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Few dating experiences are as annoying as a match who doesn’t show up for the first date . But there’s also hardly a bigger blow to your ego than a planned date being canceled prematurely. Not by you, but by your match.
While this person may have the perfect excuse to cancel the date, it never feels good to postpone it indefinitely. Even though you know it doesn’t have to be personal, it feels that way. Is it you? Is it something you said? What’s the real reason? Why…?
We all agree that cancelling a date is not very polite. That is why you don’t do it just like that – there has to be a good reason. What that reason is, differs per situation. Dating app Lexa investigated the ‘why’ and asked 1,002 Dutch Lexa users about the reasons why they cancel a date.
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1. The turn-off
Imagine you have a date planned. It has to happen this Friday: the first meeting with that one match. Because you don’t want to approach the wrong person, you quickly scroll through your match’s Insta. But the more you scroll, the more disillusioned you become. That potential partner has changed into someone you would never want to have a relationship with within ten minutes of scrolling. What now?
According to the research, it is a valid reason for many singles to cancel the date. More than 1 in 3 respondents indicate that they cancel a first date if they come across (new) photos that they do not like. This is a turn-off that they do not accept, especially for singles aged 40 and over. Singles over 40 (42%) are therefore more likely to cancel the date than younger people (35%).
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2. The balance is lost
While you woke up every day with a good morning text , it now seems – after the first date is in the agenda – that your match ‘forgets’ to wake you up every day. And maybe from one moment to the next you don’t get any more texts, no likes, nothing. A changed balance is a reason for a third of Dutch singles to cancel the first date. Women (37%) find this a bigger turn-off than men (29%).
Too little contact may not be good, but neither is too much. It’s not like the loot is already in the bag when the date is planned. Almost 1 in 4 singles indicate that too much contact can quickly extinguish the flame.
3. Home dates
Of all the date ideas, there is one idea that is cancelled more often than others: the home date. A date at someone’s home is a reason for 43% of women to cancel the meeting. For men, on the other hand, this is rarely a problem, because only 12% of the men surveyed indicate that they would cancel a date because of this.
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4. Known by friends
Would you date someone if you found out that your friend had also dated this person? For many singles, this is an important reason to cancel a date . For women, this is even the biggest turn-off, because 52% of them would cancel the first date if it turns out that their match is already known to friends. Among men, this is also not desired, but they do attach less importance to it. Among them, only 30% would cancel the date if it turns out that the match is not unknown to their friend(s).
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