4 Really Good Reasons to File for Divorce

Are you wondering if a divorce is normal, given your situation? Most people stay in an unhappy relationship for too long , only to look back later with regret that they didn’t leave sooner. And that’s mainly because divorce is a complicated matter. So it’s not so strange that you’re wondering if your reason is good enough.

Marital problems are inevitable. In every marriage, no matter how happy you are, it happens at some point. In some relationships, it leads to divorce, but others face the problems head on and emerge stronger together. It is these relationship problems that are often the cause of divorce.

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From relationship problems to divorce

In many cases the problems can be solved, but both parties lack the skills to do this. The result is that divorces are filed for reasons that can be resolved. Arguments over meaningless actions and not being able to talk to your partner; it doesn’t have to mean the end of the relationship if you both want to work on it.

On the other hand, there are reasons that are more than valid to run to the lawyer and file for divorce. Those people who tell you that ‘you should leave your partner’ may have a point. Because some behaviors in a marriage are really unacceptable. And that brings us to the 4 really good reasons that are always good enough to file for divorce.

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Physical or emotional abuse

If your partner hits you once, but apologizes immediately afterwards, you hope that it will stop there. But experience shows that it almost never stops with this one blow. Physical violence is not about showing love, but power. And this need remains, even after the first blow.

But you can also get hit without your partner laying a finger on you. That is the emotional blow you have to deal with as a result of emotional abuse. It may not be visible on the outside that you are a victim of it, but it is also abuse if your partner constantly belittles you, rejects you, insults you and shows behavior that hurts you on a daily basis.

According to the latest figures, physical violence is a reason for 4.5% of women to divorce. ¹ That is without counting emotional violence. Have you had to deal with domestic violence, in whatever form? Then this is an extremely valid reason to file for divorce; better today than tomorrow.

“Once a cheater, always a cheater.”

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Cheating on me

Let’s face it, almost no one can tolerate it; your partner having sex with someone else. Whether that’s all-the-way or sexual acts, it goes way too far. In addition, the physical cheating is often not even the worst, but mainly the lying and cheating surrounding it. And then there is the saying: “a fox loses its hair but not its tricks.”

Have you discovered your partner’s affair ? Or have you found your partner on a website like SecondLove ? But are you promised that it will never happen again? Keep in mind that infidelity is a lot like domestic violence; it is a behavior that will happen again and again, no matter how sorry your partner is after discovering it.

Have you been cheated? Then this is clearly a good reason to file for divorce. In fact, it is the reason why 13.8% of divorces are filed, because someone else is involved.

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Drug or alcohol addiction

Who watched the television program Addicted! has followed knows how serious it is; a drug or alcohol addiction. ² Not only the addict suffers from the consequences of the addiction, but the entire environment, including the immediate family and partner. And if you have a partner who abuses alcohol or drugs, you know this better than anyone.

At first, you help maintain the addiction. You pay off a loan or solve a problem. But then you realize that this is counterproductive and you try to talk about it. You want to seek help for your partner, but they are still in denial. And while it is very sweet of you to want to help your addicted addicted partner; you cannot fix an addict. No matter what you do or say, you cannot change the behavior of your addicted partner. An addict only changes when they make the choice to change.

Dealing with an addicted partner is not easy, or call it impossible. When nothing seems to help, a difficult decision must eventually be made. And that is to set your own boundaries. Because before you know it, your own life is suffering from someone else’s addiction. One of these difficult choices is to leave, or to file for divorce.

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Financial problems

One of the most common reasons why couples divorce can be traced back to the joint wallet. According to the CBS, financial problems are the cause of about 5 percent of divorces. And then it is often not a lack of income, or money in general. It is mainly about the way in which it is dealt with, with stress, tension, arguments and more as a result.

The woman with a shopping addiction and the man who starts to get irritated by the daily visits of the couriers. It is the classic example. Or you are confronted with a credit card debt in both names, while you never signed for anything. The money is not the problem, but all these forms of financial infidelity are. And the problem is that these problems cannot be solved quickly. Time heals all wounds, but almost never a hole in the hand.

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