56 Signs That Your Relationship is Over: Test for Yourself Whether It is Over

As humans we are constantly changing. Compare yourself with ten years ago and you will know how much you have grown as a person. What seemed difficult for you ten years ago is now completely under your control. You learn from your previous experiences so that you continue to grow. This applies not only to yourself, but also to your relationship.

The problem with relationships is that two people often don’t grow in the same direction. When this happens, you grow apart and it may be time to say goodbye. Anyone who has experienced it knows that this is not that easy. A long relationship means that you have become part of each other’s lives. And that only makes letting go of the relationship more difficult.

Is it over?

Moreover, it is not easy to realize that your relationship is over. The road to a happy relationship is paved with obstacles and challenges. So you might think that the difficulties are part of it, while it might be better to say goodbye. As a result, the answer can be right in front of you, even though you keep overlooking it. Relationship problems are difficult. Especially because you are part of the problem.

Are these normal ups and downs that every relationship faces? Aren’t you overdoing it? Have your feelings disappeared ? Determining what to do about a deteriorating relationship is not easy. Should you give it another chance or has the time come to throw in the towel?

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56 signs that your relationship is over

If you read this, you realize that your relationship is no longer running smoothly. But what are the signals that say your relationship is really over? How can you tell that the relationship is over? If your relationship hasn’t been feeling the same lately, you may be questioning everything. These are the signs that say your relationship is over, while you still doubt it.

1. You are constantly irritated by your partner

At the beginning of a relationship, infatuation takes over with all its characteristics and symptoms . You love everything and there is nothing your partner can do wrong. In fact, you can’t even imagine that you will ever find your partner annoying. But as soon as this magical spell loses its power, you will also see the less pleasant qualities of your partner.

When you go to the toilet, you are irritated by the fact that your partner has left the toilet seat up or down. You set the glasses to the desired position and you will see the drops on the ground. You sigh and take a seat on the toilet. Until you notice that the toilet paper is hanging the wrong way again. Fury. Can your partner do NOTHING right at all?!

If you notice that you are constantly irritated by all the little things your partner does, then you have picked up one of the signals. When your partner is near you all the time, you can end up directing your frustrations at each other. The negative predominates and it seems like it’s getting worse? If you find yourself angry with your partner almost every day, chances are your relationship is already over.

2. You complain constantly
3. You criticize each other over trivial things
4. You notice yourself whining
5. You are repeating yourself
6. You only see the flaws
7. You become exhausted by the relationship

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8. Disagreements get out of hand

Disagreements occur in every relationship. Two people, two opinions, one relationship; a difference of opinion cannot be avoided. And that’s okay. A disagreement says that you can be yourself in the relationship. It can even benefit the relationship because a disagreement can solve a problem. So an argument that gets out of hand is not a sign that the relationship is over.

Which is a sign that the relationship is over? Small disagreements that turn into a shouting match again and again. Like a pressure cooker, these short bursts of anger can provide a temporary sense of satisfaction. But in the long run, this negative behavior erodes trust and respect and destroys communication in the relationship .

If you find yourself provoking disagreements, it’s a sign that the relationship is over. Perhaps you unconsciously provoke conflicts to initiate a relationship break-up. If you now realize that you sometimes provoke the arguments yourself, then you can start to wonder what the future of the relationship is – if there is one at all.

9. You often have a escalating conflict
10. You sometimes burst out in anger
11. Your concerns are dismissed and ridiculed
12. You don’t think you can change your negative behavior
13. You adopt a confrontational attitude
14. You feel resentment
15. You don’t look for compromises

16. You fantasize about others

Anyone who has committed themselves to one person for a long time will at some point wonder what life would be like with someone else. It is virtually impossible to stop these thoughts. It is human nature to think in ‘what if’ scenarios. However, it becomes a problem if you do this regularly and fantasize about it. This is a bad sign, especially if fantasizing pushes thoughts of your partner to the background.

For example, if you secretly created an account with Tinder to see which singles are ‘available’ in your area, this says a lot about your relationship. Not to mention a cheating dating site like SecondLove . Daydreaming about a new relationship says a lot about your current relationship. If you think about others more than your own partner, you may not realize that the relationship is almost over.

17. You daydream about being single
18. You cheated on your partner
19. You kissed someone else
20. You flirt with other people
21. You wonder if you can get better

22. You no longer want sex with your partner

Once the hormones in your body return to normal levels after a heavy crush, the passion makes way for an intimate friendship and a deeper bond. The honeymoon doesn’t last forever. Sex is no longer the top priority of the day and you even have to deal with sexual ups and downs. One week you don’t have sex at all and the next week you have three times: this is completely normal.

