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New relationships are exciting, but also scary. Everything is new, there is great uncertainty and trust in each other is still hard to find. But you know that trust is a vital part of any healthy and successful relationship.
It is one of the cornerstones to make the relationship grow and flourish. So if you want to make the relationship last as long as possible, you need to learn to trust each other, but how?
On the one hand, you want to blindly trust your partner, but you also know that it is something that needs to grow. You don’t feel safe from one day to the next with someone to share your feelings, emotions and thoughts. It takes time. But it is clear that it is worth working on trust.
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It’s more than not cheating
Most people think of trust in a relationship in terms of being sexually faithful to each other. Not flirting with others, kissing or having sex with anyone other than your partner. But this is only a small part of building trust. Being able to truly trust each other goes much further than that, and is the foundation of every successful and happy relationship .
That is why it is important for every relationship to work on trust. The fact that you are looking for ways to build and strengthen this trust is a good sign. It helps you to take the relationship to the next level, so that you can really open up in the relationship without fear of getting hurt.
But how do you build this trust with your partner? These are five steps to go through if you want to improve trust in your relationship.
1. Be reliable
Being reliable is the first step in building trust. Whatever you do and whatever you say, this means that you keep your word. You show up on time when you meet, don’t cancel appointments at the last minute and make sure that you do the chores that you say you will do. These are all the first steps, with which you ensure that your partner can count on you. And thanks to these small steps, you build the trust that you are there for your partner when it is really needed.
If you often disappoint your partner and are unable to keep your promises, it will be much harder for him or her to trust what you say or do. Moreover, trust is often not broken by one form of betrayal, such as an affair , but more often by a thousand little lies. All these lies pile up and eventually the relationship is over because your partner simply can’t trust you anymore. In other words, confidence in the present is determined by your actions in the past.
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2. Be transparent
The second step in creating trust is to be open and honest with your partner. This means that you are open about your feelings, expectations and ambitions, but also that you show the vulnerable side of yourself. And especially if you find this difficult, this is a powerful weapon to inspire confidence. Expressing your true feelings and emotions to your partner makes you vulnerable, but at the same time it is a requirement for the connection to grow.
If you don’t do this, the bond will remain on the surface and your partner will not get to know the real ‘me’. And if you don’t show the back of your tongue, it is much more difficult to build trust. The more you open yourself up, the better your partner gets to know you, the more your partner will trust you.
For example, share your secrets and tell your partner things you don’t tell anyone else. Also, don’t be afraid to talk about the tough topics. Your wishes for children, finances and your sex life; If you talk openly and honestly about everything, it is much easier to trust each other.
3. Be honest
Another step in building trust is being honest. In everything you say and do. In order to trust someone, you must be able to blindly assume that someone is telling the truth. Suppose you trust your partner and he confirms that the rent has already been paid, then you assume this is really the case. You trust it.
But if the rent turns out not to have been paid, this is a major dent in confidence. Every time you do not betray your partner’s trust, the trust increases a little.
On the other hand, if you continually lie about where you were or tell half-truths, trust cannot grow. What you say is not immediately judged to be the truth, because you are difficult to believe with a history of lying and cheating.
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4. Give your partner space
You build trust by giving trust. You give your partner the space and freedom to show that he or she deserves this trust. And in this way you create an atmosphere of safety, so that you can let each other go without the trust being betrayed. You do not check your partner’s messages, give the freedom to maintain social contacts and avoid any form of showing distrust.
If you don’t trust your partner, you will never feel ‘good’ in the relationship. You can start to doubt the relationship itself, but also the intentions of your partner. Without trust, fear arises and before you know it, you get all kinds of things in your head that are not based on the truth.
If you do this, it quickly becomes a trust issue that can destroy the relationship. Trusting each other means that you don’t always assume the worst-case scenario and give each other the benefit of the doubt.
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5. Understand that it takes time
Building trust takes time. Remember, it doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a work in progress for a long time , with many opportunities to break trust. But if you don’t, as you get to know your new partner on a deeper, more meaningful level, trust will continue to grow.
The agreements you keep, the sharing of your feelings and the honesty about what you tell your partner; these are all small steps you have to take to fully trust each other over time.
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