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As humans we never have the same wishes. For example, we look for different things in a relationship and we also like to see that a partner has the qualities that we like to see in a partner. While some find intelligence attractive , others seek a partner with a caring personality. But what most people have in common is that they are looking for someone who has a good sense of humor .
Humor plays an important role in romantic relationships, which is why researchers wanted to know more about it. In particular, they wanted to know what it means for a relationship when two partners tease, tease and roast each other. Is it good for the relationship? Bad? Or does it not matter?
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Teasing, teasing and roasting
The answer is that it does matter to the relationship. In fact, how well you handle a partner who laughs at you would be a good indicator of how satisfied you are with the relationship. This is evident from research by psychologists at Martin Luther University Halle-Wittenberg that was published in the journal Journal of Research in Personality .
“Previous studies have shown that people look for a partner with a sense of humor and who likes to laugh,” says psychologist Dr. René Proyer of Martin Luther University Halle-Wittenberg (MLU). In general, people want to be able to laugh in their relationship and they look for a partner who they can laugh at.
To find out what effect laughter has in a relationship, the psychologists decided to interview 154 couples. They mainly wanted to know how satisfied the couples were with their relationship, with their sex life and whether they often argued. But the main point is that they also wanted to know how couples deal with being laughed at by their partner and whether they like to make fun of their partner themselves.
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When it is good for the relationship
The women in the study who said they enjoyed being laughed at, or who often provoked others to laugh at them, tended to be “more satisfied with their relationship and more attracted to their partner.” These participants were also generally as satisfied with their sex lives as their partners.
On the other hand, the women who were afraid of being laughed at were less satisfied with their relationship. They also indicated that they had less confidence in their partner. This also has consequences for the partner: men more often said that they were not really satisfied with their sex life if their partner was afraid of being laughed at.
However, roasting a partner has a limit. That’s when the teasing goes too far and it gets nasty . Those who reported enjoying mocking others were found to argue more with their partners. In short: teasing is allowed, but mocking is not.
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