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You look at that one special lady who makes your heart beat faster, and you wonder: “How can I get her attention?” You have no idea what to do. You have no experience with picking up women and your knowledge in this area is limited to what you have seen in series and movies. But then again, that is not real – and so you actually know nothing about flirting with women.
Should you compliment her? Should you be funny? Should you impress her with your talents or skills? You know you should do something, but you don’t have the right approach. And that leaves you staring at a blank screen, unsure of what to type to get her attention. And when you do see her, you don’t know what to say. Sound familiar? Let’s see how to fix this.
Why many men find it difficult
First of all, it is good to know that many men find it difficult to attract a woman’s attention. This may be because they do not understand what women find attractive and how to arouse their interest. But they also often feel confused about the subtle signals and hints that women give, and therefore have difficulty reading non-verbal communication. In addition, some men can (unconsciously) display certain behavior that women actually repel. These are all stumbling blocks that cause some men to not attract any or the wrong attention.
An example we often see with men is that they are too focused on themselves and their own needs, instead of focusing on the woman and what she is interested in. In order to express their feelings, they are then too pushy or too overwhelming. They think from themselves and not from the perspective of the woman, which causes them to attract attention in the wrong way. The result? That they create distance instead of attraction. And that is contradictory to what they actually want to achieve.
24 Ways to Get Her Attention
There are hundreds of ways to get her attention. But “Hey girl, come here” might not be the best choice. That’s why we’re going to give you a list of ways to get her attention in a more fun way, without taking too much risk. Get her attention with these 24 ways.
1. Create memorable moments
Make every encounter a special moment that she will not soon forget. Think outside the box and come up with creative ideas to surprise her. This could be an interesting conversation, teasing with a series of comments or a flirty conversation.
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2. Go where she goes
If you want to get her attention, she needs to be able to see you. Therefore, be present at social events and activities where she is present. This way you can meet her and connect in a ‘natural’ way.
3. Like her posts on social media
Liking or commenting on her posts occasionally shows that you care about what she shares. Be subtle though and don’t overdo it. You don’t want to be the like-bot on every post she makes. Choose your likes carefully so that it feels genuine and make it unpredictable.
4. Maintain a positive online presence
Social media can be a useful tool to get her attention. Post interesting messages and photos that highlight your enjoyment of life. Share your adventures and show your unique personality.
- Post photos of activities
- Change your WhatsApp photo sometimes
- Share Stories (possibly just with her)
5. Text her every now and then
A smart way to get her attention is to send her a text every now and then . Keep the messages short and interesting, and try to make her smile with a funny comment or a thoughtful message. For example, send her a spontaneous and thoughtful text to wish her a good day or to wish her luck for an important event.
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6. Ask for advice or her opinion
When you ask her opinion or advice, you show interest in her thoughts and ideas. She feels important by your question. It opens the door to a deeper conversation, but the goal is mainly to get her talking. And not unimportant: she likes you more if you ask more questions.
7. Be authentic and genuine
Women have a radar for men who are fake . Luckily, they often see through that superficial behavior quickly. So just be yourself and be honest about your intentions. You can only gain her trust if you are sincere.
8. Use humor
Humor is a powerful tool to attract women. A well-placed joke can reduce tension and create a positive atmosphere. Make sure your humor is subtle and respectful, tailored to her taste. So no bad jokes that you make in front of the boys. Make jokes, tell funny anecdotes and use playful teasing.
9. Be confident without being arrogant
Women are attracted to men who exude confidence . Stand tall, speak clearly, and make eye contact. Be careful not to come across as arrogant, though. A healthy dose of confidence shows that you believe in yourself.
10. Show your passions and talents
Show her the unique aspects of your personality. Show her what you are passionate about and the talents you have developed. Whether it is music, art, sports or another area of interest, share your passions with enthusiasm.
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11. Play on her interests
Bonding often happens when you share common interests. Bring up what her passions are and show genuine interest. Ask open-ended questions to challenge her to share her thoughts and feelings. Make her feel like you understand her, and you create a foundation for engaging conversations.
12. Be attentive
Small gestures of thoughtfulness can go a long way. Listen to what she says and remember important details. For example, surprise her with a small gift that matches her interests, or offer to help her when she needs it. It can be as simple as sharing a YouTube link that she can use.
13. Take charge
Women love men who take initiative. Show initiative by planning a creative and original date . Take charge and organize something that suits her personality and interests. Whether it’s a picnic in the park, an art exhibition or an adventurous activity, show her that you want to make an effort for her.
14. Keep it mysterious and intriguing
Keep her curious by adding a touch of mystery. Don’t tell her your whole life story at once, but gradually reveal interesting and fascinating aspects of yourself. Leave her wanting more information, like a mysterious puzzle she wants to solve.
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15. Take care of your personal style
Clothes can be a statement that draws attention. Pay attention to your personal style and always make sure you look your best. Don’t go out if you’re not in top form. That is, dress appropriately for the occasion, but also add a touch of originality to stand out.
16. Be a good listener
Listen actively to what she has to say, don’t interrupt her, and show understanding for her points of view. Let her know that her opinion is important and that you respect her as an individual. That doesn’t mean you have to be a yes-man – having your own opinion is just as important. However, listening well does show that you take her seriously.
17. Create a deep emotional connection
Women nowadays want to feel emotionally attracted to a man more than ever before. It is the modern age. Try to understand her inner world, show empathy and share your own feelings.
18. Give her space
Everyone values personal space, and women are no exception. So instead of being pushy, change the pace. By giving her the space she needs, she will be more attracted to you.
19. Be optimistic
A positive mindset and optimism can make you attractive to women. Show that you approach life with a positive outlook, even in difficult times. Radiant energy and a cheerful attitude are contagious and naturally draw people to you. Let’s be honest: who doesn’t love a positive vibe?
20. Give her sincere compliments
Women appreciate genuine compliments that focus on their personality and achievements. Instead of complimenting her on her appearance, come up with something specific and original. A well-placed compliment will have her thinking about you all day long.
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21. Show confidence in your body language
Your body language often speaks louder than words. Stand up straight, make eye contact and move with confidence. An open and relaxed posture exudes confidence and that makes you attractive.
22. Be a good friend
Most relationships don’t start with love at first sight. They start as a friendship . If you want to catch her attention as a potential partner, first set the stage for a solid friendship. Be there for her, listen to her, support her, and show compassion. But, this is important, don’t ignore the sexual attraction.
23. Be adventurous in your conversations
Avoid boring conversations and be adventurous in your conversation topics. Ask interesting questions, challenge her with crazy topics, and share your own adventurous experiences too. With a stimulating conversation you will keep her attention.
24. Respect her pace
Not all women are the same, and it is important to respect her pace. Be patient and do not force situations. Women usually need some time to feel comfortable with a man. It is up to you to help her with that.
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