Share This Article
In a world where most connections are digital, we sometimes forget what it’s like to connect with someone in person. Just as we all have a need for food, humans also have a fundamental and innate need for deeper connections.
If you can train yourself to connect with someone, it will be a great addition to your life. Not only with partners, but also with your family or friends. Do you find it difficult to connect deeply with someone? We will tell you more about it.
What is a deep connection?
Having a deep connection with someone means that you can do and say whatever you want without fear of pushing someone away or pushing them away. You can say whatever feels most genuine because you know that you will always have the other person’s respect and love. When you have a deep connection with someone, you know that the other person values you – flaws and all.
ALSO READ: Why Self-love Starts With Recognizing Your Limits
9 Tips to Create a Deep Connection
Everyone longs for someone who comes with empathy, listens to you deeply, and accepts you for who you are. A deep connection brings great happiness because it makes you feel loved and accepted – whether it’s romantic or social in nature. Learning to go deep and develop emotional connections will take your social skills to the next level.
1. See if you can find a nice vibe
All connections with other people start at the beginning: a first conversation. And as with all conversations, it is easier to start with small talk . By not going too deep right away, you can see in a superficial way whether you have a certain vibe with someone.
Do you have the same energy? Are there similarities? How does the other person respond to more personal questions? You can test all of this with small talk, because it tells you whether it is possible to have deeper conversations with this person.
2. Make the other person feel comfortable
How do you make people feel comfortable? You can do this by asking personal questions and sharing personal details yourself. Also ask some deeper questions and listen without judging. Your non-verbal communication is also important. With a simple nod or facial expression you can already put the other person at ease.
3. Alternate conversations with lightheartedness
Building a deeper connection is not something you can rush. It takes time. So make sure it is not just about going deep. For example, if you are on a date with someone, alternate the deep conversations with light topics and make room for humor and laughter. The conversation should feel sincere and not like an interrogation.
ALSO READ: 4 Reasons To Indicate Your Limits
There’s also the danger that it can feel invasive – an unwanted invasion of personal space. People are cautious when they first share personal details. Digging too much can make them feel like they’re sharing too much, which can make them hold back in the future.
4. Don’t try to come up with solutions
People tend to ‘fix’ other people. When someone shares something personal about a problem they are trying to deal with, people often come up with ‘solutions’ to fix the problem. But that is not the point. Instead of looking for solutions or sharing facts, it is more important to listen.
5. Build a relationship of trust
You can only build a deep connection if there is mutual trust. That you can share something with the other person without being judged. Does the other person trust you? Then they can more easily open up and share personal things with you. The other person then trusts that their private information is safe with you.
ALSO READ: My Journey to Recovery: How I Ultimately Overcame Burnout
6. Laugh together
Some people think that emotional connection is all about deep conversations, heavy feelings and childhood traumas. But connection can also be based on jokes and laughing together. Laughter releases dopamine, which communicates that you share a similar personality. The more specific your humor, the more connected you are.
Laughing together about a certain comedy movie can be good, but you can also laugh about a certain moment, situation or event that you experienced together. An inside joke, for example, will only strengthen your connection further.
7. Experience new things together
People enjoy new experiences. And when you share new experiences with someone else, it connects you in a positive way. For example, if you go bungee jumping together, or something else that is on your bucket list , it will give the other person a great feeling. This great feeling will then link this person to you. So making memories together creates a deep connection.
Exciting activities create a special bond. Doing something exciting or slightly risky produces the same chemicals that are responsible for falling in love. So if you are going on a date, it is advisable to go on a roller coaster together, rather than going out to eat together.
ALSO READ: Overcoming Burnout: How to Rebuild Confidence in Your Recovery Journey
8. Let the bond develop naturally
Creating a deep connection is not something you can do quickly. It can’t happen overnight: it’s a process of growth. Trying to force the connection is a common mistake. Instead, you want to give people time to come out of their shell and make a deeper connection. That’s the only way the bond can deepen.
9. Name the special connection
Do you feel like you’ve created a deep connection together? Then it’s time to name this connection. Tell him or her that you feel like you have a good connection, a connection that you don’t have with others. Emotions are fleeting. And when you label emotions, you can amplify them and make the emotional bond official.
P.S. Are you already following Gistinger.com on Facebook , Instagram and Twitter?