate well with each other.
That sounds pretty logical, but sometimes asking further can cause the question to be understood completely differently. And then we haven’t even talked about online communication. Online messages can unintentionally come across completely differently and in that case it is good to ask an extra question.
As for that online communication: make sure that the important questions or topics are discussed in person. Just face-to-face, good old-fashioned.
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3. Point out the positive
In relationships where things are going a bit worse, there is usually a lot of negative energy. Too much attention is paid to everything that is going wrong. Maybe you yourself have a habit of constantly pointing out to your partner what he or she is doing wrong. Or maybe it happens the other way around with you.
Anyway, all that negativity logically creates a lot of friction and tension and that’s not exactly what you can use. Although it sounds quite easy, we would like to ask you to at least focus on the positive on your part. Do that for a while and see if your partner notices. Maybe he or she will pick it up on their own.
Does your partner not seem to have it all figured out? Then consciously ask yourself whether the other person has noticed that you have focused on the positive? Ultimately, the goal is for both of you to focus on the positive.
4. Do something crazy
Do you visit the in-laws every Sunday? And do you go out to eat at the same restaurant every first Friday of the month? That can of course be a lot of fun if you have a nice bond with your in-laws and perhaps the restaurant will also bring out something nostalgic. But otherwise it’s a different story if these routines become some kind of rut .
In that case, vary and break through boring and predictable things. Do something crazy, book a long trip, sign up for a Spanish cooking workshop or go dancing on the beach during the sunset. We’re just mentioning something, but you probably understand what we want to say. Do something new.
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5. Keep the focus on yourself
It is not easy that things are not going well between the two of you, but it becomes a lot more difficult if the relationship is constantly compared to that of friends and family. There’s no point in emphasizing how crappy your relationship is and how perfect your best friends’ relationship is.
Social media also contributes to this and it can quickly seem as if others in your social circle are doing a lot better than you. Therefore, avoid comparisons as much as possible.
Besides, the grass always seems greener on the other side. It may be a bit of a cliché, but in this case it is absolutely true. What to do? Focus as much as possible on yourselves. You can be proud of each other.
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6. Stop pointing fingers
Being proud of each other becomes a bit difficult if you keep pointing fingers at each other and the reproaches pile up. Of course, in every relationship, a sneer is sometimes thrown, but it should not become structural. Moreover, it is very easy to wash your hands of something and not take responsibility yourself.
First look at what you are doing wrong and then come up with criticism of the other. Because although your partner can do all sorts of things wrong, it is important that you work together. And to work together well, you will always have to start with yourself.
7. Don’t make decisions during emotional outbursts
With tears in your eyes, your hands in your hair, and a shrill voice, cutting the knot; that’s not very smart. Of course, there are situations that are simply untenable, but if we’re talking about ‘that well-known umpteenth drop’, then it might be smarter to let off some steam first.
Many relationships end because of something silly, precisely because it was about that last straw. Make sure that every decision you make is done at the most rational moment possible. Have a cup of coffee, calm down for a while, and talk it over again. There is a good chance that you will save your relationship now instead of ruining it. Good luck!
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