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For every happy single who celebrates being single with #singlelife photos, there is someone who watches jealously from the sidelines. “If only I could do that,” this person thinks. But that is no longer possible. Because a relationship may add many extras to your life, it also requires the sacrifice of being single.
When you were single, you dreamed of waking up next to someone in the morning. But now that you wake up 5 times a day because your partner hits the snooze button, you miss being single. Did you give up your autonomy for it? Sacrifice your carefree existence? Being single has its advantages, but so does being in a relationship with someone you love dearly . And if you’ve experienced both, you know how it goes by now: the grass is always greener on the other side.
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16 Things People Miss In A Relationship
People who have been in a long-term relationship all recognize it. No matter how much you love your partner, there are always a few things you miss about being single. That doesn’t mean you want to be single again. Or that your relationship isn’t great. It’s just that you miss certain aspects of your past life. These are the things about single life that people in a relationship can start to miss.
1. Sleep alone
If you sleep alone now, it feels a bit strange. It may even feel like you are lying naked in bed, while you are actually wearing pajamas. But when you were single, it felt so wonderful. All the space, no snoring and no one to disturb you in your well-deserved night’s rest: you can start to miss sleeping alone.
2. Sleep in
Do you remember when you could stay in bed until 11am without anyone disturbing you? No one was moving in the bed to wake you up. No one complained about your absence during breakfast. Now you can be happy that your irritated partner doesn’t open the curtains, because “it’s time for you to get out of bed.”
3. That things are always in their place
If you live alone, everything stays exactly where you left it. If you live with someone, everything gets lost, from the remote control to the last chocolate bar you hid as a precaution.
4. Come and go as you please
It’s 11pm and a friend calls: “Come here too, it’s super fun.” You run through the house to quickly change clothes and off you go. You don’t have to tell anyone where you’re going. But now that you’re in a relationship, that unlimited freedom is gone.
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5. Do what you used to do
Every Tuesday night is a party: your friends come to play FIFA. Or in the female version: your girlfriends come to have a glass of wine. Carefree and without taking into account someone else’s agenda, you could cross off fixed days in your agenda: quality time with your friends.
6. Be self-sufficient
When you had done the laundry and ironed all your clothes, you hung them proudly in the closet. Well, that gave you a good feeling. But now that you are in a relationship, the tasks are divided so that you no longer have to do the laundry. That proud feeling that you had then, you no longer feel. And you have come to miss that.
7. Spending money recklessly
It didn’t take much to unleash your inner shopaholic . You spent money as if your wallet were a money press. And the more you spent, the happier you became. But now you can no longer spend on the things you want to spend money on. A shared bank account seemed so easy…
8. Prioritizing your own needs
When you’re single, you don’t have to consider the needs of others. You did what you felt like doing because it was about fulfilling your own needs . It was nice to prioritize yourself and ignore the needs of others. But now that you’re in a relationship that you care about, that’s no longer possible.
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9. Going out late
It was a regular occurrence: every Friday night transformed carefree into a wild night. You went out with friends until the early hours, preferably until the lights went on and then you took as long as possible over your last drink. Now you get up early on Saturday to do your chores and you think back to ‘the good old days’.
10. Have time for yourself
When children come into play, the game changes. The care is no longer for yourself, but for your children. It makes you forget yourself. There is no time for yourself. And you can miss that, because that time was there when you were still single.
11. Not having to “arrange” anything
When you were still single and took advantage of the benefits , you could immediately take advantage of a last-minute vacation that you saw in television commercials. You quickly packed your backpack with the essentials and went on a trip. Now you have to try to get yourself and your partner released and if you have children, things become even more complicated.
12. Eat whatever you want for dinner
In the evening after coming home from work, you opened a can of sausages, put them in the microwave for a minute and ate them in front of the television. Simple, not very healthy, but hey… it was good enough for you. There was no one ready to judge.
13. Flirting with others
You think back to the freedom you had when you were single. Without any sense of guilt, you could flirt freely , test your marketability, impress with your skills and act accordingly. It was all possible. Now you miss the adrenaline rush of exciting encounters, the novelty and excitement of these interactions.
14. No lack of space in the bathroom
In the bachelor life that you lived, you had all the space in the world. There was no shortage of storage space. The bathroom was orderly and neat. That gave peace. But now you are confronted with a jumble of care products every morning and you discover that a bathroom can never have enough space.
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15. The television for yourself
It was Saturday night. You didn’t have to go anywhere and you had no obligations. You watched television. No one bothered you. No one judged the romantic or gory movie you watched. Life was good . But now everything is different and you are happy to have the television to yourself for a while.
16. Have sex with whoever you want
While you partially give up your autonomy in a relationship, you commit yourself to monogamy. One relationship, one partner: no sex with others. And that is what many will miss when, after many years, they still show the same person every corner of the room . But because you would also like someone else’s opinion about the same angles, you may start to miss your single life.
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