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There you are, holding your phone in your hands, staring at the screen, your heart racing. You have a crush, you’re on a date, or you’re in a relationship, and you want to send the perfect text, but you’re not sure what to say. You want to impress , strike the right chord, and put a smile on that sweet face. You type, delete, retype, and try to send the perfect text. But how do you do that?
Texting a significant other is a delicate balance between showing interest and not coming across as too pushy. Plus, some topics are better suited for personal conversations, like sensitive topics or deep emotions. And, as we all know, sometimes texting can cause misunderstandings because it’s not always delivered in the right context or tone. So there are things you can text and things you shouldn’t text, especially in dating and relationships.
What you can app
The power of texting in modern relationships should not be underestimated. After all, it is one of the most used ways to communicate, whether with a crush, date or partner. But what should you pay attention to? The right text can cause butterflies in the stomach and strengthen the bond between you and your lover. These are the things you can text.
1. Ask questions about how the day is going
You’re curious about how their day is going, so why not ask? Showing interest in their daily experiences shows that you care and are involved in their lives.
- How was your morning today?
- Have you had a chance to enjoy the weather today?
- Is there anything you’re looking forward to for the rest of the day?
2. Let them know you enjoyed being together
Looking back on a good time you had together creates a bond. For example, tell them that you would like to spend more time together, and you will definitely put a smile on their face.
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3. Flirt via text messages
A little flirting on the app can add a playful and exciting dynamic to the conversations. It keeps the romantic tension alive and shows that you are interested in a playful and charming way.
4. Use apps to have fun
Not only can apps be functional, they can also be a source of fun and entertainment. Send funny memes and gifs to keep the conversation light and lively.
5. Schedule appointments via the app
Scheduling appointments via the app is convenient and efficient. You have the time to calmly go through your agenda, while also indicating that you are willing to do something fun together .
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6. Share funny events in your life
Everyone loves a good story, especially when it involves funny events. Share that hilarious blunder you experienced today and you will definitely put a smile on their face.
7. Ask how you can help if the other person is sick
If someone is feeling down, show them you are there for them. Ask them in a genuine way how you can help, whether it is by dropping off some paracetamol, lending a listening ear, or just sending them some words of encouragement.
8. Send texts to let them know you’re thinking of them
Let them know you’re thinking of them via app, even when you’re busy. A simple message can make someone feel special and appreciated.
9. App why you like the other person
Share your feelings and tell why you like the other person so much. Genuine compliments and expressions of affection make the bond stronger.
- You really understand me and that means a lot to me.
- Wow, your humor is really one of the reasons why I like you so much.
- You are so driven and that is admirable.
10. Send a message in the morning and evening
A good morning and good night message can be a sweet and thoughtful way to start and end your day. It shows that you are thinking of the other person, even at the beginning and end of the day.
11. Send texts when you’re out of town
Even if you’re not physically together, texting can help you maintain a connection and let each other know they’re in your thoughts, wherever you are.
12. Use emojis to convey feelings
Emojis can be a fun and playful way to convey your feelings and emotions in texts. Whether it’s a heart, wink, or smiley face, emojis can add an extra touch of affection to your text conversations.
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13. Share an article or video about something the other person is interested in
Show interest in their passions and interests by sharing relevant articles or videos. It shows that you care about what they are doing.
14. Just send a text to say hello
Sometimes you don’t need a specific reason to send a message. Just letting them know you’re thinking of them and saying ‘hi’ can be enough to make them happy.
15. Use apps to talk about fun topics
Texts are great for lighthearted and fun conversations. Talk about shared interests, hobbies or future plans to strengthen the connection.
16. Send text messages to reassure the other person
If the other person is worried or stressed, send words of encouragement to reassure them and let them know that everything will be okay.
17. Share ideas and plans via the app
Brainstorming and planning future activities together can be an exciting way to look forward to something together.
18. Share a photo of something that reminds you of the other person
A picture is worth a thousand words, and sharing an image of something that reminds you of someone can bring back a sweet memory.
- Send a photo of a work of art you saw in a museum that you know will pique the other person’s interest. Add a message saying something like, “These paintings remind me of our conversations about art. Maybe we can go to the museum together again soon?”
- If you know their favorite quote or motto, send a photo of a coffee mug with that quote on it. Add a playful comment like, “I saw this mug and immediately thought of you.”
- If you’ve been to a special restaurant together before, send a photo of the restaurant or a recognizable dish you’ve eaten together. Add a romantic note, like, “Isn’t it time for us to have new culinary adventures?”
