6 Ways to Indirectly Convince Someone to Date

Online dating can be a rollercoaster of emotions. It not only brings the excitement of the unknown, but also the uncertainty. And that uncertainty often comes back at one point in the dating process: asking someone out . You wonder: does this other person like me enough to meet up? It can be quite a mystery sometimes.

Of course, you can just come right out and ask, but honestly, that can be a little awkward sometimes. Maybe the other person isn’t ready for it yet, and then you’re in a bit of an awkward situation. On the other hand, if you’ve never dared to ask the question because you can’t find the right moment or you’re just a little shy, we have good news for you: there’s an alternative approach.

But what if you dare to ask the question, and are still not entirely sure whether the other person is open to it? Then there is a smart dating technique you can use. This will give you some insight before you take the plunge. Let’s dive in !

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Indirect techniques

Want to avoid ever finding yourself in that awkward situation where your date request is ignored or your intentions are questioned? Don’t worry, there are clever indirect strategies you can use to convince someone to go on a date with you. These tricks aren’t just plucked out of thin air, they come straight from the book 64 Ways to Convince Someone to Go On a Date by Kellerman and Cole . And trust us, some of these tricks are downright brilliant when it comes to proposing a date. So let’s take a look at the tricks you can use.

1. Make it a challenge

Persuading someone to do something is easier if you make it a challenge. You can use this to your advantage when you want to meet someone. For example:

• You: I am the best at coming up with fun dates . I am sure you can’t think of anything better than me. What would you do on a first date?
• She: I would …..
• You: That actually sounds really good. You win. Let’s do that.

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2. Make a suggestion

There is no need to ask for a date right away if you are not up for it. You can bring it up as an alternative to something the other person is going to do. For example:

• You: Do you have any plans for this coming weekend? (Hint)
• She: Not much, maybe drinks with friends on Friday
• You: That sounds fun! If it doesn’t work out we can always go for a drink, or Saturday otherwise.

3. Give a compliment

It is easier to convince someone to go on a date with you if you give a compliment as an introduction. This means that you should pay attention to the other person’s interests and what they do. A compliment makes people feel good about themselves, but also more relaxed and willing to help someone else. For example:

• She: I would really like to cook every day.
• You: Judging from your Instagram photos, you’re really good at it! Can you help me out with a … sometime?

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4. Take over an idea

A conversation where you ask someone about their preferences and interests can be used as an introduction to have them suggest a date. It will make it seem like the idea came from them and not from you. For example:

• You: How cool that we both love Sushi. Where do you go for the best sushi?
• She: Especially to Sumo, in Nijmegen or Arnhem. You should try it too!
• You: That’s a great idea, we should definitely do that. When can you?

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5. Turn the tables

When you ask the question “Do you want to meet up with me?”, you give the other person control and make it easier for them to reject you. This is much harder if you turn the tables and pretend that there is no other option than meeting up. This way, the offer is much harder to refuse. For example:

• You: Let’s meet up, why not?
• You: I don’t see any reason why we shouldn’t meet up. Let’s do it.

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6. Use an advantage for them

In the techniques that Kellerman and Cole describe, there is a place for indicating the benefits; for yourself and for the other person. You can use the benefit to the other person to persuade someone. You are essentially telling them what they will gain if they accept your proposal.

• You: I was recently at a new restaurant in our city, had a really delicious Mexican dish. With guacamole!
• She: Oooh I love guacamole!
• You: Who doesn’t? Say, when do you want to try it?

You see, there are countless ways to seduce someone for an exciting first meeting. Remember, these tricks work even better if you use them in a playful and natural way. There are more ways to convince someone to meet you, but not all of them are suitable to try. It is absolutely not a good idea to pressure someone and make them feel uncomfortable. That is really not the way you want to go.

Luckily, with the right approach, you never have to ask for a date right away. When you ask, you give the other person the chance to reject your proposal. What you really want to avoid: getting rejected again. So, why not take the indirect route and propose that date? It can help you avoid those annoying rejections. And who doesn’t want that?

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