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Nowadays, dating can be done in many ways. For example, you can meet someone ‘old-fashioned’ while going out or in a bar, you can get to know someone through work or study, or you can meet someone on an app. During your life, you will probably meet a large number of men. However, this certainly does not mean that you have to date all of these men or start a relationship.
A large part of these men will not be worth it. There is no point in investing time and energy in them. But how do you know exactly if the man you are interested in is also interested in you? How can you recognize someone who is worth it? These are some useful tips and signals to quickly find out.
Love and dating are never easy
Dating, relationships and love are tricky things. In fact, they are complex. When you first start dating, you will notice that there are a lot of new things coming your way. What does a first date go like? How do you know if he likes you back? How should you behave? Are there unwritten rules? It can also be very difficult to figure out if someone is worth it, or if he is just stringing you along.
You don’t want to be head over heels in love with someone, only to find out that the feeling isn’t mutual. Before you go all in and start a relationship, it’s important to figure out if your new love is worth your time and energy.
Are you wondering if your crush feels the same way about you? Or if he’s worth it? Here are some signs that can help you determine if he’s worth it. Otherwise, you’d be better off spending your time on other things and other boys (or men).
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8 Signs He’s Not Worth Your Time
Being in love is one of the best feelings to have. However, it can also turn into a terrible feeling, for example if the love is not mutual or it turns out that your boy has a completely different opinion. But how can you quickly and easily decipher whether you should invest your time and energy in this man? These signals tell you to stop making an effort for the man.
1. After dating for a long time, you’re still not his girlfriend
A first sign that someone is not worth it is if he still won’t call you his girlfriend after a long time. He might come up with excuses like he doesn’t believe in labels , but honestly? Often that doesn’t make any sense at all.
If he is happy with you and wants to be in a serious relationship with you, he should want to shout it from the rooftops. He shouldn’t want to hide you; then he is simply not worth your time.
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2. He says he’s not ready for a relationship
A sign that is somewhat related to the above is if he tells you that he is not ready to be ‘exclusive’ with you. Sure, this may be true in the beginning, or you may be dealing with someone with commitment issues , but often it is an excuse to still be able to date other women.
If you want to be exclusive with someone, but he doesn’t want that? Then he’s not worth it. Don’t hang around hoping that he’ll be ready eventually. It’s false hope. If he really likes you, he’ll come back to you. And if he doesn’t? Then you know you’ve made the right choice.
3. You can’t be completely yourself
If you want to start a relationship with someone, you will have to be completely yourself. If you feel like you can never be who you are, then you are not with the right person. The right person will accept and respect you for who you are and will make sure you feel comfortable.
Do you feel like you have to pretend to be someone else because he doesn’t like you? Then he’s definitely not worth your time. It’s smarter to break it off as soon as possible and find someone else you feel comfortable with.
4. You never go on real dates
When you are dating someone, you will often do fun things together . You go out to eat, take walks and do other activities to get to know each other better. If this is not the case and he only contacts you in the evening? Then there is a big chance that he is stringing you along and is not looking for a real relationship.
If you only get texts from him asking to meet up at his place late at night, and never at other times, this is not a good sign. It is even better to break contact before your heart breaks. Someone who is also looking for a serious relationship and is genuinely interested in you, will call or text you at multiple times. Not only late at night or at night.
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5. You only have superficial conversations
If he is seriously interested in you, he will want to get to know you better and better . He will ask how you are, what your interests are, and what you think about certain topics. He listens to you and is very interested in what you have to say.
Do you notice that he never really listens to you? Or doesn’t ask you personal things at all ? Then this is a major sign that he doesn’t want to stay with you in the long run. And if that’s your goal, then he’s not worth your time.
6. Your contact always revolves around sex
A man who is stringing you along will mainly contact you to have sex. If you meet up, he will always assume that you will have sex. He is not looking for an emotional relationship and therefore does not make any effort to invest anything of himself.
If you find that he is always pushing for sex when you want to do other things, then this could be a major reason to stop dating this guy. It is typical fuckboy behavior , not the behavior of a man you can take seriously.
7. He is mean to others
Even if he is often nice to you, if your crush is mean or even rude to others, then he is not someone to put effort into. You want to be with someone who makes other people feel good, right?
It’s a ‘known’ way to discover someone’s true nature: how they treat people they don’t know. How they treat people they don’t have to be nice to. It tells you a lot about their character and whether they’re worth fighting for.
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8. You’re afraid he’s hooking up with other girls
If you want to start a relationship with someone, trust is one of the most important things. You have to feel that you are the only one he gives his attention and love to. Do you have the idea that he is also in contact or looking for contact with other women? Then this is an important signal to cut off contact.
You want someone who makes you feel good and not someone who makes you feel insecure. Insecure about yourself, about him, about the relationship. A first step is to communicate clearly with each other about how you see the relationship. Does he only want a short-term relationship, while you are looking for a permanent relationship? Then it is time to move on and he is not worth your effort.
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