Don’t Feel Like Dating? 15 Messages You Can Send Right Now

Dating is an exciting experience. It can overwhelm you with curiosity, excitement and anxiety. Is your match really that sweet? Will the sparks fly in real life? And will this meeting be the start of something beautiful?

In most cases, you are eagerly looking forward to meeting that person. After weeks of chatting, video calling and exchanging memes, you have become very curious. But sometimes the anticipation is a bit less. You doubt whether that person is a good match for you. The conversations have become a bit dull. Or after a long work week, you feel more like just lying on the couch. What now?

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Don’t feel like dating?

At some point in your dating life, you’ll reach a point where you want to postpone or cancel a date. Something has changed in the last few days that has made you not want to go out. You’re feeling drained and that’s not how you want to present yourself. Or you suddenly realize that you ’re not ready to date. Whatever the reason , it helps to know how to cancel a date.

What exactly you say to cancel the date depends on the situation. The circumstances and your intentions will determine what is right. Whether you plan on rescheduling or not, there is always a way to be honest – without being rude or hurting anyone’s feelings. We’ll tell you how to get out of the date, based on your situation.

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Cancel date at the last minute

Nobody likes to cancel a date. But sometimes life gets in the way and you can’t avoid canceling. Maybe you have to work late or someone needs your help. Use these phrases when you need to cancel a date at the last minute.

1. “I’m sorry, but something came up tonight and I can’t get out of it. I really want to see you again! Can you make it tomorrow night?”
2. “Sorry, I hope you haven’t left yet, because I can’t make it. I have to cover for a colleague. Can we reschedule?”
3. “You won’t believe this, but I’m stuck in traffic. I don’t think I’m going to make it to our date. Should we reschedule? I don’t want you to wait there for hours for me.”
4. “I’m sorry, but I’m not feeling well. I think it would be better if we didn’t meet tonight. Are you available on Friday?”
5. “My sister just called with bad news. She needs me, so I don’t think I can make it in time for the date. I’m sorry, but I’ll make it up to you!”

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Cancel and reschedule date

If you like the person you are going to date, but don’t feel like meeting up right now, it’s important to give a valid reason. On the one hand, you tell them honestly why you can’t meet up, and on the other hand, you make it clear that you would still like to schedule a date – just on a different day. You could say something like this:

6. “Hi! Bad news. I have to [……….] and will miss our appointment. I’m so sorry to have to cancel our date, but I’d like to reschedule. When would you be available?”
7. “Sorry, I have to reschedule our date. Something [……….] happened that makes me unable to make it. Let me know when you can.”
8. “Hey, I can’t make it Friday, unfortunately. My [……….] is [……….]. But I’d love to meet you! Are you available Saturday?”
9. “Sometimes I really hate [……….]. I have to cancel our date because of it. But I still want to meet you. When are you available?”
10. “Hi, I have a problem. At the same time as our date, a [……….] is scheduled. Unfortunately, I have to be there. I am very sorry, but I would like to see you again. Let me know when you are free and I will clear my schedule!”

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Cancel date forever

Not wanting to date could also mean that you’ve changed your mind. You’ve seen a few more photos and now you’re really doubting the attraction. Or you’ve lost interest in your match along the way. It can all happen. In this situation, you could share the following:

11. “Hey, I’ve been thinking about it and I don’t think we’re a good match. So I’d like to cancel the date and leave it at that. I hope you understand. Good luck in the future!”
12. “I find it hard to say this. But I am no longer interested in our appointment. What I feel is that I [……….]. I wish you all the best!”
13. “Hey, now that we’ve talked a bit more I’ve come to the conclusion that [……….]. So I’d like to cancel our date. Good luck with [……….] and I hope you find a good match.”
14. “Hey, I have to tell you something. Over the past few days, I’ve changed my mind. I don’t think we’re a good fit. That’s why I’d like to cancel the date. I wish you the best!”
15. “Now that I know you better, you seem like a great person, but not the right person for me. That’s why I want to cancel the date. Good luck!”

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Don’t feel like going on the date?

All these examples are ready to use to send if you want to cancel the date, in whatever situation. Life is unpredictable and something can always come up, even when it is not wanted at all. Whether you are exhausted from work or suddenly have a flu: it is often impossible to predict.

When you cancel the date, whether you do it via text or DM, always make sure you tell them quickly, clearly, and directly. There’s no point beating around the bush. It’ll just make things confusing. If you do it the right way , the other person will appreciate it. It sure beats ghosting , right?

Also be precise and clear about how you want to proceed. If you want to reschedule the date, say so right away. Offer a time in the near future to be able to switch quickly and remove the other person’s doubts. If you don’t want that, and want to cancel the date for good, make that clear.

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