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You just met a nice man (or boy) and you feel like you would like to grow old with him. But at the same time, you’re not sure about his intentions. You ask yourself if he is serious and if he really cares about you.
The situation makes you insecure and that is why you not only doubt his intentions, but also yourself. You find it difficult to enjoy your time together because you are constantly worrying. You’re afraid he’ll hurt you if he doesn’t really love you. How do you know if he is serious about you?
Is he serious?
You’re not the first or only woman to ask this question. With the first butterflies in your stomach, it’s normal to wonder if he’s the one. You begin to imagine the possibility of a real future together. You get that warm feeling inside when you think about how wonderful your life together could be. It feels good, but does that also apply to his intentions?
Asking yourself if he really wants a serious relationship with you is a common thought when you start to have feelings for someone. Because experience has taught you that not all men are serious. For example, you meet a man, are overwhelmed by the intense feelings of love and you have high expectations for what the future will bring. Only a short time later you discover that he doesn’t feel the same way about you and doesn’t really want to be in a relationship with you.
You probably had to learn the hard way that the desire for a committed relationship isn’t always a two-way street. Sometimes it seems like you’re on the same page, only to find out later that you were completely wrong. Love is blind, it makes your intuition fail and you turn a blind eye to all signals that point to disaster.
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14 Signs That Say He’s Serious
Looking to the future, you want to know if he views the relationship the same way you do. However, it is often difficult to know exactly whether a man is serious about a relationship, because everyone is different and because feelings and intentions are difficult to gauge.
For example, some men may be very serious about a relationship, but not show this through their words or behavior. Other men can be open about it, but not really serious. So, how do you know if a guy is serious about you? Look for these signs if you want to know if he’s serious.
1. He’s talking about the future
What exactly does he have in mind for the relationship? You can tell by what he says, or you don’t. A man who doesn’t think about a future together shouldn’t even think about talking about it. You ask if he wants to go on holiday with you next year, he doesn’t know yet. You want to go to an event together that will take place in three months, he avoids the conversation. Men who play games and are not serious with you are not talking about a future together. Men who are serious do that.
2. He talks about his feelings
Men and expressing feelings; it remains a difficult subject. Be strong, don’t cry or talk about your feelings; according to many men, the characteristics of the real man . But even if he can talk about his feelings, he doesn’t do it with everyone. Especially not with people who don’t matter.
He dares to express his doubts to you, the fear of commitment he struggles with, the things that bother him and he also tells you what you mean to him. Have you found a man who talks about his feelings and shares them with you? Then it is a clear sign that he takes you seriously.
3. He wants to talk to you all the time
A man who is genuinely interested in you wants to know everything about you. He wants to talk to you for hours and doesn’t stay on the surface. He asks personal questions about your ambitions, dreams, family and interests. More importantly, he listens to what you say and remembers the details. You can tell how serious a man is by how much he wants to know about you.
4. He wants to be exclusive
Bad men, players and all other men who don’t want to be serious with you keep their options open. Exclusivity? That is not yet possible, because it reduces the options to one. The difference with a man who is serious? He doesn’t want a choice, he wants you as the only option. He doesn’t want you to date other men and risk choosing another man.
5. He keeps his promises
He says he will visit you on Wednesday evening, but you only receive a text at 10 p.m. that he is not coming. He was supposed to take you to the station, but he didn’t say anything . Does this look familiar? Then there is a good chance that he does not take you seriously enough.
A man who wants a relationship with you will do everything he can not to disappoint you. He keeps his word when he says something and makes amends if he ever cannot keep a promise due to circumstances.
6. He treats you like a priority
You are his princess. He lets you know and, above all, shows that you are important to him. He makes time for you, he cancels others for you; small actions that show you are a priority to him. You may not be the first priority sometimes , but you can’t ask anyone to be. If he is serious about you, he will give you priority over the less important things in his life.
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7. He has not only words, but also actions
A man’s actions tell you what you want to know. He can say he likes you , but if he doesn’t act like it? Then that may not be the case at all, but you are being used for a different purpose. After all, actions speak louder than words.
If he is serious, it shows in what he does. He looks at you that one way, avoids contact with other women, doesn’t make you jealous and does what he says.
8. He has a stable life
How serious a man is in his relationships is reflected in how he lives. A typical serious man has a home, a car, money saved and a steady job for years. He may even have a child from a previous relationship. A not-so-serious man is a job hopper, living day to day and going out with friends two days a week. Timing is everything in a man’s life. A serious man has lost his wild hair and is ready for stability.
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9. He involves you in decisions
Whether he sees you as relationship material can be seen by the extent to which he involves you in decisions. Does he handle all his problems himself or does he ask you for advice? He involves you in his life and anticipates the future, a future in which you make decisions together. Does he take your opinion seriously and consider using your advice? It’s one of the signs that he takes you seriously.
10. He introduces you to family and friends
After months of being in a relationship with him, does he still not want you to meet his family or friends? Then it is not surprising that you wonder whether he is serious. Never being allowed to meet family and friends is a bad sign. A man who takes you seriously and wants a relationship with you involves you in his personal life. You meet his friends and family. He makes you his girlfriend by introducing you to everyone who is important to him.
11. He does his best for you
You can tell by a man’s behavior what you mean to him. If he wants a relationship with you, he always wants to be the best version of himself. He is gallant, helpful, respectful and hygienic. He wants to smell good and look good so that he is as attractive to you as possible. He wants to make you happy and pays attention to your needs and wishes. When a man is not so serious with a woman, he cares less about all this. He spends less time on himself and makes less effort for you overall.
12. He is there for you
A serious man does not suddenly disappear from the radar, only to be heard from again after three days. He wants you to know where he is; whether he is going out with friends or is unreachable during a work visit. He doesn’t get irritated when you ask where he was and never gives you the feeling that something is wrong. He stays in touch with you so you know he is there for you if you need him.
13. He wants to do fun things with you
Not only in the bedroom, but also outdoors. He wants to go out with you for a day, go shopping together, eat out and go to the cinema; he doesn’t want to meet alone at home . The difference with a bad man is that they mainly want sex and therefore only want to see you if sex is possible. If he organizes fun activities to do together, this is a strong indication that he sees you as relationship material.
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14. He makes you feel good
Women but also men sense when someone is not serious. It’s that gut feeling, a hunch you get that something is going on but you don’t know exactly what. When you experience this, your brain gives signals that can help you with a complex decision. In a serious man these signals are absent; you only have the good feeling and not that other feeling. The relationship is simple enough that you can relax, be yourself and enjoy the moment. You don’t have to think about whether he is serious, you know he wants to be with you.
If you’ve gotten to this point, you have a good idea of what a serious man is and what he does. Perhaps the man does not exhibit all these characteristics, but that is not necessary. It’s about the totality of everything he does and says and how it makes you feel. The uncertainty you feel at the beginning of a relationship is normal. It does not immediately mean that he does not want a relationship, is not serious or is not relationship material . Your feelings can play tricks on you, while he doesn’t.
Fortunately, there are some strong indications that a man is serious. Using small signals, clear actions and affirmative behavior, he lets you know (unconsciously) that he wants to be with you in the long term. They are the things every man does when he is completely committed to you. These are the biggest signs he’s serious.
Moreover, your doubts do not have to be his fault, for example if you still have unresolved wounds from the past. If he does everything you read in this article then there is nothing to worry about; he is serious and wants a relationship with you.
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