Dating Frustrating? Here Are 5 Things to Remember

Many singles use dating apps with Tinder as one of the most downloaded apps. It’s simple: you can simply swipe a person left or right. Do you come across an attractive person with a nice description of themselves? Then you can swipe this person to the right. Is it not quite your taste? Then make sure you quickly swipe to the left with your finger.

However, such dating apps can be incredibly frustrating. For example, you don’t have many matches or are ignored after your ‘ Hello! How are you? ‘ message. How can you improve your dating experience?

Dating can be frustrating

There are several reasons why dating can be incredibly frustrating over time. You start your dating profile full of enthusiasm , post a nice picture and describe yourself as best as possible. “Let the matches come,” you think. Unfortunately, they are very disappointing… if you get any matches at all.

So it is very understandable that you will eventually get frustrated by this. For example, when you have found a nice person, but he or she does not seem to respond. Is he or she not interested or is it an abandoned profile? We will explain everything about these frustrations and give you useful tips.

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5 Reasons Dating Is Frustrating

We explain the 5 reasons why dating can cause frustrations during your dating period. Think for example of matches that are not serious enough, people who do not respond to your messages or the same singles that keep passing by. These are the reasons why dating can sometimes be extremely frustrating.

1. No comments on posts

A common frustration: not getting a response to your messages. There are of course many reasons for this. A person can receive too many messages and can no longer see the wood for the trees, but this can also be due to your own messages. So you can be rejected for reasons that are completely beyond your control, but also because of your own behavior. These are a number of reasons why you may not get a response:

• Your match has not read the message (yet).
• Your match has not been logged into the dating site for a long time.
• Your match has received a lot of messages.
• Your match read your message but forgot to respond.
• Your match is in a bad mood today and doesn’t feel like talking.
• Your match is more interested in another match.
• Your own message is not interesting enough.
• Your own message is not ‘original’ enough and therefore does not stand out.
• Your own message is too focused on sex.
• Your profile is not interesting enough.

Of course, dating should be a two-way street

You can be as enthusiastic as a puppy, but when the other person is not? Then the adventure quickly ends. So try to arouse the interest of the other person. Do not reveal too much in your dating profile and provide spontaneous photos. Not too much, but certainly not too little.

Also, make sure that your messages match the other person’s interests. Do you see that he or she likes football? Then ask about it and start a conversation. If you mainly talk about yourself, it will quickly become monotonous for the other person. Let the conversation come from both sides and especially invite the other person to respond.

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2. No matches

A dating app can be a lot of fun… when everything goes according to plan. Because if you swipe right one after the other, but don’t get a single match ? Then you quickly start to think that it’s your fault. Of course, this is often not the case. Your profile on this dating app is probably just not optimal. So it is high time to take a closer look at your dating profile.

First of all, it is smart to look at your photos. Do you have mainly selfies on your profile that also have filters? This is an absolute no-go. A study even showed that profiles with only selfies receive 8% less messages. A selfie is of course okay, but don’t overdo it.

Also make sure that you are the only one in the photo. It is quickly unclear to others who the profile belongs to. No one wants to look for you in a group of 10 people in the photo. You also have to make sure that there are not too many distractions in the photo. Do not pose in front of a busy background, but keep it simple.

Finally, it is a good option to delete your app or profile completely. This sounds drastic, but can be very effective. Dating apps use complicated algorithms that ensure that you see certain people. They probably base this on previous likes and such. So try deleting your profile and start with a clean slate. Pay attention to the above tips for a better dating profile .

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3. No serious singles

There is also a chance that there are simply not enough serious candidates on the dating app. For example, Tinder is known for its casual aspect. Many people use Tinder for one-time adventures . It is also possible that people only use Tinder to pass the time or because they are curious. For example, they want to know how many people are interested in them.

If this is not what you are looking for, it is advisable to use other platforms. For example, Lexa is a dating site where more serious people can be found. Broaden your horizons and look beyond the accessible Tinder app. Because who knows, you might find your happiness somewhere else.

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4. Not enough candidates

It may be that after a few days of swiping, you are already ‘done’ on a dating app. You have seen all the potential candidates and there is no one left who matches your wishes. Consider adjusting your distance. Are you not willing to travel a bit further? Then you have to find another way. For example, you can purchase a paid subscription to a dating site that offers more filtering options.

You probably used to see fewer people as a non-paying user. This is of course done to ‘lure’ you into a paid subscription. A dating app is therefore very good at making you frustrated, so that you take action and pull out your wallet. Of course, it shouldn’t all go too smoothly, because then the dating app itself doesn’t make any money.

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5. Ghosting

Creating a dating profile is done within a few minutes for many people. The threshold is therefore low, which means that many profiles are floating around in the database of an average app. Users of such an app start swiping, but may get tired of it after a few weeks or even days. The result? An inactive profile. In addition, many people will think that they have deleted their dating profile when they delete the app from their phone. That is not the case, and another inactive profile.

These profiles will continue to float around in the app’s database. This way, you may meet a person who doesn’t actually use the app anymore. No wonder you don’t get a like back or an answer to your messages… no matter how good your opening line is.

So don’t worry too much if your prince(ss) on the white horse doesn’t respond to your like. There’s a good chance that he/she doesn’t even use the app anymore and has already found a partner. So it’s not your fault. Is your match no longer responding? Try not to think that it’s your fault. Who knows, you might be dealing with a ghost profile.

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