9 Signs He’s Not As Sweet As He Seems

Do you have a man in your life with whom you do all kinds of things, have a good connection and who you are really crazy about? Very nice of course and you may have found the love of your life. However, love is blind, as they say, so keep in mind that no one is perfect – probably not him either.

When you are in love you can see qualities in your partner that he or she does not actually have. He may be very sweet to you, but is that also the case for others? Or in other words: is he as sweet as he seems?

9 signs he’s not as sweet as he seems

Do you sometimes have the feeling that it is not all roses and moonshine in your relationship? Does your lover act differently towards you than towards others? In other words, do you think he is different in reality? Then it is important to take a closer look to see whether that is really the case. If your lover is cheating on you – in any way – you can tell by the following signs.

1. He has annoying friends

Does your boyfriend have annoying friends that bother you? Or do they ensure that you are not included in his group of friends ? Then that is not a good sign. It should certainly not be the case that your lover has to choose between you and his friends, but you should just know each other and be able to do fun things together.

Are you regularly annoyed by his annoying friends? Then that is also a signal that he is not as nice as you think, because then he would probably have had nicer and more social friends who would accept you. And don’t forget: they also say that you are the average of your five best friends. What does this say about him?

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2. He treats strangers disrespectfully

If you want to know what people are really like, pay close attention to how they treat strangers. From the clerk who brings the food to the parcel deliverer at the door: how does he deal with these people? If he is nice to you, but rude and impolite to strangers, you can decide for yourself how he will treat you later.

3. He’s too sweet to be true

If your boyfriend always agrees with you and does what you want, this may mean that he is actually being too nice. That means it’s too good to be true. Of course, there are people who don’t like to argue and prefer to keep the peace, but it’s not very realistic to think that your friend will always agree with you.

If so, keep in mind that it may change later. In the beginning, people often pretend to be better than they really are. This also means that he can fool you by pretending to be something other than what he actually is.

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4. He has a turbulent relationship history

Another sign that your boyfriend may not be as sweet as you think is if he tells stories about his exes being all “crazy.” They treated him like dirt, cheated on him and did all kinds of things that shouldn’t be in a relationship . Now it’s possible that your lover likes to be treated like a doormat, but if he talks so badly about his exes, there’s probably more going on.

Someone who has only had fights with exes, even though he was never the one to blame? It is reason enough to doubt the truth of his stories. Chances are he’s just as guilty as his exes. A donkey does not hit itself on the same stone more than once. And if your friend tells stories like that to get your pity, you’re pretty sure something is wrong.

5. He doesn’t care about other people in your life

One of the clearest signs that he’s not as nice as you think is that he’s very sweet to you, but doesn’t care about the other people in your life. From your friends to your family to sports buddies and other acquaintances: he talks to them, but that’s about it. If you were to pay close attention, it will quickly become clear that he really doesn’t care. Ultimately, he may be very nice to you now, but later he will probably treat you like everyone else in your life.

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6. He wants you to be with him all the time

If your boyfriend wants you all to himself, so much so that you can no longer do fun things with others, then that is not a good sign. It seems sweet, because he always wants you around. But it absolutely isn’t. It’s possessive behavior . Disguised as an expression of love, your boyfriend wants nothing more than to boss you around.

7. He’s watching you

It’s nice to have a man in your life who makes you feel safe. However, it’s a different story if he’s watching you ‘for your own good’. Does he want to know where you are all the time and does he check where you are at that moment in an app? Believe us: that’s not for your own good. It’s not sweet, it’s suffocating .

8. He expects a return for everything

Another important point that indicates that your boyfriend is not as nice as he seems is that he does things for you, even nice things, but he always wants something in return. Suppose he takes you out for a nice meal. But the next day he wants to see something in return, for example in the form of a dinner that you prepare for him. What should not exist in a healthy relationship. So if your lover wants this from you, then it is certainly not a sweet trait.

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9. He quits when the going gets tough

Everyone encounters a problem sometimes. There are times when things go wrong and things are a little more difficult than usual. At those moments you can of course use the support of your sweetheart. Is your friend not there for you when things don’t go well or when you are confronted with certain problems? Then this is definitely a sign that your boyfriend is not as sweet as you think.

He shouldn’t be there alone during the fun times. He should also support you when things aren’t going well. It is at such moments that you often really discover who you are dealing with.

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