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Winning a man over is your life mission right now. You have a man in mind that you have strong feelings for and you can only hope that he feels the same way as you do. All you want is for him to realize how much you like him, without coming across as desperate or pushy. To give you a push in the right direction, we have a few tips for you to win him over.
What we’re going to give you today are some strategies to make a man fall in love with you. Not only are these strategies known to work, but they’re also tips that are realistic and fairly easy to implement. Read on.
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You want to win him over?
Before we start, we would like to say something about patience. If you have fallen head over heels for this man, we understand that you may not be completely objective. That is perfectly logical, because he is completely in your head and there is nothing wrong with that. The only thing that is a bit of a disadvantage is that he tests your patience. And we suspect that you are not exactly the most patient.
However, take a break every now and then, because if you are too hasty and pushy, you can ruin everything. Love takes time, and it sinks in at different speeds for everyone. Give him time and chances are you will achieve more that way than just being on top of him like a madman from day 1.
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As with all of our other dating and relationship tips , some of the tips below will work better for some than others. You know yourself best and what suits you, so go with the tips that most closely match your personality and expectations.
1. Make him feel needed (but don’t be needy)
We know you’re an independent woman who doesn’t need a man to live her life, but the truth is… men like to feel needed.
Think of it as part of the evolutionary past of primitive men as the natural protector in the relationship. Of course, you can kill a spider yourself or build a new box, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it. The only thing you have to do in these cases? Ask the man for help.
That’s all.
Just ask for help. Not only will you give him a goal (he is also trying to win your heart, if all goes well), but you will also see how nice it is to be able to rely on someone else, to trust him and to let him help you.
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2. Make him miss you
We also know that you want to spend every moment of every day with him. And maybe he does too. But let’s take it easy on that 24/7 relationship, especially when it’s still new between the two of you. Spending time apart is also incredibly healthy for couples. It gives you each the time and space to do things on your own or spend time with friends (don’t be that woman who abandons her friends and never demand that of a man).
Time apart gives you plenty of reason to long for each other and it gives you a fresh perspective and a whole lot of topics of conversation . Keep your own rhythms, hobbies, friends; just keep your own lives. Time apart creates balance in the relationship.
3. Give him a compliment…but only if he deserves it
Just to be clear, we are not saying you should kiss his ass. What you should (may) do is give him a compliment if it is justified. If you think in your head that he looks good in that shirt, tell him.
Not everyone is equally complimentary, and while we don’t want to suggest that this statement applies to you, we do want to ask you to just say what you think. It creates positivity in the relationship and it also makes him feel good about you. Appreciate your man.
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4. Let your true nature shine
There are women who are still wearing their protective coat in the beginning. They don’t want to reveal too much and therefore don’t behave exactly as they would in the presence of family or friends. Those crazy jokes that you normally make, you suddenly don’t make now. But sooner or later he will also discover your true nature.
In this case, we only mean that in a positive way. Men only like it when you dare to show what you are really like. The right man will love you for who you are.
5. Admire his masculinity
Just as men like to feel needed, they also like it when you admire how masculine they are. That doesn’t mean you have to constantly whisper to him what an Adonis he is or squeeze his muscles every time; you get the idea. A man is a man. However, masculinity isn’t all about testosterone and muscles.
It’s about treating people well, being courteous, and acting honorably. True masculinity also means being vulnerable and empathetic. Tell him you admire how proactive he is and how he doesn’t care about etiquette, but also tell him you appreciate how sensitive and emotional he is.
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6. Don’t try to change him
You’ll definitely have a few things that get on your nerves , but given all of his strengths, they shouldn’t be deal breakers. And you can’t expect him to change for you either. So be careful what you say to him, because he’ll find it very disturbing to hear all the things wrong with him.
Instead, embrace him with all his quirks. You’ll see: he’ll do the same to you. If his drawbacks still outweigh him, then maybe he’s not the man you’re looking for. Let him go. You’ll be better off in the long run.
7. Listen (well) when he talks
While talking is easy, it’s much harder to listen. And we mean really listen. Don’t be half-shut on your phone when he’s telling you something important, and give him the same amount of time and attention that you would like him to give you. When you put all your energy into listening to what he’s saying, you’re actually listening on two levels: to his words, but also to his non-verbal communication.
For example, pay attention to his body language when he talks about his workday. Because maybe he said his day was “good,” but his body language showed something completely different. Now you can at least ask what was going on, whereas it would have passed you by if you were half-sitting on your smartphone.
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Conclusion
You may be able to fall in love very quickly and immediately make all kinds of long-term plans together, but men are generally a bit slower. And that is exactly where the difference lies when conquering someone of the opposite sex. Winning a man over is therefore just as difficult as it is for a man to win over a woman, and that is why we have listed a number of specific tips for you.
It is important to remain yourself in all cases, because at the end of the day, he will have to accept you as you are. We wish you much success in conquering… your man.
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