How to Let a Man Know You Want a Commitment

You’ve hooked up with a really nice guy and now that you’ve been dating for a while, you want it to become more. You want to start a relationship with that person, but no matter how much fun you have together, you can’t seem to have a conversation to make it official.

If he doesn’t make any moves to change that, then it’s time to take matters into your own hands and ask for clarity yourself. Does he want a steady relationship or… not? However, it’s not that easy to let a man know that you want a steady relationship. That’s why we’re giving you a helping hand with these 6 tips and advice.

1. Ask him what he wants

If he doesn’t take the initiative to start the conversation, you can ask him what he wants. Keep in mind that a man who strings you along will probably agree with you. So don’t try to say what you want right away, but give him the opportunity to come up with an answer himself.

Ask him what kind of future he sees between you and only after he tells you can you tell him how you see it. If you notice that he tries to change his answer after that, then chances are he might be playing you and not being completely honest.

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2. Act like you want a committed relationship

It is good to give subtle hints yourself that you want a steady relationship. Act in a way that makes it clear that you are only interested in a serious relationship . If the guy you are dating only sees partying, flirting photos and selfies on social media, he will probably be a lot less interested in a serious relationship. Therefore, show him that you are really into it and that you want to go for it together.

3. Ask for clarity

If you have been dating for a long time and would like to have some clarity, you can also just be honest and ask where you stand. Do not continue to go along with his choices, but choose for yourself. Of course, you do not have to put him on the spot to make a hard choice, but you can ask for clarity.

This way you can indicate that you are not interested in a fling , but that you want a serious, committed relationship. If you do not share that vision, do not hang around but end it immediately. Do not try to change his mind, because there is a big chance that you are wasting your time.

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4. Be strong and stick to your own standards

When you really like someone, it can be hard to stick to your own wishes. You want to be with him so badly that you accept everything he says. But try not to agree to something you really don’t agree with. If he says he just wants to be friends or have a FWB relationship before things can get serious, then there’s a good chance he’ll keep stringing you along for a long time.

Therefore, stick to your own desires and do not settle for less. If he does not want a permanent relationship, then you are not a match. And then it is time to move on: look for someone who is ready.

5. Wees consistent

Stick to your own standards and don’t get stuck on what he wants. Before you know it, you’ll be years later without having an official relationship. The step from dating to a relationship shouldn’t take years, but rather a few months. If you want something serious, it’s time to say so. So stay consistent and state what you stand for.

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6. Provide a feasible timeline

Of course, you can’t expect a man to be ready for a steady relationship after a few dates. Even if you’re already all in, you have to give him time to get used to the idea. He may be looking for a serious relationship, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a good match and will stay together forever .

It’s okay to loosen up for a while, but don’t let it go on for too long. If you’re still not seeing any progress after months, it’s time to let him know that you’re ready for that now.

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How do you conduct the relationship conversation?

If you’re going to have the conversation, you’ll want to know what the right approach is. As easy as it is to send a text, it’s not the best tactic. It’s best to do it face to face , as you can get a better sense of how the person is feeling. Think carefully about what you’ll do if he doesn’t want a relationship . Do you want to keep dating? Or do you want an all-or-nothing scenario where it ends right there?

• Also make sure the conditions are right.
• Take the time to have the conversation.
• Prepare with good questions .
• Don’t bring it up if you actually have to rush.
• Find a place where you are both comfortable.
• Be clear.
• Go straight to your goal.

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Giving subtle hints often has little use. So you get more out of simply asking clearly what he wants or indicating what you want yourself. Also try to come up with reasons why you want it so badly, because then you can substantiate it well. So make sure you have a clear answer when he asks why you want a serious relationship.

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