- If you know the other person has a pet, send a photo of a cute animal that looks like that pet. Add a funny comment like, “This little critter looks just like your furry friend! I couldn’t resist sharing this with you.”
19. Send virtual hug or kiss if you can’t see each other
While you may not be able to physically hug or kiss each other, you can send a virtual hug or kiss to show affection.
20. Keep in touch via app when you are dating or in a relationship
Text regularly when you are dating. You can’t survive a week without contact in this early stage. In a relationship it is just as important, although you will see each other in person more often.
What you can’t text
The art of texting is a subtle game, where the right words and the right timing can make all the difference. While a well-placed joke can break the ice, the wrong words can have the complete opposite effect. Sometimes, whether excited or impulsive, we can be tempted to send messages that we should have avoided. To help you avoid this trap, here are the things you should not text.
21. Not waiting for the other person to respond before sending again
You want a flowing conversation, we get it . But sending too many messages in a row without waiting for a response can feel overwhelming. Give the other person time to respond before continuing the conversation.
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22. Texting all day long
Constantly texting can be suffocating. Give the other person some space to do their own thing. So don’t crave a constant text conversation that demands your attention 24/7.
23. Long messages when you have something important to say
Important matters deserve a personal conversation. Avoid long messages for serious topics, as the message may be misunderstood or may not contain the emotional nuance you want to convey. “Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something that’s been on my mind for the past few weeks. It’s about our relationship and I think we really need to take some time to sort it all out. I’ve noticed that we’ve been drifting apart a bit lately and I want to work on strengthening our bond together. It’s mostly about the way we communicate with each other. I sometimes feel unheard or misunderstood and I think it’s time to work on that together. So I suggest we have some deeper conversations about our thoughts and feelings. Let’s try to really take the time for each other and listen to what each other has to say!”
24. Always start the conversation yourself via the app
Balance in initiative is essential. Give the other person the chance to start the conversation , so that you know there is mutual interest.
25. Complaining about what you heard
Negative messages can ruin the atmosphere and discourage the other person from being open. Instead, focus on positive and constructive conversations.
26. Always respond within a second
Responding quickly is nice, but you don’t always have to respond right away. Give yourself time to think. That helps a lot to keep the conversation interesting.
27. Texting when the other person is sleeping
Respect the other person’s sleep and avoid sending messages at inappropriate hours. A good night’s sleep is important for everyone, right?
28. Sending questionable photos
Photos that are ambiguous or explicit can be uncomfortable and embarrassing. Be careful what you share, such as nudes , especially if you don’t know someone well.
29. Completely ignoring messages or not responding
Always respond politely, even if it is short. Ignoring messages can create uncertainty and doubt.
30. Texting when the other person is busy
Be attentive to their activities and do not disturb the other during important tasks or appointments. Especially do not expect a reaction if the other is busy.
31. Giving criticism via the app
Constructive feedback is fine, but avoid giving criticism via the app. The tone is hard to interpret and that can quickly lead to misunderstandings.
32. Texting instead of meeting up
While texting is convenient and can be fun, face-to-face interaction is always better. Building a strong bond is almost impossible without face-to-face contact. Try to meet up when you have the chance and do n’t just text .
33. Texting without checking for errors
Pay attention to your spelling and grammar to make a good impression. Avoid careless mistakes that disrupt the quality of the conversation. Be even more aware of this if the other person has indicated that they are bothered by it.
- Sorry, I can’t today, I have obligations with my family
- Let your laws when you are free, then we can pls make arrangements
- I have a surprise for you! I’m planning a dinner tonight!
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34. Worrying about little mistakes in your apps
Don’t worry too much about small typos or imperfections. We all make these mistakes. The point is that it’s not a habit and ultimately it’s about the content and intention behind your messages.
35. Leave a voicemail and text right after
It is confusing and unnecessary to send a text message immediately after leaving a voicemail. Give the other person time to respond, please .
36. Send a stream of photos, videos and links
Don’t constantly send messages with pictures, videos, and links unless the other person asks for it. It can be overwhelming and distract from the actual conversation.
37. Breaking up via the app
End relationships respectfully and in person, not through a cold text message.
38. Only offer support via the app
If the other person needs support, it is better to be there for them in person rather than just via app messages. Support via the app is valuable, but offering support in person is priceless.
39. Using excessive amounts of emojis
Emojis are fun, but use them sparingly. Too many emojis can distract from the message. They can also make the other person think they are texting a teenager.
40. Texting when you’re together
When you are together, give each other your full attention instead of texting all the time. It can come across as rude.
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