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Everyone dreams of ‘true love’, that one person who treats you like a prince or princess and would do anything for you. But sometimes, let’s be honest, you stand there and scratch your head. Is this really the knight in shining armor you’ve been waiting for? Or maybe not?
You have doubts about the future of the relationship, because there are moments when he doesn’t give you that special feeling. He doesn’t make you a priority. Or worse, he no longer seems to make any effort to win you over.
He’s not the one if he does this
Let’s be honest, you deserve someone who will cherish you, someone who makes you feel like you are the most important person in the world. But if you’re wondering if he’s really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, these are some signs that he’s not right for you.
1. He is not willing to compromise
In decisions about your relationship or other aspects of life, his will always seems to prevail, with no room for your wishes. The relationship is about him, not you.
2. He doesn’t suggest what to do
A lack of initiative in a relationship can quickly cause rut to take over the relationship. The woman should not be the one to make all the proposals in a relationship. It has to come from both sides. Doesn’t the man suggest something fun to do? Then he is not very initiative-oriented or perhaps you are in a relationship with the wrong person .
3. He is not attentive
In a relationship it is often not about the big gifts, but about the little things that you do for each other without asking. Making bread for you when you’re almost late for work, making dinner so it’s ready when you get home and secretly cleaning your car when you’re having lunch with your friends. If the man doesn’t do nice things for you, then the question is whether he is the one for you.
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4. He doesn’t give you 100%
A man who is not fully committed to you shows this through his behavior. He doesn’t care what you think about him and how you feel about the relationship. In other words, he doesn’t really care.
5. He avoids serious conversations
When you try to talk about the future or deep topics , he seems uncomfortable and quickly changes the subject. He would rather talk about it or avoid these conversations.
6. He only spends money for himself
In a relationship, money is often a reason for countless disagreements. This is especially the case if the man does not save money, but spends all his money on his own hobbies and activities. A man who cares about the relationship puts money aside so that you have a good future later.
7. He rarely shares his feelings with you
You have no idea what’s going on in his head because he often keeps his feelings to himself, even when you try to gauge how he feels. He hardly says anything about his feelings. And when it comes up, he doesn’t want to talk about it.
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8. He doesn’t keep you informed
There are relationships in which two people share life with each other but never really share anything with each other. If this happens to you too, that’s not the way it should be. He should keep you informed about what is going on in his life; at work but also what happens in your free time.
9. He doesn’t include you in his future plans
You have no idea where you fit into his plans, and he’s never talked to you about how he sees the future with you by his side. You are like a mystery to the people who matter to him. He has n’t even introduced you to his inner circle yet.
10. He is rude to your family and friends
Someone who wants to stay with you forever makes an effort to be loved by the people around you. The man does not have to text your father and mother every day, but being rude or unkind to the people in the circle around you is certainly not one of the options if he is the one.
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11. He is not attentive to your needs
It seems like he is blind to your emotional and physical needs. He misses the signals you send. He doesn’t ask or listen when you express your needs.
12. He does not keep the agreements
He promises one thing, but does another. It constantly ensures that you are disappointed when he does not keep the agreements. It could be a bad habit on the man’s part that has nothing to do with your relationship. But it’s also possible that he doesn’t really care what you think. If this is happening to you, then it’s time to think about whether he is the right one for you.
13. He rarely compliments you
You wait in vain for those heartfelt words of appreciation. That your hair looks nice or that new outfit is noticed. But no, it seems like he never notices or appreciates what you do.
14. He doesn’t listen to you
He seems more interested in his phone than what you have to say. Conversations with him feel like a monologue, where your words disappear into thin air.
15. He makes no effort to understand you
It is clear that men and women think differently. We see this in every relationship. However, there is a difference in how the man acts when opinions differ. The right person will do everything he can to understand you. If he doesn’t make an effort to understand you, it’s a sign that he might not be right for you.
16. He shows no interest in your life
You feel like he has no idea what’s going on in your world. He rarely asks questions about your daily adventures or your dreams and goals.
17. He no longer spends time on himself
It is not necessary to wear an ironed blouse with dress shoes every day, but the man is expected to spend time on himself to look good for you. If he doesn’t do this, you might wonder what his goals are.
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18. He only thinks about himself in bed
Many women take it for granted that the man only thinks about his own orgasm. You don’t have to have an orgasm every time, but he does have to make an effort to bring you to a climax too. Maybe he wasn’t taught it, so discuss it first before jumping to conclusions.
19. He doesn’t flirt with you anymore
Some relationships come to a standstill after just a year. The intimacy is no longer there and he never flirts with you again. Even if he has already won you over, he still has to make an effort to make you feel like he finds you attractive.
20. He doesn’t do anything around the house
Some men blindly assume that the woman does all the work in the house, but that is no longer the standard. Tasks are divided so that the woman also has time to rest. A man who does nothing at home and doesn’t want to talk about it may not be the one for you.
21. He often doesn’t send anything back
As a woman you want a man who is there for you when you need him. It doesn’t matter when, if he often doesn’t respond to your messages, then this is not a good sign. You may rightly wonder why he doesn’t respond to your messages.
22. He takes no responsibility in conflicts
When problems arise, he always seems to shift the blame to others and refuses to take responsibility for his part in the situation.
23. He has little patience for your mistakes
Even the smallest mistakes seem to irritate him, making you feel like you always have to walk on your toes. When faced with challenges and problems, he seems indifferent and provides little support.
24. He doesn’t invest in the relationship
It feels like you’re the only one putting in the effort to make the relationship work, while he stands aside and doesn’t actively contribute to your bond. Everything comes from you, he rarely does anything for the relationship.
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25. He doesn’t make you happy
When it comes to finding the one, we’re talking about someone who makes you happy. If the man makes no effort to make you happy, then you already know that he is not the one. A man who cares about you wants to make you happy.
These are the 25 things that can tell you whether the man is right for you or not. Of course, no one is perfect, but if you notice that your man makes no effort at all for the things we just discussed, then you may have doubts about the future together. If it is not a reason to immediately break off the relationship , then you now know what you can talk about in a conversation.
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