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Whether he’s a coworker or someone who’s showing interest in a more friendly way, it can be challenging to gauge how a guy really feels about you. Some guys are hard to read. And if you don’t know exactly what to look for, it can seem like he’s sending mixed signals .
Men and their feelings
For men, it is not so easy to express their feelings. Although much has changed in the last decades, we still live in a society where men have to be masculine. Men who are vulnerable and express their emotions are not. In the worst case, they are labeled as ‘sissies’ or ‘weaklings’, while speaking openly about feelings is actually a sign of strength.
Because men are still expected in some circles not to be vulnerable, these men have difficulty opening up to others. And that is not so strange, if they have never been encouraged to talk about their feelings. Years ago, it was even worse, when men were even discouraged from doing so.
Men often tend to avoid vulnerable conversations because of this. They can get overwhelmed when they have to have difficult – in this case emotional – conversations. It’s intimidating. He thinks that showing his vulnerable side makes him weak. And if he’s shy or insecure, he’ll be even less likely to tell you how he feels about you.
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16 Signs He Has Feelings For You
Men are not quick to admit that they have feelings for a woman. Not in their environment, not to the woman in question. Again, men are doing much better than years ago. But it is one of the main reasons why he does not say in words what he feels for you. Men express their feelings more by what they do, than by what they say.
Even though he doesn’t tell you that he has feelings for you, he will do little things that he wouldn’t do for any woman. What he feels for you, he expresses through his actions and body language and less through verbal means. It’s his way of showing that he has strong feelings for you. Here are sixteen signs that he has feelings for you.
1. He stares at you
Men are visual creatures. If he has feelings for you, you will notice that he can’t take his eyes off you. Every chance he gets, he will look at you . If you catch him, he can’t help but smile at you. He looks you up and down, from every angle, and especially when you’re not looking at him. The look he gives you is not the look that makes you cringe. It’s an intense, deep look of desire.
2. He is not concerned with others
Men can’t multitask. Or rather: men who are in love with a woman can’t multitask. He has one task and he focuses on it completely. A proof that he has genuine feelings for you is that he is not busy with anyone else. He doesn’t flirt with other women , he is no longer active on dating apps and he also shows no interest in other women. His focus is you.
3. He always wants to be close to you
A man who has feelings for you wants to see you. He will try to be close to you. He will want to catch a glimpse of you if he gets the chance. He will want to talk to you if he can. If he gets the chance to do something with you, he will not let it pass. He does not even have to think about it for long. Whatever you ask him, he will say yes because he would take any opportunity to be close to you.
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4. He follows you everywhere
Wherever you are, he is. Of course, this has to do with the fact that he wants to see you. Does it seem like he always ‘coincidentally’ comes to the same places as you? It’s not a coincidence. It’s planned.
5. He comes close
Men show their feelings partly through body language. If he likes you , he will move closer – maybe even into your personal space. He will stand next to you, position his body towards you, and lean forward when he talks to you. All to close the gap between you and him.
6. He can’t say ‘no’ to you
A clear sign that he has feelings for you is his inability to reject you. He doesn’t want to and he doesn’t. In other words, he can’t resist your requests. As a result, you can always count on him. He would probably sacrifice things to fulfill your request because he has certain feelings for you.
7. He wants to know everything about you
To him, you are a mysterious thing that he wants to know everything about. What he feels for you, calls upon the detective in him. How can you be so interesting to him? He will ask you questions, many questions, to find out everything about you. It shows that he cares about you.
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8. He shows you his vulnerable side
As I said, many men are reluctant to show vulnerability. He is on his guard and doesn’t do that with just anyone. However, if he has feelings for you, he will show his vulnerable side. He might even open up to you and tell you things that affected him, how it made him feel, and how it made him feel. And that is rare for a reason: he has plans for you.
9. He texts all the time
You wake up with a good morning text and go to sleep with a good night message: he texts you all day long. If he has good news, you are the first to hear it. He doesn’t do it without reason. If he wants to know how you slept, how your day was and what you are thinking, then it is clear: he has feelings for you.
10. He’s nervous around you
Men in love are sometimes just like little girls. On the outside, he still seems the same tough guy, but on the inside he is giggling like a groupie who gets a kiss on the hand from a famous artist. Your presence gives him so many butterflies in his stomach that he can no longer control himself. And the fact that he wants to impress you makes sure that the nerves can take over. If a man is nervous when he is with you, then it is clear that he has feelings for you.
11. He wants to be your support and confidant
When a man has feelings for you, he wants to be there for you. He is willing to listen to your tirades and offer you support to process bad news. He wants to be the shoulder you cry on. He is there for you – wherever and whenever you want him to be.
12. He listens to you
He not only hears you, he listens. The subtle difference between hearing and listening is what makes the difference here. He will find something out for you, if you indicate that you are stuck. He gives you a gift based on a small detail that was discussed in a previous conversation. You know how he feels about you when he shows that he is really listening to you.
13. He doesn’t dare to say something
Because some men find it hard to tell you that they have feelings for you, you may find yourself in situations that feel a bit strange. For example, you may feel like he wants to tell you something, but he doesn’t. When you ask him about it, he says, “Oh, it’s nothing.” What’s really on his mind? How to tell you that he has feelings for you.
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14. He is protective
From the text message asking if you got home safely to the arm around you when you cross a busy street: he clearly shows that he wants to protect you. When a man does this, it is a clear sign that he has feelings for you. Even if he acts nonchalant about it, as if he does this with all women, that says a lot. Because men don’t do this with every woman. They only do it with women they like.
15. He is jealous
When you meet your male colleague in a café, you strike up a conversation. It means nothing to you – it’s really just a colleague. But one person isn’t so sure about that and even acts a little jealous. If a man has feelings for you, he can show both mild and severe signs of jealousy . He’s afraid that you like someone else more than him. And that makes him insecure. The reason is obvious: he likes you.
16. He involves you in his world
If you are involved in his life, that is a sign that he is sure about his feelings. He will introduce you to friends and family, take you to his sports community, and make plans that include you. That is what a man does when he has strong feelings for you. And the reason is clear: he wants to make you a part of his world.
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8 Signs He’s Not Romantically Interested in You
In addition to all the signs that say he has feelings for you, there are also a number of signs that indicate that he does not. Now, no man is the same and we can only assume the typical behavior of men in these situations. But if a man does the following, it could mean that he is not romantically interested in you.
1. He talks to you about other women
If he says he’s attracted to other women, he probably sees you more as a friend.
2. He doesn’t take initiative
When it comes to app contact and meeting up, you are the one who always takes the lead. Nothing comes from him. He does not text first and he does not ask you out on a date .
3. He just calls you a ‘friend’
For him it is clear: you are nothing more than friendly contact. He therefore regularly uses the word ‘friendship’.
4. He ignores you in public
He doesn’t come to you when you’re alone. He doesn’t make an effort to get closer. If he does, he’s probably not interested. The only exception to this is extremely shy men.
5. You only see him in groups
You only spend time with him as part of a group. He talks to you, but just as much as he talks to others. He doesn’t give you more attention than the other women in the group.
6. He doesn’t respond to (all) your texts
While you are eager to start a conversation, he remains short. As if you are chatting with a business WhatsApp account. If he is not spontaneous and responsive in texting you, he probably does not have feelings for you.
7. He can survive for a long time without contact
Whether you don’t contact him for a week or a month, he won’t care. This indifference usually has one reason and that is that he doesn’t have feelings for you.
8. He ignores offers to meet up
If you want to do something with him, his schedule is always full. And not only that, he won’t suggest another date. If he doesn’t make an effort to meet you, then you’re not worth it to him.
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