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Bad habits are so common that everyone has a few that can irritate others. Even the most polite people in the world have bad habits . Some of these annoying things they are aware of doing, others they don’t even realize. And whether they do it consciously or not, there are people who get annoyed by them.
In a relationship these little things are even more annoying, because you can’t avoid or evade a partner you live with. In the beginning these annoying things weren’t even noticeable, but as you get used to each other the “flaws” come under a magnifying glass.
If you’ve been with your partner for a while, you’ve probably noticed a few quirks and strange habits. From dirty dishes in the sink to frustrating behavior you display in public, these are the annoying things you do every day—and your partner hates. Here are 19 more small and big things that irritate people in relationships.
1. Embarrassing the partner
It’s quite fun to share a funny anecdote about your partner with friends or family. Something terribly stupid, for example. Sharing it with others is funny – for once. If it’s a pattern to share these things with others, chances are your partner will feel irritated or humiliated by these “comic” stories you keep telling. It’s no fun being your own partner’s bully.
2. Not helping with housework
Unless it has been agreed loud and clear, not helping with household chores is a situation that irritates many. Socks lying around the house, never emptying the dishwasher and… not doing anything at all in the house. Who doesn’t find that annoying? And yes, although the man of the house is often the one who neglects to do his part, it is also often the women who make that possible.
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3. Bodily sounds
The groaning while getting up, the burping after eating and the farting that is “accidentally” released: once is funny, more than once is annoying. In a relationship, these physical sounds can become a source of annoyance. Being forced to stay up all night because your partner refuses to do anything about the snoring; that irritates everyone.
“Can you stop tapping your leg?”
4. Being unreliable
No matter how big or small the promise, not keeping appointments irritates most people – also in relationships. These can be small things, like being late or not texting back, to bigger things like not showing up for a dinner or doing a chore around the house.
“You’re a sweetheart! Yes. Yes you. You are a sweet baby.”
5. The over-enthusiastic voice
We all recognize this voice; the extremely high pitched and overly enthusiastic voice that some people use when talking to a pet or baby. It is also the voice that partners can find unpleasant. Or even more annoying.
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6. Do not respond
We are all busy, busy, busy. But that is no license to ignore texts and phone calls. It is one of the biggest annoyances in relationships; not responding to the other. Incidentally, this does not only apply to calling and texting, but also in a normal domestic situation. Always being on your phone or tablet and therefore not responding to your partner causes annoyance.
7. Egocentric behavior
Do you ever feel like your partner doesn’t understand you? That your thought pattern is not understood? And that it doesn’t really matter how you see something, but how the other person sees it? Egocentric behavior, in which one partner cannot empathize with the other, can become irritating in the long run.
“Honey, can you put the toilet seat down when you’re done?”
8. Not listening
Your partner asks you to put the organic waste bin on the street, you confirm the request, but then don’t do it. If your partner has to make the same requests over and over again, only to be disappointed again and again, it starts to irritate. Hearing your partner, not listening: it is a common problem in relationships that one of the two starts to get annoyed by.
9. Ignoring the partner
Familiar with the silent treatment ? This is the resort to ignoring a partner during a disagreement. It is even more annoying when the “guilty party” does not even know what he or she did wrong. In relationships where this passive-aggressive behavior occurs, it is a major source of annoyance.
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10. Not being attentive
Once the mask of good behavior falls off after many months in a relationship, couples start doing less and less for each other. It is quite normal for this to happen, even in happy relationships. But there is a limit. It is quite annoying when your partner only thinks of himself and does not ask if you want something too, for example a snack or a filled glass of drink.
“I was wrong, my apologies.”
11. Never apologize
We’re all wrong sometimes. But saying ‘sorry’? Not all of us do that. Learning to admit mistakes in a relationship is crucial to avoiding heated arguments. Partners who struggle with apologizing (or simply never do so) are a source of embarrassment for their partners.
12. Not giving space
Although it often stems from insecurity, it is a bad habit to keep a partner on a short leash. In relationships, this restriction of freedom is one of the more well-known irritation factors. One partner who always wants the other with them can suffocate the other and therefore irritate the other quite a bit. And while freedom does not come at the expense of the relationship, it makes it better.
13. Let the partner make all the decisions
In a relationship, you should make (important) decisions together. If that does not happen, and one of the two has to make all the decisions, it can lead to the necessary frustrations. The lack of an own opinion and input can cause irritations. Even if this mistake is made unconsciously .
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14. Continually bringing up old issues
It irritates everyone in a conflict: bringing up almost forgotten events when the disagreement cannot be won. Raking up old cows from the ditch is extremely annoying. It also has a negative effect on the relationship.
“Yes, but you did before…”
15. Behaving differently towards others
Your partner is nice to you, but an annoying person to the waiter. At home your partner is not helpful, if the employer asks something, the submissive employee suddenly emerges – a side that you find unpleasant. Nothing is more of a turn off for some people than someone who behaves differently towards others.
16. Not talking about relationship problems
From bottling up inner fats and everything to abruptly erupting in anger, there is no middle ground for some people. They don’t give you the chance to understand, support, or comfort them because they don’t share anything with you. And if they do, it will be too late and the bomb will explode. This behavior of a closed personality can cause great irritation within a relationship.
17. Selfish behavior
Does your partner only care about what he or she wants? Your own needs, not yours? Is your partner’s will in fact imposed on you? Then that selfish behavior can become irritating. Never letting you choose what to watch, eat or do together is not a form of initiative: it is annoying.
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18. Micromanagement
Are you quite concerned with the details? Do you ask your partner to do something only to later criticize how the task was completed? Then keep in mind that you will irritate your partner. This is called micromanagement: behavior of a control freak who finds it necessary to keep an eye on everything. And this behavior is counterproductive by nature, because it does not improve the relationship , but destroys it.
19. Comparing your relationship with others
Just because it works for someone else doesn’t mean it will work for you. Every relationship is unique and being constantly compared to others is annoying. Comparing can only happen when two things are the same; relationships never are.
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