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The first date is coming to an end. And as you know, this is the moment to strike. In order not to be disappointed, you assumed a catfish before the date , but already during the first meeting your heart skips a beat with excitement. The idea of spending more time with this person gives you that warm feeling inside.
During the date, you are constantly focused on the lips and in your mind, you have already kissed them dozens of times. To make this vision come true, there is no other option than to take a chance. With the end of the date in sight, there is nothing that can stop you from trying. Do you take the plunge and go for a passionate kiss? Or do you play it safe?
As you play out the different scenarios in your mind, you wonder how to kiss on a first date . Is it a kiss on the cheek, a passionate kiss on the mouth, can you use tongue? Or will it be limited to shaking hands?
Kissing with permission
Whether your kiss will be returned is never certain. If you try often enough, you will undoubtedly end up in a scene from the Matrix, where the other person does everything to avoid your kiss attempt. That is not a bad thing; nothing ventured, nothing gained. But you can also just pay attention to the hints and signals that tell you whether you are given ‘permission’ to kiss… or not.
The typical first date kiss
The classic kiss on a first date is a logical sequence of different actions. You can move closer, touch each other once and maybe even propose a second date . If the other person copies this behavior or at least goes with the flow, then there is a big chance that kissing can happen. The only question is how?
The example situation above is a classic example of how it usually goes. You are confident in your feelings and you think the other person feels the same way. It is not a question of whether there will be a kiss, but when. The first kiss is inevitable. In other cases it is not so clear and you may start to doubt whether and how to give a kiss.
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How to kiss on the first date
Is your date ready? Sometimes you only know when the moment has arrived. If they want to kiss, it will happen. If they hesitate or turn their head away, don’t. If it is not desired, don’t force it; withdraw and assess whether you can try again later. If the signals are correct, you have several options.
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Kiss on the mouth
When kissing on a first date , it is almost always a kiss on the mouth or on the cheek. The kiss on the mouth is fine if you are pretty sure it will be reciprocated. The kiss on the cheek is for when you are not sure.
For a first kiss, it is advisable to keep it short, but not too short. A soft kiss on the mouth of about three seconds is perfect. If you kiss too long, it might get a bit awkward, while kissing too short is too impersonal.
- In case you are pretty sure
- Three seconds
- Soft and loving
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Kiss with tongue
In most cases, a French kiss is not expected as a first kiss. It may be possible on the same night, but not as the very first kiss. If you do it, you can expect the other person to not join in and try to kiss you in a normal way. For most singles, kissing with tongue is a bit too much of a good thing on the first date.
- Not recommended
- Often unexpected
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Kiss on the cheek
A kiss on the cheek is the lifeline for when you want to get more intimate, but don’t want to get rejected . The kiss on the cheek is the safe option to show that you’re not afraid of physical contact, while indicating that you’re interested. Depending on how you do it, it can be a flirtatious kiss that can still turn into a real kiss.
A kiss on the cheek is better than shaking hands, which is another alternative. It keeps your options open and even gives you the opportunity to safely move on to a kiss on the mouth. If the face is turned away, a real kiss is not welcome. If the face is turned towards yours, a kiss is desired.
- In case you’re not sure
- It’s safe
- Chance of a real kiss
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Ask for permission
It’s not something you usually think about when it’s time to kiss, but if you’re in doubt, you can ask for permission . This immediately provides the clarity you want; kissing is allowed or it’s not. There’s nothing wrong with asking if you can get intimate. Some people might find it a bit of a strange question, but it does prevent you from trying to kiss someone who doesn’t want to.
Asking for permission is a nice way to show that you want to kiss but don’t want to rush into anything. It also shows that you’re thinking about the consequences of trying to kiss . It also shows that you have respect for the other person. Asking for permission isn’t the norm, but it can be useful in some situations, like when you’re at a loss.
- In case you’re not sure
- Provides immediate clarity
- Responses to the question are mixed
Shake hands
Shaking hands at the end of a date? It’s a way to take the initiative so you don’t get caught up in an unexpected kiss. If you don’t want to be kissed, you quickly extend your hand to make it clear that there will be no kissing.
Shaking hands after a nice first date doesn’t bode well for the rest . Don’t count on kissing after shaking hands.
- Done due to lack of interest
- Kissing is no longer possible
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