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Breaking up is always hard. Even if the guy you want to end things with is the most normal guy you’ve ever dated, it’s still too awful.
You’re ending a big part of your life. And especially if you’re the one getting dumped, it can be hard to come to terms with it.
Just like any other big change in your life, it takes some getting used to.
But if the guy breaking up with you is an abusive narcissist , then things are worse and destructive.
A narcissist never makes anything easy. He is the one who should have all the control, so no matter what happens, you will ultimately be on the receiving end of his cruel intent.
As I mentioned above, narcissists can’t handle not being in control.
And as soon as they notice that they are losing even the slightest bit of their edge over you, they will resort to drastic measures.
If he senses that you are trying to end things or that you have started to defy him, he will make sure that he is the one to end it first.
And not in a friendly way. It will be according to his devious plans and it will hurt.
If you feel like your narcissist is getting ready to dump you, be prepared for one of the following 4 scenarios.
These are his most common choices to let you know he’s done with you. Consider yourself warned!
4 Tactics Narcissists Use to End Things
1. He already has someone as a backup and he will leave you abruptly, without explanation
When a narcissist is sure that he is going to end things with you, he will make sure that another bedmate is already in place.
He should always have options in case things go wrong. And in this case you will get no warning and no explanation.
His mood will suddenly become unpredictable, he will be very irritable and he will have a nasty attitude towards you.
Remember, narcissists do not have the ability to feel shame and regret. So it really won’t make any difference to him if you cause a scene.
He will leave you without any excuses. And he’ll make sure you know he already has another girl for you to fall for.
And that will mean the end of your narcissist and you. It will end as abruptly as it began.
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2. He will make you the bad guy by verbally abusing you and putting all the blame on you
His plan will be so cunning and sneaky that you won’t know what hit you. First, it will cause minor discomfort that will make you look really bad.
He will let you know how bad he thinks you are. And he will not put his words on a scale.
Then he starts pushing your buttons by doing things he knows you don’t like. And that way he will make you at least a little angry and he will use it against you.
He will make you look crazy, unstable and like a bad girlfriend. And he will pretend to be a poor man who fell into your web of lies and deceit.
You won’t even understand how he does it and he will already be gone, having achieved his goal.
You will feel like you did something wrong, but all that really happened is that he manipulated you and left with his head held high.
Just like he always planned.
3. He’s going to give and withhold his affection to the point where he drives you away to end things
His emotions (the ones he pretends to have) will be all over the place.
One day he will adore you and shower you with love. And the next day he’ll be angry about the crumbs you left on the kitchen floor.
You don’t know what to do about it because his behavior will escalate drastically and the smallest things will push him over the edge.
And that’s exactly what he wants you to think. He’s going to make you do all the work for him by acting like a raving lunatic. And let you end things like it was all your idea.
This will be an extremely toxic atmosphere and you won’t be able to handle it for long.
While he thrives in it, you just have to end it and away you go.
Just like that, it’s over and he didn’t even have to pull the trigger. You did it for him.
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4. He will use physical pleasure as a weapon to demoralize you
Physical pleasure is going to become a powerful weapon in his arsenal. He will use it against you in any way he can.
And if you are doing well physically, then it will be especially difficult.
He will deny you physical pleasure if he sees that you really want it. And if he notices you’re too tired to function, he’ll ask you if you’re in the mood (knowing you’re NOT).
He will make you beg him to make love to you, something you never thought you would do.
But his behavior leaves you no choice. He may be a toxic waste of breath, but he can certainly give it to you in bed.
And you want it one last time. And that’s how he’s going to get you. Your ego will take a big hit every time he says “No” and he will enjoy every second of it.
And once he’s done having his fun, he’ll end things with you, leaving you struggling to deal with the aftermath of his actions. And it will be terrible. In depth.
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