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One chooses it, the other is not so much in the market, and there is also the group of people for whom there is no really logical explanation for why they have been single for so long . The fact remains that being single gives you almost as many new insights as when you share your life with someone.
This is especially true if you have had relationships and know how big the contrast is between being in a relationship, the loss of one, and everything that comes with it. In today’s article, we’re going to talk about 9 things you learn about yourself when you’re single for a long time. And there are both good and bad things in there.
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What being single for a long time does to you
You get to know yourself when you are on your own; it is a well-known saying that applies especially well to long-term bachelors. Because you have to manage on your own. Now it may be that you still live with your parents or share a house with your friends, but for the sake of convenience we will assume the most ‘dramatic’ situation: you live a lonely existence.
With this we are not trying to rub it in again, but we are only going to address the most literal sense of the word lonely: you are alone and have no partner. Whether that is a conscious choice or not, you will learn a lot from it. What it does to you depends mainly on the extent to which you are satisfied with your single status .
Are you eager to meet someone because you ‘ve been single for far too long ? Then it’s constantly gnawing at you. But does the single life offer you all the satisfaction, flexibility and freedom you were looking for? Then you want to stay single, probably for as long as possible.
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9 Things You Learn About Yourself
There are certainly a lot of things you learn about yourself when you go through life as a single person. We have listed the 9 most important points for you below. After all, single life is a whole journey of discovery in itself:
1. You discover how many things you can do independently
You don’t have a choice. You’re on your own and have to do things without anyone else’s help. That’s not always a bad thing, though. When you’re forced to do things on your own, you really start to learn how much you can do on your own. You’ll be amazed at your own ability.
2. You discover how important it is for you to pursue your goals
You have so much extra time on your hands when you’re single. You don’t have time to spend on your partner or your relationship, because they’re simply not there. And so with all that extra time, you want to keep yourself productive. If you’re smart about it, you’ll put all that time into pursuing your goals. We’re all more productive when there are few distractions, and a partner is – however you look at it – also a form of distraction.
3. You discover how disgusting you really are (sorry)
We are just trying to motivate you. What is our point? That people in relationships often have ‘had better days’ when they look at themselves in the mirror. We often see people letting go of the reins when they have found a partner. Gym? You can go to the gym twice a week instead of 4 times, or not at all, you also see the hairdresser a lot less and snacking together in front of the TV is just fun.
When you’re single for a long time, there comes a point where you look at yourself in the mirror and realize that you need to work on yourself again. And you do that a lot faster when you’re single. Back to the gym, back to the hairdresser, in short, you try harder to look good.
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4. You discover what kind of people you are really attracted to
If you haven’t been in a relationship for a long time, you’ll benefit from all the advantages of being single, at best. You’ll be active on dating apps and you’ll meet so many different types of people. Some you’ll enjoy, some you won’t. And in the process of meeting so many different types of people, you’ll also get the chance to really get to know yourself; and what you’re really looking for in potential partners.
5. You discover what you really want from life
When you are alone, you will have the ultimate opportunity to truly dedicate yourself to your self-discovery. You will be forced to think about what you want from your life and what kind of legacy you want to leave behind. You will become incredibly focused on discovering life.
6. You discover your position on family planning and parenthood
When you are single, and you don’t have a relationship or a partner to think about, you start thinking about other aspects of life. Your career and hobbies for example, and it is also not unthinkable that you think about what your future family will look like. The more you think about that, the more you will know about what you are looking for when it comes to starting a family of your own in the long term.
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7. You discover how tolerant you can be of toxic people
If you’ve been single for a long time, you can learn to deal with toxic people , or people who have a negative influence. There are basically two options: either you become so immune to them that you no longer let their negativity affect you. Or you simply become a better judge of negative people and consciously distance yourself from them.
8. You discover what you really want in the bedroom
When you’re not in a committed relationship with someone, you get to experiment freely. You get to have casual encounters with different types of people. And the more you expose yourself to different types of people who bring different styles to the bedroom, the more you really figure out what you want in bed.
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9. You discover how strong you are as a person
Adversity really makes us stronger as individuals. When we are pushed into a precarious situation, that is when you really get to know yourself. If you have to face all the adversity on your own, it will only be easier if you can do it in the future with someone by your side who supports you. Because then you are not doing it alone, but together.
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