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People look back at the past with longing: “Everything used to be better.” Nostalgia wins over modern times and often the well-known phrase is used. In the case of dating, this is perhaps a truth that no one can deny. It is different, very different.
There are many things that men no longer do today that have made the dating world very different from what it used to be . The same goes for not only dating, but also relationships in general. In the past, marriage was the norm, while now more and more people are not taking that step. But that’s not the only thing that’s different.
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6 Things Men Don’t Do Anymore
Times have changed a lot. Where men used to be true gentlemen who tried to court one woman, the current trend is that a man with multiple women is the most respected. Men behave differently, date differently and no longer do things they once did. Here are 6 things men no longer do.
1. Men don’t put in as much effort anymore
Men nowadays don’t put much effort into a date. In the past, it was normal for a man to go to the hairdresser, get his best outfit out of the closet and put on his best perfume. They really did everything to make the best possible impression on his date. From picking him up at home to opening all the doors: men today have it easy. Men in the past were real men .
Now it is a bit more relaxed for men. Nowadays men do not do this to such an extreme. You are lucky if they have showered and put on a clean outfit. It is a pity that a date is no longer as special as it used to be for men in the past. During such a date men often appeared in an impeccable suit and on top of that he even brought you a flower .
2. Men don’t ask women to dance anymore
Men who can dance well have become rare. Unlike the old days when couples would dance together, there are groups of women on the dance floor and the men stand on the sidelines. They watch or ignore them, but they no longer ask women to dance. Not only are women not asked to dance, men no longer offer women a drink. Not even if they have a conversation for minutes in order to get her to come home.
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3. Gallant men are hard to find these days
Men are also not as gallant as they used to be. In the past, men would hold the door open for you when you went in somewhere. This was the way a man showed a woman that he was brought up properly and well-mannered. He would take your coat and even push your chair when you sat down, like a real man should.
Even when you went out together, he made sure he was ready with your coat. Waiting for your arms to help you put it on. This gave women the feeling that they meant something to the man, special and unique . Now you don’t have to expect a man to open the door for you or take your coat when you go somewhere.
4. There used to be a lot of romance
What was also much more present in the past, and is almost absent today, is romance . In the past, it was very normal for a man to write you a love letter or make poems. Later, when cassette tapes came into fashion, a man would make a cassette tape of your favorite music or he would put together a tape with music that reminded him of you. This is something you will not experience today.
Romance has almost disappeared. Dating is often just about sex and the conversations seem to be limited to that. In the past, you would go on a date and a man would ask you if you wanted to dance. That dancing was really ballroom dancing and not just a bit of bumping into each other.
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5. On a date to find the one
In the past, a man would go on dates to find his future husband. It wasn’t like he had three or four dates a week – like men do today – to find the one. Often there was one woman who was special. For that woman, a man would do his utmost to court her. A man was monogamous, even before he had a real relationship. Monogamy was the norm and the opposite was actually not very common.
Of course there were playboys , but they were looked at negatively. It was also very normal to go on a blind date . For example, if a man heard through acquaintances or friends that a woman could be a good match.
6. Getting to know someone for love
One of the things that men don’t do anymore is go on dates to go on dates and really get to know someone. The current generation of men regularly go on dates to get into bed with someone as quickly as possible. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule, but in general, many men have one goal. And that is not love.
In the past, a date was purely about getting to know each other and there was never the expectation of sex. Sex on the first date was rare. Talking about sex was also taboo and that made the bond that used to be built much stronger. If you meet a man online, it quickly turns to sex and once you have talked about it, it seems to be the only thing he can talk about.
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Many differences from the past
So there are many differences to mention with the past. Men do many things differently and that makes the entire dating process very different from the past. It is of course also true that women have played a role in this. It cannot be that only men have caused this difference. Women have also become easier over the years. They no longer really expect to be seduced. And because of the longer expectations, a man simply has to make less effort.
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