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How wonderful is it to receive a compliment? Both giving and receiving compliments can be a nice feeling. Especially during a nice date, giving a compliment can significantly improve the atmosphere. But be careful: the key to giving a good compliment is spontaneity.
Giving compliments is not only good for the other person, but also for yourself and your connection. So why not give a sincere compliment more often? Remember that giving a compliment should be sincere and specific, otherwise it can backfire. So be creative and unique in your compliments and make it personal. We will tell you more about giving compliments on a date.
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Why give compliments?
Why would you do it, you might ask? Because it’s also a risk if you’re not sure if it’ll be appreciated. Well, it’s actually quite simple. Giving your date a compliment can really boost the mood and the conversation. And who doesn’t like a little extra positivity and appreciation?
Did you also know that compliments are not only good for the feeling of appreciation and self-confidence of the person receiving the compliment, but also for the bond between you and the other person? Research shows that giving compliments has positive effects on social relationships and can deepen these relationships. Compliments can also boost your own mood and self-confidence.
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13 Tips for Giving Compliments on a Date
When you are on a date, you want to make a good impression on the other person. You want to show that you are interested. Giving a compliment is an effective way to do this. But which compliments are best to give on a date? Here are some tips for giving compliments on a date.
1. Let the conversation guide you
Imagine you’re enjoying a drink and a nice conversation with your date. Suddenly you notice something that you really like. Maybe the other person has a beautiful smile and a nice set of white teeth. Or maybe the other person has great style. Or maybe your date said something that really made you think. These are the perfect moments to give a compliment.
2. Make it visual
Use vivid and evocative words to make your compliment extra powerful. For example, say something like, “Your smile is like a ray of sunshine on this rainy day” or “Your sense of style is like a work of art come to life.” As long as you say it in a playful tone, this can really lighten the mood.
3. Use all vowels
Not sure what to look for when giving a compliment? Think of all the vowels in the alphabet. These words that begin with the a, e, i, o, and u vowels describe the characteristics of a good compliment:
- authentic
- and strange
- in interesting
- o original
- unique
4. Tell what you like about the other person
Tell what you like about the other person, but not just physical features. For example, if you know the other person does volunteer work, tell why you like it and give a compliment that is not superficial. Be honest and do not say you like something if you do not. Instead, compliment the other person on his or her passion, for example.
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5. Don’t give too many compliments
Be moderate in your compliments. Giving too many compliments can make it seem like you’ve only ever dated inferior candidates. A good rule of thumb is to give no more than three sincere compliments on a first date, focusing on something unique about the other person that you like. Giving too many compliments can also signal that the other person doesn’t have to prove themselves, which diminishes your own value.
6. Be specific
When you give a compliment, be specific about what you like about the other person. For example, instead of saying “you look great,” you could say “I really like your new haircut.”
7. Be sincere
Compliments are best received when they are sincere. If you don’t really mean what you say, the other person will probably catch on and it could backfire.
8. Focus on personality and character
Instead of focusing solely on appearance, compliment personality and character. For example, “I love how passionate you are about your work.”
As a guy, you should avoid complimenting your date’s body, as this is often seen as inappropriate. Stick to the face and pick a feature of the face that you like. While it may be cliché to say she has beautiful eyes, it is still better than saying she has a ‘nice ass’.
9. Use humor
A compliment with a touch of humor can be a nice way to make someone feel good. For example: “You’re so funny, I wish I had a sense of humor like that.”
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10. Avoid comparisons
When giving a compliment, avoid comparing yourself to other people. It can unintentionally make the other person feel insecure and make the compliment seem less sincere. For example, don’t say, “You’re so much prettier than [name].”
11. Be respectful
Make sure you give your compliment in a respectful way. Avoid inappropriate comments, such as about the other person’s body, or sentences that are a bit rude.
12. Stay calm
When giving a compliment, stay calm and relaxed. It can feel awkward if you come across as overly enthusiastic or nervous.
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13. Also give compliments during the date
Don’t just give compliments at the beginning of the date, but throughout the evening. This shows that you are genuinely interested and appreciate the other person.
Which compliments not to use?
There are certain compliments that are best avoided, such as compliments that are too general, compliments that are too direct, money-oriented compliments, slimy compliments, insecure compliments, and ego-boosting compliments. Choose carefully and give a compliment that is sincere and personal.
- Too general: ‘You look really hot’
- Too direct: ‘Sexy ass, I’d like to slap it’
- Money-hungry: ‘It’s great that you’re doing that work! How much do you earn?’
- Slime: ‘I’ve never met anyone like you’
- Insecure: ‘I almost don’t believe you want to go on a date with me’
- Ego boost: ‘You are the most beautiful woman at this party’
All in all, giving a compliment on a date can be a great way to lighten the mood. It lets the other person know that you appreciate them. So, what are you waiting for? Give that compliment. But remember to give them in a sincere and appropriate way so that they really hold their value.
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