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Do you hate dating so much that you are still single? You are not alone. One of the well-known examples is swimming champion Inge de Bruijn who also hates it. She is not alone either. There are many singles who hate it.
Only a small percentage of singles actually enjoy dating. The rest are willing to give everything in exchange for a relationship without the awkward series of first dates. Dating is not only time-consuming, but also frustrating, especially when that one great match is not so great in real life.
The easiest thing would be to meet someone at work or in the supermarket. But that only seems to happen in movies. Why don’t you meet someone while you’re just living your life? Unfortunately, the reality is very different from what you see on TV.
The dating process is tiring, so after a few failed dates you already wonder if it is something for you. Constantly going through the same process of the standard and cliché questions followed by intensive chat contact via Whatsapp only to be disappointed again; you hate doing this every time.
Relationship status: sleeping in my bed diagonally.
If this happens once, it’s not a big deal. But online dating comes with passive rejections , missed opportunities , and confusion. When you meet someone who doesn’t meet your needs, it’s no wonder you feel helpless and start to hate dating.
The fact remains that online dating is currently the best way to find love; it is efficient and effective. If you hate dating, you can make the process a little easier to bear with these dating tips .
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1. Don’t tell yourself it’s hard
Dating only becomes difficult when you tell yourself this. The problem is often not the time you spend dating, nor is it the problem of finding people who want to date you. The problem is with you, nowhere else. When you look at dating positively , you will find that the whole process becomes a little easier. Tell yourself that dating is fun; in fact, it is an experience you will never forget.
2. Skip the wish list
One of the biggest problems singles face when dating online is the demands and desires of the picky single. These singles have a wish list that the perfect single must meet. Unfortunately, almost no single can meet this unique combination of demands. This leaves you open to disappointment . Give the others a chance, even if they do not fully meet your strict requirements.
3. Do something different
The reason why singles can get annoyed with online dating? It’s the repetition of the same conversations. Where do you live? What are your hobbies? Do you like going out? These are the standard questions you get every day when you don’t know someone yet. It’s only logical that this gets boring. Prevent yourself from having to have such a conversation again and start with creative and in-depth questions yourself to get to know someone in an interesting way.
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4. Don’t set your own bar too high
If there is one statement that is cliché, it is “be yourself”. However, there is a reason why this is a cliché. Only when you are yourself and show yourself as you are, can you be successful in dating. When you edit your selfies to the last detail to show the perfect, but unnatural version of yourself on the dating app, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
You don’t have to make yourself and your life more beautiful than it is. The version you show others is too high for yourself. The result is that you have to spend too much attention and time to meet your own high standards, while dating should be relaxed and you can really be yourself with the other person.
5. Adjust your expectations
Fall in love on the first date? Almost nobody succeeds, unless you are very lucky. In reality, most singles need several or even countless dates before someone with the X-factor comes along. Therefore, do not expect too much from the dates and realize in advance that it can always end in disappointment, no matter how nice the other person seems. As soon as you do not expect too much from dating, the nerves will decrease and you will be less nervous about the first date .
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6. Accept who you are
Some singles who hate dating think they are not good enough to compete with all those good-looking singles. This is a wrong image of online dating. There are millions of Dutch singles members on the apps, each with a different preference, taste and type. The saying “there is a lid for every pot” also applies to online dating.
Everyone is good enough. You only need to succeed once to say goodbye to everything dating related for good. Every date you go on is one step closer to finding the one.
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7. Don’t take it too seriously
Online dating is not mandatory. You can start and stop whenever you want. If you want to have nothing on your mind for a day, then that is okay. It is an extra in your life that you can turn off whenever you want. A profile can be created in a few minutes and turned off just as quickly. Just because you try it, does not mean you are bound to it for a long time. Take online dating with a grain of salt so that it never dominates your life.
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