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When women like someone, it’s normal to want to be with that person all the time. You want to get to know them better in hopes of building something real. Yet many women make some “stupid” mistakes when they like a man too much. These mistakes can ruin a lot in the beginning of the relationship or the dating phase. And of course you don’t want that. Especially if they can be prevented. Are you guilty of this too? Read on to find out and be honest with yourself: how many of these sound familiar?
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10 mistakes women recognize
You make some mistakes even though you know very well that they are wrong. You recognize other mistakes in others, but not in yourself. We all make mistakes, like these 10 stupid mistakes that many women make. Can you recognize yourself in it?
1. You compare yourself to other women
You’ve obviously seen all the photos of his ex on Instagram. She is tall, blonde, thin and very pretty. You have the opposite appearance of her, so why would he like you? This is something you can drive yourself crazy with. Comparing yourself to his exes or other women you know are interested in him? It’s completely pointless.
If he likes you , then he wants you. So it doesn’t matter at all what all those other women look like. Whether they are thick or ultra-thin. Blonde or brunette. He is interested in you, so stop comparing and making yourself feel insecure.
2. You give too much of yourself too quickly
It’s not often that you find a man with whom you feel a real connection . If that spark is there immediately, you may want to dive straight into it. There is nothing wrong with being optimistic about love and wanting to give it your all. But it can be smart to remain a little reserved in the beginning of the dating phase. This is how you protect yourself from a broken heart.
3. You make your whole life revolve around him
He is busy most evenings of the week and can only meet with you on Sunday afternoons. You had already made plans to go to yoga with your best friends. But you can’t not see him for a whole week, can you? So you then cancel your date with your best friend. You drop everything to be with him.
Yet it doesn’t seem like he’s concerned about you planning everything around him. You are making a big mistake if you do this. Make sure you don’t revolve your life around this man. It should fit into your life, but not completely change it.
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4. You ignore all the red flags
He is handsome, funny and always holds the door open for you. He looks like the prince on a white horse and you can talk about him for hours. So who cares if he gets too mad at the waitress who gives him a latte instead of the cappuccino he ordered? Or who cares that all his exes are ‘crazy’?
Women are quick to overlook potential red flags when they really like someone. You like to overlook these things because you think it probably won’t be a problem in the future or that it will be different with you. But you guessed it: this is a big mistake.
5. You’re quick to compromise on your deal breakers
Remember when you would never date someone who was a smoker? Or that you would immediately leave your date at the restaurant if he made a sexist comment ? But when this actually happened, you still threw all your deal breakers out the window. You’re probably afraid that if you walk away from him, you’ll be doomed to being left alone… and you obviously don’t want that.
If you have to forget your deal breakers or accept things you really don’t want, this is not a good sign. More of a warning sign. In any relationship you both need to be open to compromise, but if you have to do this right at the beginning, this is certainly not a good prospect.
6. You change or hide qualities of yourself
You don’t wear makeup every day, but to please him you do so every day. You were actually starving, but you ordered a salad instead of a hamburger. Why? There is a fear of being rejected, the critical eye or the feeling of being judged. These are things that many women do because they want men to be impressed.
But remember that you should never change yourself or hide certain qualities for fear of rejection. A man should like you for who you are. Therefore, do not pretend otherwise, because you are fooling yourself.
7. You forget your friends
It happens to many women who are hotel workers. And not just women, men do it too. Ever since you met a new crush, you hardly make time to spend with your friends. When you were single you used to go out with them all the time, but now it seems like you’ve completely forgotten about them. And that’s a shame, because if you end the relationship you will need them more than ever.
Make sure you always continue to work on relationships outside of your romantic relationship. These relationships are just as important . You expect your friends to always be there for you, especially when you’re potentially left heartbroken, so make sure you’re there for them too.
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8. You blame yourself when he doesn’t have the same feelings for you
When he decides he’s “not ready for a relationship” or that he likes someone else, many women blame themselves. This can make you think that you have done something wrong or that you are not good enough. Very honest and real ? That is of course nonsense.
Sometimes relationships just don’t work out or one of you decides you’re not right for each other. This is completely okay, because of course you can’t suit everyone. Stop letting a man determine your self-worth: you determine your self-worth.
9. You want to be exclusive too quickly
After a few dates, he still hasn’t asked you to be exclusive. His dating profiles are still active and he sometimes doesn’t answer your texts for whole days? While he’s still keeping his options open, you’re ready to give yourself to him. Because you are already 100% committed and have deleted all your dating apps from your phone. Keep in mind that things can go downhill quickly. It can break your heart to find out that he is dating several other women .
10. You become completely dependent on him
From the moment you met him, you were glued to him 24/7. When you’re not with him, you text him or talk about him to your friends or family. No matter how much you love him, don’t forget that you were an independent woman before you met him . You liked to be independent and do your own thing. Becoming dependent on a man is not only unattractive, but you are also selling yourself short.
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