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You are intelligent, attractive and ambitious. But you have a big problem. After years of searching and dating, you still haven’t managed to find a man. You went to singles parties, let your colleagues set you up with people you didn’t know, and you even tried online dating . Nothing seems to work. That’s why you’re starting to wonder if there’s something wrong with you.
In the meantime, you have started to focus on your work. At least then there is something in your life that you can be proud of. You spend your free time on the things that you like. But still, the lack of a partner continues to gnaw at you. Why can’t you find a man?
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Why You Can’t Find a Man
Despite the fact that everyone is unique, there are a number of reasons why some women can’t find a man. From low self-esteem to bad timing, there are dozens of possible reasons why things aren’t working out. Which reason applies to you? Only you can answer that. In any case, these are the most commonly cited reasons why you can’t find a man.
1. You have high standards for a partner
Many women have a list of requirements for their ideal partner, such as a certain education, job, appearance or personality. What requirements do you have for a partner? Are they really deal breakers if a man doesn’t meet them? If these requirements are too high, it can be difficult to find someone who meets these criteria.
2. You’re too picky
With all the choices you make every day, you’ve become accustomed to the abundance of choices. The problem is, when you have too many options, as is common on a dating app, it can be hard to make a decision. Why? Because you’re afraid of making the wrong choice or missing out on a better alternative. The result is that you become so picky that you’re often unhappy with who you meet.
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3. You are always looking for something better
To continue this, having many options can lead to the tendency to “shop” for a partner. You are constantly looking for something better instead of being satisfied with the one you can get. This can lead to a recurring pattern of breakups and unhappy relationships.
4. You lack self-confidence
Do you quickly feel inadequate when you meet a man? Or do you quickly think that he is out-of-your-league? If you suffer from low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence, then not only can finding a man be difficult, but keeping him too. Especially when it comes to dating, low self-confidence can lower your chances of finding a partner.
5. You are too busy
With work, with other commitments, with everything going on in your life. With all the other priorities, you don’t have the time or energy to date. You’re too busy and it’s getting in the way of your love life. It’s holding you back from finding a man.
6. You have unrealistic expectations
With all the candidates you’ve spoken to on dating apps, you may have unrealistic expectations of a partner. The sheer number of candidates can make you think you can find someone who is perfect in every way. But this is not the case. No man will be perfect for you. If you hold on to unrealistic expectations, you are setting yourself up for disappointment and dissatisfaction.
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7. You don’t have the time or desire to socialize
When was the last time you said no to an invitation? Were you tired after a long day at work and would you rather spend the evening on the couch? If you don’t make the time or the desire to socialize, you’re reducing your chances of meeting someone. Keep that in mind the next time you turn down an invitation.
8. You are not socially skilled
Dating is a tricky social task. You start from nothing and hopefully end up in a relationship. Getting from one end to the other requires certain social skills. From listening and speaking during a conversation to presenting yourself and taking initiative, if you’re not good at these, you may find it hard to date successfully.
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9. You don’t have enough self-knowledge
Do you really know what you want? Do you know what mistakes you have made before and how you have learned from them? If you do not have enough self-knowledge, then you do not know. Self-knowledge makes it possible to learn from your mistakes and to search more specifically (and better) for a partner who suits you. It gives more direction to the search, because you know what you want and expect from a partner.
10. You lack empathy
Some women, like some men, lack empathy. You don’t try to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, which makes it hard to sense what a man is going through when you’re dating him. This makes it hard to connect with men because you don’t understand what he’s feeling.
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11. You don’t communicate well
Bad at communicating with men? This can make your conversations with men difficult, awkward or even unpleasant. It can lead to misunderstandings, lack of understanding and disagreements. If conversations with men never go smoothly, you may therefore have difficulty meeting and dating new men.
The reason why someone is single and can’t find a man varies from person to person. Some women can’t handle men, others don’t make themselves available to meet men, while other women are too demanding. And usually there’s not just one reason, but multiple reasons that are connected. If you want to do something about it, keep that in mind.
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