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Have you always been single? Do you wonder if you will stay single forever? And do others call you the ‘eternal bachelor’? If you nodded three times to these questions, it is clear that your relationship status has never changed.
Always single?
It is common knowledge that relationships are not for everyone. The responsibilities, obligations and chores. Some even see relationships as a black hole that sucks away all freedom, making them unable to enjoy life. At least not in the way they would like to. That is why they remain single on purpose .
Others are not single by choice. They want a relationship, but they are unable to find one. They try, but fail every time. These are the people who are reluctantly and disgustedly called the ‘perpetual bachelor’. And these are also the ones who are tired of always being single. Sound familiar? If this sounds like you, we have the answers you are looking for.
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8 Strategies to Not Stay Single Forever
When it comes to your unwanted single status, it’s hard not to feel like you’re a victim. By society, by the dating process, and by the choices of others. But the reality is that you have more power over your romantic destiny than you think.
You may not be able to change the dating world, but you can change how you function in it. We’ll explain how to do that with these eight strategies.
1. Think about the reason
We tend to see relationships as an external factor. It involves another person, so it is separated from the inner world. But what if you examine the lack of a love relationship within yourself? Introspection – as it is called – helps to examine your own thoughts, feelings and motives. It can tell you where things are going wrong and where you can improve yourself.
Why are you having trouble finding a relationship? What is the real reason why you are still single? While some people have no idea, others – if they are completely honest – can give the answer right away. In any case, it is the first task you can start with. Ask yourself this question: what is stopping you from finding someone?
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2. Work on your ‘problems’
Once you think you know where the problem is, that’s the first thing you need to work on. Are you too demanding? Do you have unrealistic expectations? Trust issues? Or something else?
Are you too demanding?
You are very clear about what you want from a relationship, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s achievable. While it’s good to have some desires, remember that no one is perfect. Think about which desires aren’t necessary and narrow down the deal breakers.
Do you have unrealistic expectations?
Unfortunately, the fantasy relationship you have in your head will often remain a dream if you don’t adjust your expectations. Unrealistic expectations create impossible situations. If you don’t bend to what’s “available,” your relationship status will likely never change.
Do you have trust issues?
Bitter experiences from the past can have a negative impact on the present. If you have trust issues , it is difficult to enter into a relationship. Trust is essential for a relationship.
3. Be at peace with it
If you are desperate for love, you will not find it. That is the common thought when you try too hard to find a relationship. The problem with this is that people can smell hopelessness from a mile away. It is not attractive. The mindset of dating because you have to find someone is not successful.
Dating isn’t about getting another relationship status. It’s about getting to know another person who has the potential to be an addition to your life.
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4. Overcome shyness
One of the biggest reasons people are still single later in life ? It’s shyness. You may be an introvert, but that doesn’t mean you have to shut yourself off from the world. It just tells you that you have to work harder than others. Yes, it asks you to step outside your comfort zone. And yes, it’s hard. But if that’s what it takes, that’s the part you have to overcome.
6. Make time for it
When you have a busy work schedule and no time to do anything after work, dating becomes almost impossible. Going home and relaxing on the couch is great after a busy day at work. But it is not conducive to your dating life. Your career will significantly reduce your chances if you can barely find time to make connections.
Deprioritize your work and other commitments and prioritize finding a partner . In other words, stop saying you’re “too busy to date.”
6. Be patient
Finding a relationship requires patience. There is no simple dating tip that will have you in a relationship tomorrow. If we look at the statistics, it comes down to the fact that no one has to be single. Almost everyone on this planet will find someone, and that includes you if you want to. A relationship is a realistic goal. It is not having a Lamborghini Urus in your garage by your thirtieth birthday or having your own yacht in Monaco harbor.
Generally speaking, anyone can get into a relationship. Maybe not on the timeline you have in mind, and maybe not before the stroke of midnight on your thirtieth birthday. Unless you’re serving a life sentence, sooner or later you’ll meet that one person.
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7. Accept that it’s not easy
If you think finding a relationship is a huge challenge, you’re not alone. There are more singles these days – far more than in decades past – and fewer people in relationships. And what’s even more alarming: it doesn’t look like it’s getting any easier. So if you’re thinking that finding a relationship has gotten harder than it was years ago, you’re right.
8. Do something about it
Being single is like being a virgin . It is not something you can change without some kind of effort. At the same time, a relationship is not something that just happens. You have to work for it. Making yourself available to others, in whatever form, is essential. And that means that you have to step out of your safe bubble every now and then.
Is there a networking event you can attend? A friend who asks you out for a drink? A new dating app in the Netherlands? Or is there a speed dating event in your city? You could choose to stay in your comfort zone, but that is exactly what you should not do. If you no longer want to be the eternal bachelor, then you are the only one who can change that.
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