However, it is a problem if you no longer want sex with your partner at all. You no longer feel the desire to become intimate with your partner. The touching is no longer necessary and you prefer not to kiss anymore. If you feel like you’d rather refuse physical intimacy, it could be a sign that your relationship is already over.

23. You would rather go to sleep than have sex
24. You no longer cuddle before you go to sleep
25. You don’t say ‘I love you’ to each other anymore
26. You no longer kiss your partner; not before and not after work
27. You no longer have physical contact

28. You don’t make plans for the future

Does your stomach turn when you think about a two-week vacation? Then you already know that the relationship is doomed to failure. If you are in a relationship with someone, it should not take any effort to travel together. It should actually be an enjoyable prospect. In a happy relationship you count down the days until the holidays so that you can finally have quality time together again. Aren’t you looking forward to being together so much? Then this says a lot about the state of your relationship.

Moreover, all this does not only apply to holidays. It’s about all the future things you’re not looking forward to. If you notice that you are having more and more difficulty making plans for the future, this often means only one thing: you are done with the relationship.

29. You no longer do fun things with your partner
30. You no longer go on ‘dates’ with each other
31. You avoid conversations about the future
32. You can no longer imagine a future together

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33. You have become indifferent

You notice that you would rather not talk to your partner anymore. About nothing. Neither positive nor negative. Instead of solving problems when they arise, you prefer to sweep them under the rug. You let it go because you have the feeling that it would be a hopeless conversation anyway. The time for fighting is over.

At this stage it may feel like there is no point in working on it anymore. You therefore choose not to say anything about it. You’ve given up hope. Because honestly, you don’t care anymore.

34. You no longer want to do anything for your partner
35. You don’t feel like talking anymore
36. You no longer show affection
37. You no longer give or receive compliments
38. You no longer make an effort to look nice for your partner
39. You no longer celebrate special occasions
40. You are no longer jealous

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41. The relationship has reached a dead end

No one wants to be part of a dead-end relationship that seems to be going nowhere. While everyone around you is getting married and having children, you are stuck in the same daily pattern. You want to take the relationship to the next level, your partner does not. And despite all your attempts to make your wishes clear to your partner, nothing changes at all.

One of the most difficult situations in a relationship is when two partners want different things and cannot or do not want to support the other. No matter how much you care about each other, if you don’t have the same goals in life, it is difficult to live a life together.

If you feel like your relationship is at a dead end, then it’s time to think about your relationship. Why stay in an unfulfilling relationship any longer? Do you really want to be stuck in a relationship that will never meet your expectations and wishes? Sometimes the breakup is only a matter of time.

42. You’re bored
43. You spend more time on your smartphone than talking to your partner
44. You don’t feel like yourself anymore
45. You want something different in life than your partner
46. You feel like things aren’t getting better
47. You feel it is hopeless
48. You’re looking for an answer that you already know

49. Lives are increasingly separated

As the relationship progressed, you started doing more and more alone. You saw each other less, no longer supported each other and now you have reached the point where you have increasingly started to lead an individual life. And if you no longer share your life with your partner, this indicates a broken connection.

50. You no longer watch Netflix together
51. You sleep in different beds
52. You have an ‘I’ rather than ‘we’ mentality
53. You feel alone when you are together
54. You’d rather not go home
55. You live more and more separately
56. You avoid each other

Relationships rarely end abruptly

Relationships sometimes end abruptly. For example, if one partner has done something that the other can never forgive. But in most cases, a relationship does not end suddenly. What happens more often is that it creeps in slowly and gradually. It is a process that can take months or even years.

It starts with disagreements that turn into long-standing conflicts that are never resolved. You distance yourself emotionally from each other to protect yourself from the hurtful situation. During this period, you and your partner may retreat so far that it is impossible to find your way back. If this happens to your relationship, it will fizzle out. The signs of a deteriorating relationship are usually present in abundance.

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What are you going to do?

While these are all troubling signs, they aren’t necessarily signs that your relationship is over. They only are if nothing changes. Is the relationship still worth fighting for? No one can tell you that – it is a decision you have to make yourself.

These signs of a dying relationship can help you gain early insight into your situation. Do you move on and ignore it? Are you bringing it up and working on it? Or has the time come to say goodbye?

Remember that the end of a relationship is not always a bad thing. Sometimes it’s unavoidable. Like ripping off a band-aid, it’s often better to do it quickly than to delay the inevitable. It may hurt for a while, but it will help you start healing faster.

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