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Men and women think and act differently. That is why it sometimes seems as if they do not think about their behavior and that they do not, like women, analyze everything down to the last detail. Although they do not share screenshots with friends and discuss relationship problems in the group app, there is still something going on in the brain of the man. If there is one thing that men think about for a long time, it is a potential relationship break-up.
It is a situation that even the most impulsive man does not know how to answer; break up or continue. Every man goes through this at some point and when it happens, they think about it a lot. Not only do they think about their own lonely future but also about what this means for you.
Maybe they are afraid of making the wrong choice, are not completely sure about it yet, or simply do not dare to break up. Whatever the reason is for him considering a breakup, if he is doing this, he is giving subtle hints that the end is near.
Subtle hints tell a story
Instead of confessing everything and being open with you, he keeps it to himself. His true thoughts about the relationship remain secret, but in the meantime he drops all kinds of hints. These subtle hints, which are easy to overlook, have a reason.
He hopes that you will “get” the hints and disappear from his life on your own. But that doesn’t happen and he gives some more hints. These are the steps he has to take to finally make the decision.
In practice, it almost never happens that the ‘it’s over’ statement is made out of nowhere, usually preceded by a period of small and subtle signs.
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9 Signs He Wants to Break Up
Do you have the feeling that your boyfriend or husband no longer wants you? And that this could mean that he wants to break up? If you recognize these signs, it’s time to start packing your suitcases.
1. He doesn’t want to spend time with you anymore
Are you increasingly starting to lead your own life, because you no longer do fun things together ? If it seems like he no longer wants to spend time with you, this is a clear signal that he is preparing for a life alone. For example, he tells you that he is busy with work or that something keeps coming up, hoping that you will get the hint.
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2. He can no longer communicate normally
How easy it was to talk to each other in the beginning, how difficult it is now. Every question, every conversation is a struggle to end it without disagreement. Instead of disappearing from your life, they start a fight.
How easy it is to talk to each other is a measure of the state of the relationship. If you can no longer communicate normally with him, then he has already started saying goodbye.
3. He doesn’t want to have conversations anymore
Every relationship has a different pattern of communication. Some relationships do not have in-depth conversations , but still talk to each other about daily affairs. If this changes to a situation where you no longer have conversations with each other, but only say things to each other, then this is a sign that something is going wrong somewhere.
For example, if you text him he constantly ignores you and if you ask him something you get short answers. You’ll probably even get the feeling that you’re bothering him.
4. He no longer makes an effort
At first, he made an effort to look good around you. Now you come home from work to find him sprawled out on the couch in a shirt that should have been washed three days ago. Plus, he was supposed to make dinner, and while you were hoping for a romantic dinner, he suggests ordering in.
He doesn’t clean up anything anymore, puts all his free time into games and doesn’t make any kind of effort for you. If you recognize this, you can rightly wonder whether he still wants you.
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5. He doesn’t want to talk about the future
There is a stereotypical man who is afraid of commitment, also known as a case of commitment phobia . It is common knowledge that talking about children and marriage in the beginning of a relationship can trigger a form of anxiety. If you have been in a relationship for a while and he avoids all references to the near future, then that is a different story. In fact, it is a strong signal that he is considering a breakup.
Talking about plans that won’t come to fruition for another three months shouldn’t be a problem, unless he doesn’t want you to be part of his future plans.
6. He doesn’t show affection anymore
Normally you would regularly receive a nice compliment about your clothes and he would hold your hand when you went for a walk in public. Gradually this has decreased and now showing affection is a thing of the past. If he showed affection before, but doesn’t anymore, this is a way to recognize that he doesn’t feel the same way about you anymore.
7. He doesn’t want to work on the relationship (anymore)
In a good relationship, you can discuss your problems. You can talk about the things that irritate you and work on yourself to fit in even better with your partner. It is give and take. But if he does not want to work on the relationship anymore, or wants to work together to solve problems, it often means that he has given up. In practice, this is a strong signal that he does not want to continue with you.
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8. Everything irritates him
Anyone who has been in a long relationship that came to an end will recognize this one point; irritation. Whatever you do and try, you cannot hide your irritations. We all have moments when we get annoyed with a partner , but if he gets annoyed with you on a daily basis then the future of the relationship is at stake.
No matter how good your mood is, and how nice you are to him, he seems angry or irritated all the time. The questions you ask are answered with one syllable words. He is short, distant and gloomy. While these could be signs of depression, they could also be signs that he appreciates your presence more.
9. He flirts with others
Flirting with other people is off-limits in most relationships; it is not allowed and is considered a breach of trust. If you notice that he suddenly adds a lot of new women as ‘friends’ on social media or continuously likes photos of other women, it could just mean that he is exploring his options.
It’s even more obvious if you discover him on a dating site like Lexa , or even worse, a sex dating website like Novamora . While he may not have cheated yet, flirting with others is a signal never to be ignored.
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What to do if he shows these signs?
It’s not fun to suspect that your boyfriend or husband wants to break up. But it’s not over yet. You may hope it doesn’t happen and resign yourself to it as you wait for the inevitable. In the meantime, you’re constantly walking on eggshells, trying not to do anything wrong and only making things worse.
As you understand, this is not the solution. Recognizing the signs but ignoring them is the worst approach to all relationship problems . You deserve to know where you stand and what he thinks about the future of the relationship. If he has doubts about the relationship , you want to know why he has doubts, whether you can do something about it and whether it can be resolved.
Maybe it is already too late and the conversation will prevent you from having to suffer a long time. The sooner you rip off the bandage, the sooner the pain will go away. If you recognize the signals, at least you will see it coming and you will not be surprised if he “suddenly” breaks up the relationship.
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