15 Signs That You Are No Longer Interested in Your Partner (or Relationship)

Most people love to be in love. Hours of telephone conversations, exciting apps and lots of fun dates : there are few people who don’t like that. But after the initial high of meeting a new lover, some feel restless and bored. They’ve learned to dream of a happily ever after with the one they love, but the reality is that relationships are often much messier than what we see in rom-coms and fairy tales.

It’s completely normal for the sparks to fade after that first intense spark. When the energy of a new connection wanes, everything just flattens out a bit. Desire wanes, novelty weakens, and routine takes over. As a result, all couples face their ups and downs. They grow closer and as the spark begins to fade they may lose interest in each other.

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15 signs that you are no longer interested in your partner

Losing interest in your partner or the relationship as a whole is never pleasant. But even though no one wants to experience it, it’s something most people go through at least once during the course of their relationship. Do you feel like the relationship is nearing the end, but you’re not sure? Are you no longer sure how you feel about your partner? These are 15 signs that tell you that you are no longer interested in your partner.

1. You don’t feel like arguing anymore

Having repeated arguments is of course not beneficial for a relationship. But if you never argue again because you simply don’t feel like it anymore, then this is also not a good sign. If there’s a disagreement and you don’t even bother to argue your point , chances are you’ve lost interest in the relationship.

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2. You see your partner more as a friend

If you start to see your partner as a loving friend instead of someone you are attracted to, this is a sign that you are no longer interested. You do spend time together in this situation, but when you do it is more as friends than as lovers. Of course, you don’t have to show affection all the time and not every date has to be hot and sexy, but if at some point you start interacting more like best friends, it’s a sign that the end of the relationship is near .

3. You forget to text back

Do you increasingly forget to respond to messages? Or do you often forget to call back? Then this shows that you are no longer interested in the person you always seem to forget. Because if you were, you wouldn’t be so lax when it comes to communication.

4. You no longer get excited when you see that person

You can’t expect to always feel butterflies in your stomach. But when you have completely lost interest, you no longer feel that excitement at all. At some point, being in love turns into loving, but this does not mean that you should no longer feel any excitement when you see the other person.

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5. You are no longer affectionate

You used to love to hug, kiss and hold hands. If you are no longer interested in your partner, you no longer feel the need to be physically intimate. It’s completely normal not to have as much sex as you did at the beginning of the relationship. But if you don’t have sex at all, that says something about the state of affairs.

No one says you don’t love your partner anymore. But if you find yourself cringing every time your loved one tries to be affectionate, it could indicate that your feeling is gone. Ask yourself: do you still love your partner romantically or is it platonic?

6. You forget what you are told

If you have trouble remembering important conversations or forget important dates such as anniversaries and birthdays, this is a sign that you are no longer emotionally invested in the relationship. You may not realize this yourself. It’s something your partner will point out to you because it’s becoming an annoying habit .

7. You don’t miss your sweetheart

Does your partner work a lot of overtime or does your partner travel? And do you barely notice that your loved one is gone? Or even worse: do you not miss your partner at all? It’s very healthy to spend time apart, but once you notice that you no longer miss the other person, this is not a good sign.

8. You feel lonely in the relationship

Are you together with your partner, but still feel lonely ? This often indicates a lack of connection. It may mean that you do not have such a strong bond or that you feel that you cannot be completely yourself with your partner.

9. You no longer make time for the other person

Do you notice that your agenda is always full of appointments and hobbies? It is of course fine to do many things separately, but there is a limit. When you are constantly busy and busy, you can no longer make time for quality time with your partner. Does this look familiar? It could mean that you do this unconsciously, because you no longer feel like spending time with your partner.

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10. You compare your relationship with others

It’s okay to look at your friends’ relationships. It can be quite educational to see how other couples deal with certain problems or situations. However, comparing it with your own relationship is not okay. If you continually notice that your own relationship is lacking what it needs, this is often a predictor of relationship problems .

11. You don’t think about the future

How often do you think about the future with your loved one? Do you plan years in advance or do you prefer to stick to a week? How you think about the future of the relationship says a lot about the interest you have in your partner. If you are in a stable relationship, you would think about the trips you would like to take (together), houses you would like to live in and what your relationship could look like one, five or ten years later. So if you look to the future and see your loved one as part of it, it might be best to move on.

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12. You don’t know what to talk about anymore

Every relationship has boring moments and you can’t expect to always have something to say. Silences are completely normal. However, it’s a different story when you start avoiding conversations with each other because you find them boring and mind-numbing. If you had a great day at work or a fun evening with your friends, you should feel the need to share it with your partner. And if you don’t ask your partner how his or her day was, then you are also missing some interest.

13. You don’t care anymore

Your partner asks where you want to eat or what movie you would like to see. The only answer you can give is ‘I don’t care’. Nothing interests you anymore and it doesn’t matter anymore. You’re checked out. It shows that you are no longer participating in the relationship. You don’t do this out of anger or frustration, but simply because you have lost interest.

14. You don’t smile anymore

A relationship in which there is hardly any laughter can never be good. You realize that a little bit, don’t you? Of course, after ten years of the same jokes, the shine wears off a bit. But sharing the same humor together is extremely important in a relationship. Laughing and having fun together provides relaxation and strengthens the relationship. If you can no longer laugh with or about your loved one, you have lost interest in your partner.

15. You think about contact with others

Have you been thinking about your ex more and more lately? Do you feel like flirting with others? Or do you feel the need to register with a dating app like Second Love ? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then it is clear that interest in your partner has disappeared. In fact, they are clear signals that you are done with the relationship.

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