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Unfortunately, romance doesn’t come with a rulebook. But we all know that there are some unwritten rules when it comes to dating. Knowing how and when to communicate can make or break a relationship. And if you don’t do it right, your messages can irritate him.
Part of the communication nowadays is done via the app and unfortunately not everyone is equally good at it. While one person can express their enthusiasm perfectly in a digital message, the other is extremely clumsy in texting.
It is different if the communication via the app is deliberately sabotaged by one of the two. It may even be that your apps irritate him and that has an immediate impact on the relationship. Because the digital piece of communication is also becoming increasingly important in the relationship.
If your texts are annoying him, he may of course – at some point – tell you when he sees you. But chances are he’ll drop some important hints beforehand. We’re going to talk about 7 signs that your apps are annoying him.
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7 Signs Your Texts Are Annoying
Not sure if your texts irritate him? Or if he is annoyed by them? Using a number of examples, we will show you how your texts irritate him, so that you can find a solution yourself. Because just as someone can adjust their communication on a verbal level, this also applies to digitally.
Ultimately, you want communication to go as smoothly as possible, and that includes adjusting your behavior. Even if it feels a bit unnatural. So it’s up to you to pick up on those hints. We’ll also give you some alternatives for what to do instead.
1. It takes ages to get an answer
Unless he has a really good excuse for ignoring you, it should never take him days to get back to you. If you text him and he doesn’t reply within 24 hours, or doesn’t even apologize, it’s not a good sign. It’s a strong sign that he’s not interested in texting you.
Yes, there are occasional exceptions where a delayed response is appropriate, but this should always be the exception and certainly not the rule. So if he always takes a really long time to respond to your texts, this suggests at the very least that you are low on his priority list . It could also be a sign that he is not as excited to hear from you as you would like him to be.
2. His responses are super short
Really short replies are basically a polite alternative to not replying at all. He can still respond to your texts, but he doesn’t exactly take the time to type out long replies. We’ve all been there. We write a whole story about something we’re super excited about and the only response we get is “nice” or “okay.” Or you tell him a funny story over the text and all you get is “haha.” These basically serve as a variation on “I-don’t-feel-like-texting-you.”
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3. He doesn’t ask you questions
Questions keep the conversation going and are a signal that you are actively interested in someone. Of course, we don’t always have to ask questions to keep the conversation flowing, it can also happen effortlessly. In any case, conversations should always be two-way and both people create the dialogue together.
Questions are one of the tools we all use to keep that dialogue going. So if he doesn’t ask you anything, it suggests that he’s not putting any effort into keeping the conversation going with you. Maybe he’s not interested in you or your texts are too boring for him.
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4. You only hear from him sporadically
You may have noticed that sometimes he responds to your messages right away and sometimes it takes him a long time to respond. There are even times when you don’t get a message back from him at all. Sporadic texting often reflects his limited attention to you in general. Maybe it’s all just ‘too much’ for him and he’s trying to keep you at a distance for a while. The worst thing would be if this would translate into less personal contact.
5. You send a double message
People generally find it annoying when they get duplicate texts. You send a new message before he has a chance to respond to the previous one. If you are in a long-term relationship, you can of course send a few messages in a row. But you should never bombard him with new questions when there are still unanswered messages open.
It can be overwhelming or come across as demanding and needy . Likewise, if you’re always the one reaching out to him and he never messages you voluntarily , this is a sign that things are too one-sided.
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6. He tells you he’s busy
If he lets you know that he’s really busy at the moment, it could be an indirect signal for you to back off for a bit. Letting someone know that we’re busy can often be our way of politely asking for some more time or space. So if he tells you that he’s stuck at work or with his friends at the moment, give him a break and don’t message him for a while. If he really wants to talk to you, he’ll get back to you at some point.
7. He doesn’t respond at all anymore
Unfortunately, in our tech-filled dating lives, ghosting has also become a way to indirectly let someone know that we don’t want to talk to them anymore. In an ideal world, we’d just be honest and upfront about how we feel. But some men will still take the easy way out and ignore you instead.
It may be a bit harsh and unnecessary, but when this happens, it’s a case of “actions speak louder than words.” If you’ve sent a few texts and haven’t heard back for a few days , take this as a sign that he’s trying to weaken or cut off communication between the two of you. Our advice? Keep your cool.
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