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In fairy tales, relationships always look so sweet and romantic. There are never any problems, never any arguments and never any major disagreements. In short, you always agree with each other on everything. Unfortunately, that is why we call these beautiful stories fairy tales and not reality shows – they are not realistic.
7 ways to avoid a collision
It doesn’t matter how much you love and care about each other. Discussions come and go, and sometimes they can end in a fight. Actually, they are also part of being in a relationship, but that does not mean that they are nice to have. Certainly not if it was actually unnecessary. We will tell you about different ways to avoid a clash with your lover.
1. Breathe and be honest
You’re starting to get really annoyed about those dirty dishes in the sink or the half-empty glasses lying around the house. You are certainly not the only one with these frustrations and you are absolutely right to want to express this to your partner. Do this especially, because if something is not useful, it is stuffing up these feelings.
If you do this for too long, your angry feelings will only grow bigger and bigger, eventually causing you to throw everything out in one big fit of rage. Something you want to avoid. So the next time you see those dirty dishes, take a breath, count to ten and say something about it immediately, calmly. This way you ensure that there is no heated discussion , but that the message gets across well and you can talk about it normally.
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2. Forgiveness is forgiveness
If you’ve learned anything from shows like Friends , it’s that you shouldn’t bring up the past. Especially if you’ve already talked about it and forgiven it. It is not fair to anyone for an event to be used against them over and over again. If your lover has done something you don’t like, talk about it and decide to forgive it or not.
Forgiveness can be difficult and it’s understandable if you can’t always do it. Then be honest about it. Even though it is difficult, it can also be better to keep some distance from each other in some situations. If something happened that you simply cannot forgive, it will not make the relationship better .
3. Sand over it
You don’t always have to agree on everything with your lover. If you love that one movie, but your partner hates it, is it really a topic worth discussing? Choose your battles and remember that sometimes it’s better to let it go. Agree to disagree , because does it really matter that you differ in opinion?
Not everyone can think and feel the same about something. Fortunately, too, because otherwise the world – and your relationship – would become very boring. This means that even though you and your partner have so much in common, you may not agree on everything. Accept that, sand over it and avoid another unnecessary collision.
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4. Admit when you’re wrong
It can be very difficult to admit it, but try to do so when you are wrong. You might be surprised how much the words “Sorry, I was wrong” can mean to someone. There’s no point in arguing about something you know is wrong. All you have to do is admit that you were wrong and the pointless argument will be over. Of course, only say ‘sorry’ if you really mean it. An insincere excuse can quickly lead to a discussion or even make the argument worse.
5. Be the better person
In an argument, both parties say unpleasant things. Statements that hurt the other person and you. It is understandable if you don’t feel like being the first to say ‘sorry’ every time, but it is still advisable to do this sometimes. As said above, a sincere apology can mean so much to the other person and is actually a small effort for you. Rise above it, be that better person, and often, once someone says “sorry,” the other person follows suit.
6. Pay attention to the reaction
Do you notice that the other person reacts grumpy or irritated to you? There is a good chance that something is wrong. If you feel such tension, ask your partner what is wrong and if everything is going well. Don’t worry right away, because it doesn’t have to be about you at all. You may have made a mistake unknowingly , but that is not necessary.
Did you perhaps do something they didn’t like ? Sometimes you get a quick and clear answer and you can talk about it. Other times you may not get an answer, but that is also possible. Then your partner probably needs a little more time. In that case, let it rest for a while. You have shown interest, that can mean enough for the other person. If they want to talk about it, they know they can come to you.
Be careful not to push too much or keep asking all day if something is wrong. If you don’t get an answer after asking the first time, the other person just needs some space and time. If you continue to ask questions, this may cause a discussion that you wanted to avoid.
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7. Give each other space
Especially at the beginning of a relationship, you want to be together as much as possible. Understandable, because you are crazy about each other and miss the other when you are not together. But if you are too close to each other, tension can also arise. So respect it when one of you needs a little more space and accept the fact that you don’t have to do everything together.
If your partner wants to go out with friends, take some ‘me-time’ or gather your own friends for a drink or a movie night. Just because you don’t go to the same club doesn’t mean you like your lover any less. Having your own life besides a relationship is actually healthy . You’ll see each other again soon enough. It can even be more fun to be together when you’ve had time to miss each other.
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