Bringing Flowers or a Gift to a First Date? This is What You Need to Know

Back in the good old days, when our parents were dating ‘back in the day’, it was the most normal thing in the world for a man to bring a bunch of flowers to his date. Nowadays, it seems like something that only happens in romantic movies, and modern singles are not really used to it anymore. The unwritten rule now seems to be that you don’t need to bring anything to a first date except a smile and your best manners.

But imagine if you did produce a bunch of flowers on your first date? What would happen? Well, that depends entirely on the lady in question. It can either surprise her positively or negatively. We will tell you more about it.

Why are flowers out of favor?

One of the reasons why flowers are no longer a popular gift is because many people choose to have their first meetings in public places. So it’s not really practical to have your date carry around a bunch of flowers all night. Where on earth would she put the arrangement? Bringing flowers may seem polite and super polite, but it’s not practical.

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It may come across as exaggerated

You don’t want to give the wrong impression by going big on the first date. It can quickly seem like you’re trying too hard, and that can be off-putting. It’s better to introduce yourself slowly before diving into the world of extravagant gifts. So bringing a gift just to impress isn’t such a smart idea. Materialistic things aren’t necessarily going to pique her interest. So if you think an expensive gift on the first date will help you, you’re probably wrong.

It is important to understand that you should not try to impress your date with material things. If you do, you will not only set the wrong expectations, but you may also attract the wrong type of people. It can seem like you are trying to win her over with gifts instead of your personality.

You also don’t want the gift to be the focus. Imagine bringing a beautiful gift and it’s all your date talks about. You don’t want the conversation to be about the gift instead of the two of you. Let yourself shine, not the wrapping paper.

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It might get uncomfortable

Another reason not to bring a gift is that it can create an awkward situation . Most women just want to get to know you, and if you suddenly come up with a gift, it can cause surprise and confusion. It seems a bit forced and maybe even a bit desperate.

Not everyone values ​​material gifts. Some people prefer a genuine, emotional connection. That’s why it’s better to show that you care about who they are, not what they can get from you. Your true personality and character are far more valuable than any gift. Focus on building a genuine connection rather than handing out gifts.

Some women find receiving a gift pushy, a little creepy , or even unwanted. That’s not the image you want to portray to your date. Plus, it can confuse your date about whether she should have brought you something too. To avoid confusion, save the gift for later. Or better yet, don’t buy a gift at all.

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When is it a good idea?

However, there are situations where bringing a gift can make a good impression on your date. If you happen to come across something you would like to give her and it is not too expensive, this can work in your favor.

A subtle, personal memento can be a thoughtful and appreciated gift. It doesn’t have to be big or expensive, but it should show that you’ve paid attention to what your date enjoys. Think a book by their favorite author, a keychain that references a shared hobby, or even a funny postcard that reminisces about your conversations.

Imagine she loves a certain type of chocolate that is hard to find in the Netherlands, and you happen to come across it during your holiday – why not bring it for her? It doesn’t have to cost a lot, but it does show that you pay attention to the little things she told you. How to bring it up:

• I brought you something small, because I happened to come across this.
• I remembered that you like [interest/hobby] so I thought you might appreciate this.
• I thought of you when I saw this, so I couldn’t resist bringing it home for you.

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A bottle of wine or a special drink

A bottle of wine or a bottle of their favorite tipple can also be a nice gesture, provided they are drinking of course. It opens up the opportunity to toast together to a great night and creates a casual, relaxed atmosphere. Plus, it gives you something to talk about.

Homemade treats

If you are a talented cook, which we definitely are not, consider bringing a homemade treat. Bake your famous chocolate chip cookies or make a jar of homemade jam. It adds a personal touch and shows that you have put time and effort into creating something special.

When a gift is an option, it’s not about the gift itself, it’s about the gesture. If you decide to bring something for your date who’s not at home, choose something small and handy that will easily fit in her purse. If you don’t have a specific and unique gift idea, it might be best to just not bring anything at all.

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