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When it comes to dating, it’s not much different than the social experiments that flood YouTube. From the moment you first meet, you’re tested and tested by little tests. But unlike the pranks that lure casual gold diggers into renting a Ferrari , dating experiments do have a purpose.
Playing hard to get tests your interest, messages that are not answered immediately say something about your patience and so on. We all know the tests. Moreover, it is not only women who test their new partners. Men are guilty of it too. Because let’s be honest: there are some things you would rather know today than tomorrow.
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Men test women
Both consciously and unconsciously, men test women in various ways. You can call it a mind game, but what they are actually doing is finding out if you are a good fit for them. They want to know who you are. And to find out, they come up with all sorts of little tests. These are 9 ways men test women.
1. The look on your phone
Have you noticed that he casually reads along when you send a text message? Or does he check who’s calling when your phone rings? He probably doesn’t even care who you’re talking to. He doesn’t have to be jealous at all. And he might not even be looking. He wants to know how you react to it: a mini-test to see if you’re loyal to him. Because if you want to prevent him from reading along at all costs, then you might have something to hide, he thinks.
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2. The recurring question
Do you have an opinion of your own or are you just pandering to him? There is only one way to find out: the recurring question. And if he is smart, he will ask the same question – just in a different way. Both men and women deliberately return to previously discussed topics, to check whether your opinion has changed. When a man does this, he wants to know whether you have an opinion of your own and do not simply agree with everything he says.
3. The blue check marks
Did he read your message but not respond? Sometimes guys do this on purpose to test how you will respond. Do you keep texting until you get a response? Do you call him? Or worse, do you seek him out? How you handle the unanswered blue checks says something about how you will be in a relationship. Can he still hang out with friends without his new flame taking up all the attention?
4. The mixed signals
Now, we should say that not all men play this game, but sending mixed signals can be intentional and used to test you. It’s one of those classic dating games that gets played: one day he’s sweet and interested, the next day he’s distant and unreachable . If you don’t hear from him, do you approach him? Do you ask him what’s going on? How you handle his mixed signals tells him something about who you are.
5. The other woman
He might tell you something nice about something he did with another woman or make a comment about how cute the other woman looks. Why would he do that? In fact, in most cases it’s a mini-test to see how you’ll react. Do you get super jealous and walk away when he compliments another woman? Or do you listen and realize that anyone can be attracted to more than one person?
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6. The borders
Many men want to know how far they can go with their behavior. They may even do things they don’t even want to do, just to test your temperament. Do you stand up for yourself? Do you keep it civil? Can you make a normal argument or do you burst into tears? Men can deliberately test your boundaries, be aware of that.
7. The bill
It’s the familiar scenario on a first date: the check is put on the table and both of you look at each other. Who’s going to pay the bill? Splitting the bill is no longer old-fashioned . But if he suggests paying the bill, he’s testing how you’ll react. Do you offer to split it? Or if he leaves the bill on the table for a long time, he could be testing you. He doesn’t expect you to pay the bill, but he’d like to see you at least offer to.
8. The Night Call
“Hey, still up?” At 3am, this is a text with one goal: sex. He might try to reach out at night, like after a night out, to test if you’re open to a late-night booty call . And if he passes this test, he’ll know where to go next time he’s had another drink. If he doesn’t, he’ll know you’re worth more than just sex .
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9. The hypothetical questions
They seem like innocent questions that have no further meaning, but the hypothetical questions he asks do have a purpose. Because some of those hypothetical questions are not as hypothetical as you might think, and contain a kernel of reality somewhere. With these questions he tests your open-mindedness. And while you may not even answer the questions seriously, he analyzes your answers in the meantime.
As you can read, men – just like women – perform all kinds of tests to lure you out. But deep down, they mainly want to know what you are like as their future partner. Do you understand him? Do you not want to change him? And will you support him?
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