6 Signs He Doesn’t Want a Commitment to You

In the beginning of a relationship it can be quite confusing. You wonder where you stand and what the other person actually expects from you. Are you on the same wavelength in terms of intentions and do you think the same about the (joint) future. If you haven’t known each other for long, it can be quite an adventure – and sometimes just a little scary.

What is most important? That you listen to your own feelings. If that little voice in your head tells you that something is not quite right, then you need to take it seriously. For example, he may tell you that he wants a steady relationship, but if his behavior says otherwise, then it is time to get clarity.

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16 Signs He Doesn’t Want a Commitment to You

People are complex and so are relationships. Sometimes it can take a while to figure out what someone really wants in a relationship. But if you have the feeling that he doesn’t want a committed relationship with you, there are often clear signs that you can ignore for a longer period of time.

1. He often only texts you when he’s drunk

You know how it is, those late night texts after a night out where he suddenly seems to miss you. Let’s face it, if his phone is mostly a drunk dialer, that’s not a sign of a deep connection. It sounds like he’s mostly using you in his most debauched moments, as a booty call .

2. He avoids meeting your friends and family

When it comes to meeting the important people in your life, he always finds excuses to get out of it. This could be a sign that he doesn’t really want to get involved in your world.

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3. He is surprised when you run into him unexpectedly

In a solid relationship, it doesn’t matter where and when you meet, it should always be a pleasant surprise. However, if he seems surprised when you see him unexpectedly, it’s a hint that he only wants to see you when it’s convenient for him.

4. He avoids making plans for the future

You can tell he’s reserved when it comes to future plans , whether it’s vacations, holidays, or even just a weekend away. He doesn’t seem particularly interested in building a future together.

5. He often doesn’t make himself heard

No matter how busy someone is, sending a quick text should always be possible, right? In a healthy relationship, it’s important to keep each other updated and interested in each other’s lives. If he doesn’t respond for days, you may wonder if he really has a future with you in mind.

6. He avoids serious conversations

Whenever you talk about your long-term relationship, he either avoids the topic or makes jokes about it. This leaves you with no idea what he really wants. What does this mean? It’s clear: he has no intention of getting serious.

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7. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends

When a guy is serious about a relationship, he can’t wait to introduce you to his friends. If he keeps you and his friends strictly separated, especially after more than two months of dating, that’s a red flag . If he keeps making excuses why this can’t happen, it’s time to ask yourself what’s really going on.

8. He doesn’t want to sleep together

If he never wants to sleep over at your place and doesn’t want you to sleep over at his place either, you need to ask yourself why. In a serious relationship, you want to wake up together, regardless of early work hours and other commitments. You’ll find a way. If he really cares about your relationship, he can always pack his work clothes and go straight to his job.

9. There is a lack of emotional involvement

You feel that there is an emotional distance . It all remains a bit superficial. He rarely shares his feelings with you and doesn’t seem to be really interested in what’s going on in your life. Your conversations usually stay on the surface and rarely go into deeper topics such as dreams, goals, or personal beliefs.

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10. He only wants to meet at home

If he never bothers to plan a real date and only wants to meet at your place or his, that is suspicious. Especially if he cancels a nice date to just hang out at home later. Early in the relationship, he should make an effort to make your time together special.

11. He doesn’t want to see you if sex isn’t an option

A clear sign that he might be using you? It’s when he only wants to meet up if there’s a possibility of intimacy. If you mention that you’re on your monthly period and then he suddenly disappears, chances are he’s not looking for a future together, but rather something purely physical.

12. He protects his phone

If he is guarding his phone and doesn’t want to show you what’s on it, that could be a warning sign. You may not be the only one in his life. In an honest relationship, he shouldn’t keep secrets from you and just leave his phone lying around.

13. He doesn’t keep you informed

He doesn’t communicate with you regularly and often leaves messages unanswered. It seems like he doesn’t really make an effort to stay in touch. When push comes to shove, you’re always the one reaching out.

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14. He remains active on dating apps

You’ve noticed that he’s still active on dating apps or websites , which makes you a little unsure about his intentions. Does he want a serious relationship with you now, or are you an option? If he’s still active on dating apps, then that’s all you need to know: he’s keeping his options open and doesn’t want to be exclusive with you.

15. He is inconsistent in his attention

Sometimes he seems completely into you, but other times he seems distant and indifferent. Because he exhibits this push-and-pull behavior , you never really know where you stand. You may even feel like he’s hiding things from you or being vague about certain aspects of his life. These are all signs that he probably doesn’t want a committed relationship with you.

16. He has no interest in solving problems

When you get into a conflict, he doesn’t seem to want to put in any real effort. Solving the problems or understanding your perspective? He doesn’t care. This lack of effort shows that he’s not willing to fight for the relationship .

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