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“I divorced the woman I loved. I’m no expert, but there are things I should have done differently during my relationship”
1. Never stop courting
Never stop dating, never, ever, ever take your woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you did it with all your heart and promised her that you would always protect her. And, this is very important, she chose you. Never forget this, never become lazy in love.
2. Protect Your Own Heart
Just as you promised to protect her heart, you must continue to protect your own heart as well. Love yourself, love the world, but there is one special place in your heart where you should never let anyone other than your wife enter. Always keep that spot open for her and don’t let anyone else in that spot.
3. Fall in love with each other again and again
You will constantly change, you will no longer be the same people you were when you met. Change will come and that is why you have to choose each other again and again. She doesn’t have to stay with you and if you don’t take care of her heart she will give this heart to someone else and you will never be able to get it back. Keep fighting for her, just like you did in the beginning.
4. Always see the beauty in her
Focus on the parts of her that you love. What you focus on will grow. If you focus on the things that irritate you, you will continue to see reasons to stay irritated. If you focus on what you love, you will be absorbed in that love. Know without a doubt that you are lucky because you get to share your life with this woman.
5. It’s not your job to change her.
It’s your job to love her just the way she is. And if she changes, love who she becomes whether you wanted it to or not.
6. Take Responsibility for Your Emotions
It is not your wife’s responsibility to make you happy. You are responsible for finding your own happiness and that happiness will bring even more love and joy to your relationship.
7. Allow your wife to be…
If she is sad or upset, it is not your job to fix it. Your job is to hold her and let her know it will be okay. Let her know that you hear her, that she is important to you and that you are there for her. The feminine soul is about change and emotions and like a storm, her emotions will come and go. Don’t run away when she’s upset! Stay strong, listen and support her.
8. Be crazy
Don’t take yourself so seriously! Laugh, make her laugh.
9. Cherish her
Make her feel loved. Ask her to make a list of 10 things that make her feel loved and remember this list!!
10. Be present
Give her not only your time, but also your attention. Do whatever you need to do to clear your head so you can be with her. Treat her like your most valuable customer, because that’s what she is.
11. Don’t be an idiot
And don’t be afraid to be one either. You will make mistakes, she will make mistakes. Don’t take mistakes too seriously and learn from the mistakes you have made. You don’t have to be perfect, just try not to do stupid things.
12. Give her space
Women are natural caregivers and givers and sometimes she needs to be reminded that she can take time to take care of herself. Sometimes she needs time to go to a spa to pamper herself, encourage this!
13. Show your vulnerability
You don’t have to have everything in order. Be willing to share your fears and feelings with her and to admit your mistakes.
14. Don’t worry too much about money
Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win this game. It never helps when team members fight with each other.
15. Forgive immediately
And focus on the future instead of the heavy things from the past. Holding on to past mistakes that either you or she has made weighs heavily on a marriage. Forgiveness means freedom and removes the burden.
16. Always choose love
Ultimately, this is the only advice you need. Love Wins. A relationship is not always roses and moonshine, you have to keep doing your best for it. You have to invest in it and then happiness will come.
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