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Dating is synonymous with difficult choices. In the age of dating apps, this is even more true than years ago. It can be quite complicated if you want to survive. And it is even more complex if you want to do everything right. Because how do you deal with a situation that is unknown to you?
Unfamiliar situations are common when it comes to dating. They are part of the difficult choices singles have to make. Do you send the first message or leave it up to the other person? Do you choose a funny opening line or start with a “hi”? And do you kiss on the first date or wait longer? Choices, choices and more difficult choices.
Dating app happn has asked over 1,000 singles to answer some of the toughest questions . What do most singles do in a given situation? What do they prefer? And are you doing it ‘right’? We’ll go through them one by one.
1. Send the first message or wait for the other person to send the first message?
Traditionally, it was always the man who sent the first message . But do singles still think this way? According to the research, these gender roles still exist. 77% of men indicate that they prefer to send the first message themselves. Women are less likely to make the first move . Only 41% of them like to start the conversation themselves.
In total, 69% of singles want to send the first message themselves. The other part, 31%, prefers to wait for a message from the other.
2. Received a funny opening line or ‘hey, how are you?’
If you had to choose between two unappealing options, which would you prefer? In other words, would you rather receive a funny opening line or a “hey, how are you?” According to the research, 62% of respondents would rather receive a funny opening line, while 38% would rather receive a “hey, how are you?”
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3. Chat with someone for a long time before meeting up or meet someone after a few days of chatting?
How long do you keep chatting with someone before you feel comfortable enough to meet up? As you can imagine, men are more likely to want to meet up than women, and this is confirmed by the research. 76% of men prefer to go on a date after a few days of exchanging messages. Women, on the other hand, are a bit more reserved, as 54% of female singles are ready to meet up after a few days.
Overall, most singles (71%) would rather go on a date after just a few days of contact. 29% would rather have a longer period of contact before considering a date.
4. Be on time for your first date or just 5-10 minutes late?
Do you make a good impression by arriving punctually? Or would you rather arrive a little late to avoid having to wait for the other person? This difficult choice is not difficult for most singles. 89% of singles like to arrive punctually. A small portion of respondents, 11%, prefer to be fashionably late .
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5. You meet your date in real life for the first time, what do you do: three kisses on the cheek, a hug or a handshake?
After you’ve gotten to know each other pretty well by exchanging messages, the first date is on the agenda. And there you are, standing in front of the entrance of the bowling alley: waiting for your date. Suddenly, you’re tapped on the shoulder. You turn around and are face to face with your potential lover. What do you do? Do you give three kisses on the cheek, do you extend your hand or do you go for the hug?
If you’re like most singles, you give three kisses on the cheek. That’s what 45% of respondents do. Another group gives a hug , with 39% of respondents preferring this. The remaining 16% prefer to shake hands.
6. Should you send a message right away after a first date or wait a little longer?
After the date, you are left struggling with dozens of questions. How do I feel about the other person? Is a second date possible? And: what did I say? The questions can be overwhelming. That is why you may not send a message right away, because you first want to explore your feelings and thoughts.
45% of singles prefer to wait – partly for this reason – to send a message after the date. However, 55% does not need any time and sends a message immediately.
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7. Kissing on a first date: go or no-go?
Suppose there is a click, chemistry, and mutual attraction. Do you go for the kiss? 75% answer this question with a yes . But not everyone. 25% of respondents do not think kissing on the first date is okay.
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8. Go home with someone after a first date or wait for a few dates?
If you are up for extending the date, do you go home with the other person? Or would you rather wait a few dates to confirm that it is safe ? While this choice is easy for men, it can be a difficult one for women.
37% of men say they want to go home with someone after a first date. Women are a bit more reserved in this regard. They prefer to wait. Only 18% of female singles go home with someone after a first date.
Overall, more than two-thirds of respondents (67%) would rather go home with someone after a few dates. However, a third would be willing to go home with someone after the first date.
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