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There you are, in a cozy café with Sarah, the young lady you have had your eye on for a while. The evening has been going smoothly so far: you have laughed together, the conversation flows easily and the chemistry is impossible to ignore. But then that crucial moment arrives, the minutes tick away like a time bomb and you feel the tension rising. Should you kiss her or not?
You’re mentally scrolling through every dating tip you’ve ever read and heard. “Watch her body language,” your best friend’s voice echoes in your head. Okay, she’s playing with her hair and maintaining eye contact. And you’re also noticing the classic “eye-lip-eye” maneuver. Are these the signals? Is she hinting that she wants a kiss, or am I completely missing the point? We’ll tell you more.
What the dating rules say
The jumble of old-fashioned dating rules, they don’t make life any easier, do they? You know how it is: that standard formula of dinner plus a movie as a first date . Then that eternal three-day wait before you pick up the phone. And oh yeah, the man has to show up with a bunch of roses on top of that. Seriously, who does that these days? And then there’s that one golden rule that everyone should follow: ‘ never kiss on the first date ‘.
As if you didn’t have enough to deal with trying to decode mixed signals, the unwritten rules don’t make it any easier. And the problem is, women deal with them differently. Some women swear by them, clinging to the dusty dating rules . But then there are those who move with the times and think, “Hey, why not?”
So there you are, a man, with your mouth full of teeth. Literally. Thanks to the confusing advice and unclear rules, you are in an emotional split and you ask yourself: ‘Do I go for it or do I hold back?’ The doubt is understandable. Let’s face it, the unpredictability of the whole thing makes it both exciting and unsettling. How do you know for sure whether you can kiss her?
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10 Signs She Wants a Kiss from You
Luckily for you, Sherlock, there are clues that can help you unravel her cryptic behavior. Whether she’s subtle or loud and clear, these signals are essentially her way of telling you, “Hey, kiss me!” But one signal doesn’t mean anything. It’s all about seeing the bigger picture. When you spot a whole bunch of signals, it’s time to pop the champagne—she’s open for a kiss. Here are ten signs you can’t miss.
1. She turns all the way to you
Let’s be honest, you can’t kiss her ear, right? If she keeps turning her body towards you, this is a silent sign that she likes you. Also pay attention to her open posture: arms relaxed at her sides, and face, chest, yes even her feet pointed in your direction. These are clear signals that she is into you . And if you are in her personal space and she still turns towards you, then you are already halfway there.
Some extra tips? Pay attention to whether she seems youthful, available, and fertile . That’s a natural way for women to flirt. It may sound like a biology lesson, but it’s all in the subtle hints of body language:
- Is she playing with her hair as if it were part of a dance?
- Does she laugh at all your lame jokes like you’re the new stand-up comedian?
- Does she give you a glimpse of her neck and throat, those sexy zones ?
- Does she have the giggles?
- Is she secretly checking you out?
- Does she imitate your gestures or movements?
2. She touches you
When she touches you, she’s basically saying, “Come closer.” Touch is like the ultimate flashing neon sign that screams, “Kiss me now!” If she’s interested, she’ll find a reason to use that touch. The more it happens, the more likely you’ll be to land that kiss without any problems.
And remember, touch is a two-way street. Make some subtle moves yourself to break through that ‘touch barrier’. Start with a light touch and slowly work your way up to the big moment. You are actually preparing her for that one, all-important touch: the first kiss.
3. She flirts a lot
Come on, a kiss without a little flirting is like a bar without beer. If you flirt and she flirts back, you’re in for a treat. Especially if she teases you , it’s a sure sign that she’s ready for the touch of your lips.
4. She closes the distance between you
Let’s say you’ve just had a great date , or you’re at a lively party together. The night is coming to an end, and suddenly she comes closer to you. She may have had a few too many drinks, but when she enters your personal airspace, it’s usually an invitation for a kiss.
Pro tip: if she really doesn’t want to kiss
Sometimes she just doesn’t want to kiss you. And you know how to tell? She keeps her distance. That’s basically her emergency button to avoid a kiss. If she pulls away when you come closer, that’s a no-go. She uses distance as her ultimate shield – it gives her all the time and space to ward off an unwanted kiss.
5. She smiles shyly after an intimate moment
Do you see that smile? That is not a coincidence, that is a direct hit. Just like when you were playing hide and seek as a child and knew you were about to be found – that anticipatory smile is one of expectation. She has felt the intimate moment and with that smile she gives you a green light. This is your chance, she is saying.
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6. She looks at your lips
People are just fascinated by things they want. Just like us men look around unashamedly when a beautiful woman walks by, as if we are following a magnet. This is exactly what happens when a woman wants a kiss from you: she stares at your lips, as if they contain a secret message.
To her, they are not just any lips, but the lips she wants to be kissed with. The lips play the leading role in the theater of human attraction. If she is completely fascinated by your mouth, her subconscious is actually unrolling a banner that says, “Kiss me, now, please!”
To seal the deal, she tries to draw your gaze to her lips. She bites them gently, licks them, or presses them together in a way that makes your heart beat faster. Most of the time, she is not even aware of it. The lips are one of the most sensual aspects of the female body and women know it themselves.
7. She looks that one way
There’s a change in the atmosphere when a woman really wants to be kissed. Her eyes get an extra sparkle, her pupils dilate, and the eye contact lingers longer . She’s no longer staring at her phone, and it’s like the rest of the world fades away. It feels like you’re the only ones in the room. Is that the case? Then you know the chemistry between you is growing.
Among men, we know this look as ‘cum-seeking eyes’. It may not be the most polite name for this phenomenon, but then you probably know what we mean. But it is more than that. It is a hungry look, one that seems to look into your soul. It is as if you are the last frikandel in the snack bar after a night out. She wants you, and that starts with a kiss.
8. She suddenly speaks softer and more intimately
Have you ever watched a suspenseful movie where the music suddenly turns down just before something crucial happens? Well, when she starts talking softly, that’s her personal volume button preparing you for a kiss. She creates an intimate atmosphere, almost as if she’s inviting you into her own little bubble.
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9. She wants a second date
Did she hint at a follow-up date a few times on the first date? Then you’re not doing too bad. She likes you, is interested and is probably ready for more. Seriously, the chance that she will dodge your kiss in slow-motion à la The Matrix is as small as winning the New Year’s Eve lottery.
10. She doesn’t want to leave yet
Some women are hard to read. She may be shy, nervous, or naturally reserved. For a man, it’s like trying to solve a Sudoku puzzle. You only really know when you’re saying goodbye. Does she want to get away as quickly as possible, or is she going to stick around? If she doesn’t seem to want to go anywhere, chances are she wants you to make the move, even if you’re not completely sure yet.
There are moments when the stars seem to align. You walk hand in hand to a bench, you look deep into each other’s eyes and it feels like the world stands still. Those are the moments when you really don’t have to doubt anymore.
And then there are those other situations. She laughs at your jokes, but doesn’t ask any questions. She stays just out of your reach. Well, those mixed signals make life exciting, but also confusing. Still, if you recognize these signs, you have a good indication that she is ready for a kiss. And the rest? That’s up to you.
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