45 Signs That Your Match Is Relationship Material

Not all matches are relationship material. It’s a hard truth that some people are not meant to live with someone else. While they may be in relationships and active on dating apps, they are not really relationship material .

Most singles understand this like no other, thanks in part to their own experiences and those of others, and look for signals to decipher intentions . When you match with someone, the game begins .

In fact, it is the same game every time, trying to figure out if your match is suitable for the role of a permanent partner. Although some singles are brave enough to ask directly, the relationship question unfortunately does not sit well with everyone. That is why many choose not to ask difficult questions about relationship prospects and try to find the answer themselves based on the signals. What signals are those?

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45 Signs Someone Is Relationship Material

Dating expert Hayley Quinn conducted research among 1,500 singles for dating app Match, the British counterpart of Lexa . What do they look for when they are looking for a keeper? What do they consider important qualities that a permanent partner should have? And what are the signs that someone is relationship material? Based on the answers, Quinn has compiled this list of the 45 signs that say someone is relationship material.

1. They really listen to you 47%
2. You can be yourself with them 46%
3. They don’t want to control you 44%
4. You can chat for hours about nothing 40%
5. They are not afraid of commitment 38%
6. They have a good sense of humor 38%
7. They are open about wanting a serious relationship 36%
8. They are interested in your family, friends and hobbies 35%
9. They say what they mean 34%
10. They give you sincere compliments 32%
11. They don’t text their exes 32%
12. They don’t create drama 32%
13. They want to date you exclusively 30%
14. They get along well with your friends 29%
15. They have their own social life and respect that you have yours 29%
16. They don’t spend all their time on social media 26%
17. They can tell when you’re in a bad mood and give you space 26%
18. They are not obsessed with their appearance 24%
19. They will do something they don’t like because you like it 23%
20. They lovingly point out that you are being unreasonable 23%
21. They are confident 23%
22. They sometimes surprise you with gifts or flowers 23%
23. They are not always on their phone 22%
24. They smell nice 21%
25. They always pay for their own share 20%
26. They bring you a cup of tea without being asked 18%
27. They are debt free 18%
28. They love good food 18%
29. They are not weak 18%
30. They have a decent job that they enjoy 17%
31. They have a cheeky glint in their eyes 17%
32. They like to give you a massage 16%
33. They open the door for you 15%
34. Your mother loves them right away 15%
35. They don’t care if you scroll through their phone 15%
36. They will always check the house if you hear anything at night 15%
37. They go to the store to buy sanitary pads and tampons 15%
38. You share the same taste in music 14%
39. They prepare a bubble bath for you when you are tired 14%
40. They recommend books and movies they think you’ll like 14%
41. They leave love notes that you find 14%
42. They are not shy about speaking their mind 13%
43. They have good taste in movies 13%
44. They have had successful, long-term relationships before 11%
45. They want to do a Tik Tok dance with you 7%

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3 Tips for Spotting Relationship Material Online

Hayley Quinn says: “While many singles worry that the romance will be over, research shows that singles are more likely to be looking for authentic connections than just a bit of fun. The truth is that there are great partners out there for you, it’s up to you to recognise them using these signs that they’re a keeper.” In addition to the 45 signs, Quinn also shares three tips of her own for spotting a keeper, both online and offline.

1. They are easy to talk to

“Instead of trying to make a conversation interesting, the conversation just flows with a lingering flow,” she says. “They get your jokes and you laugh every time you get a message from them.”

2. They don’t make you wait for an answer

Someone you can label as relationship material won’t ghost you . Quinn: “They’ll be so consistent in their communication that it makes you feel safe. You never have to worry about them leaving you on ‘read.’”

3. They have a real and complete profile

Quinn says that a person’s profile can often tell if they’re relationship material or not. Their photos look like a real person (no crazy filters) and they’ve taken the time to complete their dating profile . They show right from their profile that they’re just as committed to finding a partner as you are.

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3 Tips for Spotting Relationship Material Offline

What you see of a person online is sometimes not the same as what you experience in real life. You’ve probably heard enough stories about that. According to Quinn, you can also recognize in real life whether someone is relationship material.

1. They don’t cancel

“Unless there’s a zombie apocalypse , they’ll show up for your date,” she says. “Forget about last-minute cancellations and changes of plans, someone who’s relationship material won’t let you down.” But if they do cancel , the dating expert says a keeper will first apologize and secondly offer a clear alternative for when you can meet up.

2. They are clear about what they want

A relationship-ready type isn’t ambiguous about that. A keeper will always be super clear about commitment. Quinn: “Don’t be surprised if they’re the ones who bring up the ‘what are we’ conversation and confirm how much they like you.”

3. They are super consistent

Ultimately, you shouldn’t expect an emotional rollercoaster from a keeper. Because someone who is described as relationship material is fairly stable, they won’t be happy to meet you one week and then be distant the next. According to Quinn, they’ll keep scheduling dates to meet you in real life, and they’ll respect the pace at which you want to pursue the relationship.

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